Teresa Giudice Says Melissa Will ‘Spin It’, Cheatergate, So That It’s All Teresa’s Fault; Melissa Gorga Takes Another Dig at Joe Giudice’s Mother
Teresa was shocked to hear what was said about her.
By Teresa Giudice
July 22, 2013
There are no words. No words. I wouldn’t wish this situation on my worst enemy. This was not a fun episode to watch mostly because I was hearing the things my family was saying about me behind my back for the first time. Richie, really? Melissa, really? This is how you talk behind closed doors? You see how me and my husband talk. No bashing. Never have.
I have to say for all Melissa’s accusations, you have never heard me call her a gold digger, a stripper, or a cheater because I never have. Not once. (If I had, you know it would be played back over and over.) But I couldn’t list all the things she has called me and my husband. Did she really whine through an entire blog because Joe called her a “horsey face”? He said my brother was a “dum dum” this episode, so I can only imagine what’s coming. Alert the tabloids!
In five seasons, no matter how much people have tried to get a rise out of me, I have never ever laid a hand on someone. Melissa, not so much. First her own son’s Christening it looked like she was kicking people, then she goes after her brother-in-law, and I didn’t even see until I watched the episode that it looked like she wanted to charge me when I was leaving. And I’m the animal? OK.
I lost count of how many names Melissa called me over the last two weeks but I could care less what Melissa says to me. Call me every name you can think of (or if you can’t think of any, just keep calling me the same one over and over). It’s my brother’s words that hurt. We grew up in such a house of love with the utmost respect for each other. He never called me names. Never. And suddenly now he calls me these terrible things in front of the whole country. It’s confusing and hurtful and it breaks my heart. But still, I can’t hate him. I’ve never hated him.
I don’t know why he has so much hate inside him. My husband isn’t full of hate like that. Maybe Joey and Melissa need to drink Fabellini more often. I don’t know. I can’t wait to hear what the secrets to her hot and happy marriage are when her husband is running around this angry attacking people all the time… He’s either angry or he’s crying… Will there be a chapter on what to do when your husband cries in bed? How can you see your husband hurting like that and not want to fix it?
Of course I did not want to see my brother and my husband fight. Once my brother started calling me names, I went to get Joe to leave. Not so that Joe would do something. Melissa seems to forget she called Joey last year at the fashion show for exactly that reason, so he would come and fight. I didn’t want it then, and I didn’t want it now. I just wanted to leave. I was done.
I was very proud that my Joe walked in the room and asked for an apology. He didn’t call anyone names. As soon as Joey charged him, Joe was figuring out the safest way to hold Joey off. If there was ever a “safe” fight for my brother to be in, it’s with my husband. He would never hurt my brother. Joey knows that and Melissa knows it too. Why she was acting all hysterical was insane to me. I get that if Joey was fighting with a stranger, she might be afraid for him, but not with my husband. Then, you should definitely jump in and try to stop it, Melissa! When he’s being an idiot with my husband, you can let them be.
I did run to get security to break it up, but I got back to the room before they did. And I broke up the fight right away. How is that? There were 4 people there trying to “break it up” but only I could do it? Seems to me they weren’t really trying to break it up, they were also attacking my husband. Poor guy!
I had no idea that Melissa felt so strongly about my cookbooks and my products. I guess that explains why she never publicly supported me even though I supported her. I do them because food is what I know best and it makes me happy. It’s sad that she feels the need to belittle me for doing what makes me happy and trying to make a better life for myself and my family. Although I’m sure it’s somehow my fault anyway.
I have nothing else to say except that I can’t wait to see how Melissa will spin this. Here’s a free hint: it’s all my fault.
Melissa opens up about the Joe vs. Joe fight.
By Melissa Gorga
July 22, 2013
Hi everyone. I hope you are enjoying your summer. I can’t believe we are almost half way through! I know these last few episodes have been very dark, but we had to go through what you are seeing to get to a better place.
When Teresa went out and told her husband what her brother called her, Joe Guidice came flying into the ballroom yelling and aggressive. Ten years of hurt and anger in my husband just exploded. He had reached his breaking point. Joe Giudice immediately demanded an apology when his wife was called “scum.” I wonder how he would have reacted if his wife were called, say, “stripper,” “cheater,” “skank ass beotch,” or “horsey face.” How about if he were called “pussy whipped” or that he “took it up the a– with a strap on?” Joe said one word — one syllable — to his sister, right to her face, not behind her back or using other people to speak for him, and look at what happened?
The fight was about anger, frustration, and resentment. We held it in for so long that eventually we just broke down and couldn’t take it anymore. What Joe was trying to explain to his family is that when you speak negatively about his wife, it is disrespecting him. From the past few seasons, I think it’s clear that neither Teresa nor her husband will ever understand that.
When the brawl started, I just reacted and jumped in to break them apart. I’d jump in front of a moving train for my husband and kids. If my family is threatened in any way, you couldn’t drag me away. Watching the fight last night, I think I confirmed my take on marriage. It’s about love, honesty, passion, respect, and loyalty. Loyalty means you stand by your man and defend him in a fight. You don’t take off and blame others later.
Even though Joe Giudice might have deserved to get slapped for the things he’d said about me, I really wasn’t trying to hurt him. I just wanted to get them off of each other. It’s pure instinct to try to help your loved ones when you feel like they may be in danger. I was in Mama Bear mode. The claws came out. I might be small, but I can and will do anything to protect my husband from people who tried to do him harm, physically and emotionally.
Immediately after the fight, Joe was devastated. He knew that his sister and her husband would spin the fight their way and he was upset he let it get that far. He was right. Teresa told Joe that she was the one that had to go in there and break up the fight! Really? She wasn’t there! Whatever her excuse will be, the fact is she ran in the opposite direction when her husband and brother were trying to kill each other.
It was agony to watch my husband cry. Joe is a passionate, sensitive man. He really felt destroyed over what just happened. The suffering had to stop. I was desperate to separate him from the source of the pain and get out of there.
After the fight, Teresa came to our room. She asked to talk, and Joe said “no.” She then asked me to leave my husband alone with her. I said “no.” I know my husband and we all needed to cool down. I’d say we should have slept on it, but Joe and I didn’t sleep a wink that night. We were too upset. Joe was a wreck. He could barely speak and I was shaken up watching him.
Now I know that while we were crying, devastated, and embarrassed over in the other room, nothing but giggles and Fabellini toasts. The Giudices must have felt like what just happened was no big deal. They were having sexy time in the hot tub. Hey, whatever floats your boat. I wonder what Filomena “too much boobie” Giudice would say about her son and daughter-in-law’s Jacuzzi action and his “I’m going to jerk off”?
The next morning we felt more done with trying to repair our relationship with Teresa then we ever had. I said some not nice things about Teresa’s brands. I “eggmit” it. She’d thrown mud on my projects for years, especially my singing — her rendition of “On Display” at the reunion was unforgettable. Multiple times she said I lip sync and even my nieces have repeated it. As I’ve said before, tit for tat will not get us anywhere. Two wrongs don’t make a right. When I am wrong, I say I’m wrong.
I know I’m being a bit of a hard ass this season, but I just can’t be fake. Watching your husband so upset would make any women see red. I toughened up for him. He needed to be strong for our family, and I needed to be strong to back him up. At this point, I was beyond fed up. I had lost hope and believed that the nonsense was never going to end.
As you can see, I might have had the right idea. Just last week in her blog, Teresa outright threatened us saying I am “very, very lucky that [she’s] keeping quiet about the things [she] does know” about me and my marriage. I thought we are supposed to be in a better place? This is exactly why I didn’t want to just put on a fake smile and pretend that we could snap our fingers and the animosity would disappear. Teresa can threaten me all she likes. All day long, or all night in the hot tub. In fact, I beg her to write in her blog what she “has.” What lie is up her sleeve? I’m dying to know. Do share with us all, Teresa. It’s been open season on me for a while. You might as well bring it out. I’ve been called everything under the sun. What else you got? I can’t wait to hear directly from you, not others.
Obviously, I’ve had to toughen up for a reason. I thought staying at the castle and more talking would only make things worse. It would take a miracle to change my mind, and turn things around. Maybe that miracle is Dr. V. She was very pretty and didn’t look like a saint, but God worked in mysterious ways.
Melissa Gorga Takes a Dig at Joe Giudice’s Mother; Teresa Giudice Says Her Brother Projects His Guilt onto Others (Updated 7/25/2013)
“As far as what Victoria Gotti said on the episode, I think it was completely unnecessary, and as a fellow Italian woman, we all know to speak about someone’s mother in a negative way is a BIG no no! I adore Teresa and Rino, and I feel for them with what was said.” – Melissa Gorga’s Season 6 Bravo Blog, Victoria Gotti’s Big No No, August 25, 2014
The Giudice family does not like Melissa Gorga, and the feeling is mutual. In season 5 episode 4, Juicy Joe’s mother responded to Teresa bringing up Melissa’s advice book on how to have a real and sexy marriage by saying:
“Does she dress up with the mini shorts and (pointing to her chest) all open here … when you dress up like that, you look like a prostitute.”
Melissa addressed the comment in her Bravo blog for the episode by saying:
“What I don’t understand is why on Earth would Joe Giudice’s mother want to spend her de-stressing pedicure time talking about me and how I dress? I wonder if she is regretting that statement now that she sees Teresa’s bubbies have been on display all season long.”
The discord between the two extended families probably started at the Christening, which was filmed in October 2010 and aired during the premiere episode of season 3, Melissa and Joe Gorga’s first episode as cast members on RHONJ. They introduced themselves to viewers by starting a brawl at their youngest son’s Christening.
On October 27, 2010, Melissa’s camp fed a story (it has her name written all over it) to RadarOnline, accusing Joe Giudices’s mother of throwing the first punch:
In a shocking development, RadarOnline.com has learned Teresa Giudice‘s macho husband Joe wasn’t the one who put up his dukes first during the big brawl with his brother-in-law over the weekend. It was his mom!
“There were no punches thrown other than by Joe Giudice’s parents,” a source, who was at the baptism reception in New Jersey, told RadarOnline.com exclusively.
“There were rumors that Joe Giudice hit Joey Gorga and it’s not true. He did try to swing at him but there were too many people holding them back so they couldn’t get to each other,” the eyewitness said. “Joe did not hit Joey Gorga.”
Another source said Joe’s mom picked up an object and came after Melissa and her sisters. The source added that the husband of one of the sisters was also punched. “He’s okay,” the source said.
Others have also agreed the altercation was “definitely” the Giudices’ fault. “It was disgusting,” another eyewitness told RadarOnline.com.
“We were all having a good time, it was beautiful, and all hell broke loose,” the eyewitness said. “It got very uncomfortable and dangerous and we all left. It was a blatant disregard for children. It was just crazy, from the language to the gestures, the breaking of glass, cameras being smashed.”
Eyewitnesses suggested that Teresa instigated an argument and was jealous of all the attention on her brother and sister-in-law, which was caught on camera for the next season of the Bravo reality show.
“All eyes were not on Teresa and it was obvious she couldn’t handle it. It wasn’t about her. She acted as plastic and fake as she normally was and she had her edge her way in there. She was warned to take her seat and she kept insisting and antagonizing.”
On July 11, 2012, a “source” for Reality Tea said that “Melissa’s sister accused Joe’s mother of pulling her hair at the Christening, and that didn’t sit well with the Giudice side at all.”
On July 25, 2013, Teresa’s friend and co-writer of her cookbooks, Heather Maclean, tweeted that Juicy Joe’s mother was attacked at little Joey Gorga’s christening in the opening episode of season 3.
According to a former post production supervisor, the Christening brawl in October 2010 was must worse than what was televised, with extended family members (probably on Melissa’s side since nothing this bad had happened before the Gorgas joined the show) attacking cameramen and throwing their cameras across the room:
“The Christening was much worse than what was shown: the extended family didn’t want anything on camera, so what you don’t see is family members getting violent with the crew and grabbing their cameras and ripping microphone packs off and throwing them across the room. It was chaos.” – Former RHONJ Post Production Supervisor, September 17, 2012
I suspect bad blood between the Giudice family and the Marco family started at the Christening, and has only gotten worse since then. It is obvious there is no love lost between Joe Giudice and Melissa Gorga. Joe Gorga and Joe Giudice used to be close, but that is no longer the case since Joe Gorga unequivocally defends his wife’s, and her family members’, actions (they are his “real” family, as Melissa’s sisters like to claim).
The following are Teresa Giudice’s and Melissa Gorga’s Bravo blogs for season 5 episode 4.