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Is Melissa Gorga Advocating Marital Rape in Her Book, “Love Italian Style”?

September 24, 2013

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Jan Marie DeDolce, Melissa Gorga’s former best friend and bridesmaid, who has known her for 12 years, told AllAboutTRH that she witnessed Joe slapping Melissa on her face because she was dancing with one of his friends:

“Listen, they couldn’t ever leave each others’ side. They were always trying to hook me up with one of his friends, because Melissa wasn’t allowed to go out without him. This is why it was a surprise to me, how she got out that night for Sushi Lounge. I think he was going somewhere. He’s very jealous. He slapped her on the face one time because she was dancing with his one friend down the Jersey shore. He got mad at her because she was dancing with his friend and he thought she was flirting. She was dancing with him trying to be friendly, and Joe didn’t like that. So, when they left the club, when we got in the car together, he smacked her on the face.”

Joe shoved Melissa at both the season 3 Christening brawl (episode 1) and the season 5 Lake Geroge brawl with Juicy (episode 8). Plus, at Lake George, after the brawl, when they were back in their room, Melissa made an odd statement to Joe about being “done” and said, “Those three babies are mine too.”

“No more of this fixing! This is my family too. Do you understand me? Those three babies are mine too. I’m done! They’re not normal. I don’t care.”

I only read chapter one of Melissa’s book, which her publisher released online for free in early August 2013, so I can’t attest to how she describes her marriage, which was covered in later chapters. However, I read an Amazon review of her book where the reviewer described Joe as “extremely controlling” and said that Melissa “gives many examples of his jealousy, his childish ways, his temper, and his high expectations.” The reviewer also wrote:

“I found myself feeling sorry for Melissa throughout most of the book. She describes her husband’s expectation of sex, every other night, or 3 to 5 times per week. He’s told her that his semen is like a poison inside of him that needs to be released for both emotional and health reasons. Joe’s love is based upon many conditions and Melissa has come to believe that even letting her husband know that she has a bowel movement might make her less sexy in his eyes.”

On September 24, 2013, Jezebel reported that Melissa’s book “advocates marital rape,” and said that “the amount of sexism, gender essentialism, and caveman logic within its pages is so appalling that it’s difficult to believe that her book is anything but a cry for help.”

The Jezebel reviewer said that “Joe constantly interjects throughout with his own opinions on how women should behave; and his are perhaps the most egregious passages in the book, particularly his thoughts on sex.” In the book, Joe wrote:

“Men, I know you think your woman isn’t the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says ‘no,’ turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated. Women don’t realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.”

After reading Jezebel’s report, it occurred to me that it’s possible Melissa wrote the book knowing Joe would come across as a controlling asshole, and she planned for her book to be a testament to why she had to leave him and take their children with her.

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UPDATE 9/26/2013: Many other media sources have picked up on the story that originated with Jezebel.

‘Real Housewife’ Melissa Gorga’s New Book Advocates Marital Rape
By Tracie Egan Morrissey, Jezebel
September 24, 2013

Real Housewives of New Jersey star Melissa Gorga has written an advice book, Love Italian Style, for people who want a marriage as hot and happy as the one she has with her husband Joe. Her entire ethos on the subject boils down to this sentence:

“Husbands want their wives to submit; wives want our husbands to dominate.”

The amount of sexism, gender essentialism, and caveman logic within its pages is so appalling that it’s difficult to believe that her book is anything but a cry for help.

It’s very clear—from her anecdotes, observations, and tips—that she’s married to a controlling asshole that barely views her as human, let alone an equal. He won’t “allow” her to go on overnight trips without him, he has a say in the clothes she wears, didn’t want her to get a job (even before she became a mother), and he has gotten violent when Melissa does things that he doesn’t like.

Joe—Teresa Giudice’s brother—seems to restrict any expression of individualism or independence on her part—including this book. He constantly interjects throughout with his own opinions on how women should behave. His are perhaps the most egregious passages in the book, particularly his thoughts on sex.

Men, I know you think your woman isn’t the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says “no,” turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated.

Women don’t realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.

That is rape and it is insane that it got past the publisher.

But even when reading the parts that she writes—and if there’s one nice thing I can say about her book it’s that she definitely wrote it!—it’s basically just a transcription of the “education” that he’s given her.

In the beginning, Joe wanted to have sex every single day, at least once, if not twice or three times…If I didn’t give it to him once a day, he’d get upset. I can do something that pisses him off on a Monday, but if we had sex on Sunday night, it blows over more easily. But if we haven’t done it for two days and I give him attitude? It could be a huge fight.

It’s kind of sad how she’s seemingly his sex slave.

Happy guys let more go. Issues get brushed off. Quickies count. Say what you want, but it’s the truth. [A] woman needs to keep herself in shape. She has to be seductive. She must be willing to try new things for her husband’s pleasure and her own. And, most important, she has to be available for sex. There’s real passionate sex and maintenance sex. You need them both for a healthy marriage. Maintenance sex keeps the wheels greased, the lines of communication open, and the fights to a minimum.

Under a section titled, “YOU CAN DO JUST ABOUT ANYTHING FOR TEN MINUTES,” Melissa writes:

Even when I’m exhausted and not really in the mood, if it means a lot to Joe that we connect physically, I’ll say, “I’m not so into it tonight, but let’s go.” If it’s a hard “no,” I try to be nice about it. Don’t swat him away, or say with a tone, “Leave me alone!” Eventually he will leave you alone at more than you wish he would.

Here’s a passage from Joe on why women are the reason that men cheat:

Refusing to initiate is a Top Three reason men cheat.

The ugliest girl in the world could come on to a man in that state of mind, and he might have to go for it. He thinks, At least someone wants me.

In another chapter, Melissa basically repeats his words:

The way I see it, if a wife is a puttana, her husband will never feel the urge to go outside the marriage to actual whores, or strip clubs. He won’t hit on women in bars, or drool over his friend’s girlfriends or the secretary. He’ll rush home to his wife, who makes sure he’ll have a good time (the best time) in the comfort of his own home.

She says as much about his “instruction.”

His style was to make corrections and to teach me from the beginning days of our marriage exactly how he envisioned our life together. Joe always says, “You got to teach someone to walk straight on the knife. If you slip, you’re going to get cut.”

Even if something didn’t bother him that badly, he’d bring it up. He wanted to make sure that I knew, for example, if I ran out to CVS and he came home from work to an empty house, he didn’t like it. He’d call me and say, “I don’t care if you’re out all day long. But I don’t want to come home to an empty house.

” A “Joement” on equality:

To be on the same level, everyone has to get off the high horse. I don’t care if the woman makes more money than the man, if he’s a janitor and she’s the president. After a fourteen-hour workday, if a man comes home and there’s no dinner on the table, and his wife is on the phone, watching TV, or on the computer ignoring him, he won’t feel respected.

His thoughts on childcare:

I don’t feed babies, or change the diapers. My father never wiped my ass, and I don’t wipe my babies’ either.

On double standards, parenting, and some more of his weird sex shit:

My sons can have a separate entrance to the house. They can come and go as they wish. They can have anyone up to their room. I don’t care. But I want to keep my Antonia my little girl. My wish is for her to have one boyfriend for a very long time. They have a mutual breakup with no bad feelings. Then she marries the next guy. That would be ideal. I don’t want her to ever have her heart broken. The only way I can see to helping her romantic life work out that way is be really strict and overprotective about who she sees, when she goes out, and what she does. I know it’s a double standard but I just don’t care! I don’t see it so much as restricting Antonia, but as protecting her.

Here is what Melissa tells herself (and her readers) about compromising yourself as a woman in order to please your man.

The routine of making dinner and keeping a clean house is how I stay grounded. It keeps me humble. Someone might look at Joe and think, “Chauvinist pig.” He sounds like one sometimes! They might look at me and think, “Throwback.” The way I see it, Joe is cleaning up messes at work all day long—things you can’t wipe up with a sponge. That’s his job. It’s my job to clean up spilled milk. I just do it. There is simply no point to arguing about something that requires all of five seconds of my time and next to zero energy.

The icing on the misogyny cake:

When gender roles are confused, sexual roles are, too. If he’s at the sink and then changing diapers, then who throws down in the bed? In our marriage, Joe is always the man, doing masculine things. I’m the woman, and I do the female things, including housework.

Melissa also recommends that you learn how to cook really really well, wear makeup everyday, shave your legs, watch your figure and go to the Burger King around the corner if you have to poop.

Girls don’t poop. Me, never have. Never will. It just doesn’t happen. Or, that’s what Joe thinks! We’ve been married for nine years, and he has never once seen or smelled my business. How have I pulled this off? I don’t do it when he’s around or awake. In an emergency, I have my ways of pooping so he won’t hear, smell, or see. It’s a challenge.

Some other random tips, regarding fashion:

[M]y first rule of fashion is a gimme: DRESS TO PLEASE YOUR MAN [T]he one thing I’ve come to realize is that I need to take Joe into account when I get dressed. I always wear what I want and what I like, but I also aspire to be eye candy for my husband.

Naturally, there is a double standard to this:

This is one street that doesn’t go both ways. If you notice, Joe never wears a wedding band. Joe has really chubby fingers (he will tell you so, too), and he thinks that a ring is the most uncomfortable thing ever. It used to bother me, but now I just tell myself that a wedding band is more of a chick magnet, kind of like a guy walking a cute dog or pushing a stroller.

On why your whore single friends are bad for your marriage:

Listen, we all love to hang out with our single friends. Who’s more fun? But, let’s call a spade a spade. You can’t make a habit of it when you are married. It’s always better for your relationship to go out with people who have more in common with you. You are less likely to get yourself in trouble…[T]oo many…”Girls’ Nights” with the single ladies can only lead to temptation.

On why being suffocated is good for a marriage:

Back in our early years, we’d go to the bar, and I’d make the rounds and talk to everyone. When we got home, Joe would say, “I feel like we didn’t hang out. Like you talked to everyone else more.” Now, you might think, “Why is he so needy?” He’s not. Joe doesn’t need me to hold his hand at a party. It’s about respect and loyalty…We arrive together. We stay near each other. We leave together.

How Joe keeps her in line:

Honesty can be flattering or instructive. It can also be brutal. When a man asks his wife to dress better or lose a few pounds, it can seem rude. I don’t take comments like that as insults. Honesty is always a compliment. When Joe speaks his truth, he’s giving me credit that I’m secure enough in myself to take constructive criticism.

If you haven’t caught on yet, this guy is a total fucking asshole. But wait, there’s more!

If he gets one ounce of flack from me, he flips a switch and goes off. I know it’s not really about me, so I don’t get riled up. I supposed I could get angry back him for getting the bulk end of his problems. But then again, that’s what a spouse is for. you get to release your stress on someone you trust, who you know won’t hold it against you. He’ like to yell at a colleague, client, or employee. But he yells at me and doesn’t screw up a business deal. I can take it.

There are several instances in the book where Melissa recounts Joe’s violent outbursts, not to call him out on it, but to explain how she learned to modify her own behavior because of it. One time he broke the baby’s highchair. Another time he threw a chair in the middle of a restaurant. It wouldn’t be a surprise if he’s put his hands on her. (One former friend recently gave an interview saying he has.)

In the book she often repeats the secret to a happy marriage is “about respect.” But it’s clear to anyone reading it that she’s truly confused about what that means or how to get it. It would all be funny if it weren’t so damn sad.

I used to want to hold onto my independence, even after we got married. I didn’t want to need anyone, not even Joe. Now, I know that it’s arrogant to think you don’t need anyone. Need is only a four-letter word if you don’t accept it as another one. F-A-C-T.

UPDATE 9/25/2013: Cosmopolitan magazine picked up on the story from Jezebel, and gave its own writeup, with the headline, “7 Terrible, Sexist And Dangerous Passages From ‘Real Housewife of New Jersey’ Melissa Gorga’s New Book.”


On Alisa Valdes’s Conflict With Feminism, Her Cowboy & Domestic Abuse

As the Amazon.com description of The Feminist And The Cowboy says, Valdes discovered ” “when men … act like men rather than like emasculated boys, you as a woman will find not only great pleasure in submitting to them but also great growth as a person.” Alas, it didn’t quite work out the way. In fact, following the publication of The Feminist And The Cowboy, Valdes has now come forward to say the cowboy raped and physically and emotionally abused her.

  1. MurfsGirl
    September 24, 2013 at 8:10 PM

    Sorry, re-posting under new blog –

    I have to ask…the Jezebel blog is damning…this is true…if you take the excerpts as perfectly reproduced (with all of the grammatical & spelling errors).

    However, could this possibly be a “media” brouhaha to get people to actually BUY the book to see if she really wrote this tripe?

    • September 24, 2013 at 10:53 PM

      No way-if this makes anyone want to buy this book-they need a LOT of help.

    • September 24, 2013 at 11:59 PM

      I was wondering if this just isn’t a media ploy, too. I think of Wyatt Webb, the cowboy therapist from Arizona, when he told TSIL (paraphrasing), “There’s a difference between being nice and being manipulative”. TSIL lies so much that it’s hard to believe what she says. I will say that she is very conceited and delusional that she might think her marriage “advice” will help other’s be just like her. She can make herself out to be the victim in any situation.

  2. Miami53
    September 24, 2013 at 8:12 PM

    Fame, I haven’t read this new story on your blog yet….but thanks so much for still posting things!!!!

    • September 24, 2013 at 10:54 PM

      Yes!! 🙂

    • September 25, 2013 at 12:41 AM

      Yes, Thank you very much. I understand you are not longer going to be researching the hwonj but it makes be so happy that your still posting about them

      • Anonymous
        September 25, 2013 at 10:20 AM


        • Happy Holly Daze
          September 26, 2013 at 2:33 PM

          mee tooooo fame… don’t forget me… I’m glad your still here too….. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo and one extra kissy…. X

  3. September 24, 2013 at 8:21 PM

    How proud her mother and sisters must be – as women.

    • hawaiigirl
      September 24, 2013 at 8:33 PM

      Ugh!! Meho & Midget creep me out. I can’t describe the feeling, but it makes me want to shave my tongue. That kind of creepy. Gah!!!

    • September 24, 2013 at 8:45 PM

      The Marco women – they got their hooks in TB, seeing him as a gravy train, and rode the tailcoats of their own sister. When Teresa landed on the RHONJ, Lysa kissed Teresa’s ass – gushed about how she spent time with her. Then TSIL got on and all of sudden, the Marco sisters are “stars” in their own right. On Twitter their big claim to fame is “sister of. . .” Kim advertises herself as being a Real Housewife for her appearance in the off-Broadway play in October.

      These women are all from the gutter – what is really sad is that they are proud.

      • September 24, 2013 at 11:00 PM

        I now think that maybe they are both worse than I thought. He seems to see her as nothing other than a sex-slave and she sees him as a paycheck. If she lost her looks or couldn’t have sex-he would be gone-if had no money-she would be gone. IMHO

      • Lenore
        September 30, 2013 at 1:17 AM

        A lot of people pull them selves up from poverty, it doesn’t mean they are from the gutter, how these women have attacked, humiliated, spread untruths, all in pursuit of money and fame makes them a particularly nasty variety of individuals who would be just as ruthless rich or poor. The moment they were willing to denigrate their fathers memory on national television said a lot about the length they were willing to go to have a little fame. Pathetic is the word I find most apt in their cases. Just pathetic. Teresa didn’t stand a chance in this den of snakes. I have not watched this show in 6 weeks, I come on here to find out the truth of what is going on. I find myself hardly watching BRAVO at all anymore. It is the same formula for every show! BORING!!!

  4. Luvfamewhorgas
    September 24, 2013 at 8:27 PM

    I see a Taylor in TSIL’s future. I see Taylor.

  5. September 24, 2013 at 8:31 PM

    She has more mental disorders than I have fingers. It does make you wonder if she wrote this book as something to fall back on when she leaves Joe, because nobody with a brain would actually want a marriage like this. She’s crazy like a fox, and she always seems to be one step ahead if us because she is street smart. how much you wanna bet some tycoon comes along to rescue her from this dreadful marriage. She can get a divorce spin off . It’s brilliant!!,,,,,,

    • hawaiigirl
      September 24, 2013 at 8:32 PM

      I think she wants that record producer from Orlando!!

    • September 24, 2013 at 9:09 PM

      so maybe carolwine got her vibes wrong when she said Teresa was going to do what gessiewtf wrote above

    • patriciafromco
      September 24, 2013 at 10:02 PM

      ohhh don’t insult the foxes lol …

  6. hawaiigirl
    September 24, 2013 at 8:31 PM

    Meho & Midget were on the talk show “Bethenny” today for a couples segment. I was embarrassed for them; they were terribe. And Meho totally had the hots for the black guy on her left. A mess. A damn mess. Did anyone else notice?

    • jennacheryl
      September 24, 2013 at 10:12 PM

      Sorry I can’t stand Bethany….she reminds me of a harder working Melissa

    • September 24, 2013 at 11:01 PM

      I wonder if there is a video of them on “Bethenny”? I watched the Dr. Oz video and I felt embarrassed for them! At the end of the Dr. Oz segment TB was acting cool and told TSIL to tell them, (the audience I presume?), about his “Joe-ments” in the book! That was so corny! TB is totally full of himself!

      • patriciafromco
        September 25, 2013 at 2:45 AM

        you can see a small clip of TB being asked about not changing diapers. TB tried to answer about he would , but TSIL is so fast to jump up to tend to the kids before he can.. Then TSIL jumped right over him and started quoting from her book totally degrading him sitting there..

        • September 25, 2013 at 3:40 AM

          Thanks, Patricia, I just watched the segment: http://www.bethenny.com/videos/0-3612mof8/. Nice how TB says he would like to have an “entourage” of kids! I guess he views his kids as his fans? I wonder if TB can ever talk without TSIL butting in? Which they contradicted themselves about changing diapers, TSIL says that TB puts the diapers on backwards with the tape going front to back! Uhh…the video title is “Joe Gorga says he never changed a diaper”! What fools these two are!

          • September 25, 2013 at 3:53 AM

            I think TSIL is so anally retentive and OCD that she can’t stand to have TB changing the diapers! It probably annoys the crap out of her! She probably brain washed TB into thinking that he’s too much of an old fashion man to change poopie diapers! That would sound better to him than admitting that his control freak of wife doesn’t like how he changes diapers!

            • Sackem
              September 25, 2013 at 8:01 AM

              I don’t think TSIL ever changed a nappy, my boyfriend Juicy on the other hand….

              • September 25, 2013 at 10:24 AM

                This is making Juicy Joe look really good!!!!!!

      • Jack Hole
        September 26, 2013 at 1:46 PM

        I think it is sad that they are having a forum vis a vis talk shows to push this trash!! I am totally wondering if Beth or Oz actually READ any of it…booo! I am a Bethanny fan of sorts, both of their stock (Beth and Oz) went down for me!!!!!!!!!!

        • Morgaine Swann
          October 5, 2013 at 6:32 PM

          I was a huge Bethenny fan until the divorce, after which I wanted to slap both of them. I haven’t watched her show, but I’d be VERY surprised if she actually read any of that stupid book. Those two are pathetic.

    • Sharon
      September 25, 2013 at 1:37 AM

      Yes, I noticed that the Gorgas seemed uncomfortable. I happen to like Bethenny. She has worked hard and done well.

      • Sharon
        September 25, 2013 at 1:52 AM

        Also, Bethenny actually asked them if they read each others phone msgs. They said they have each others phone codes. I think one of them, or both, said they never read the others cuz they trust each other…blah, blah, blah. But it was interesting that B asked that after it was reported that MeMe had read his msgs from other women not too long ago and she threw a fit. And this was just a day after Kathy Lee asked MeMe if all 3 kids were Joe’s.
        Looks like the tv hosts are up to getting some digs in. HAHAHA.

  7. September 24, 2013 at 8:44 PM

    I was so hoping you would mention this! I read the Jezebel article today and also checked out a few of the reviews on Amazon. The Melissa on the show is fake and the Melissa in the book doesn’t seem to be the real Melissa either. She’s up to something.

  8. September 24, 2013 at 8:59 PM

    Excerpts from Melissa’s Bravo blog for episode 17:

    The fact is I came onto the RHONJ scene talking about sprinkle cookies and re-done homes. How we got to gold-digging, stripping, and cheating is beyond me.

    For me it’s not so much about the actual rumors, because they are ridiculous and almost laughable. The people that came on the show to spread them when confronted and asked for proof have NONE. The people that shout from the rooftops on Twitter and in blogs, promising to “Bring the Truth” never do! Know this: if you were in my past, you remain in my past for a reason.

    What bothers me is why these rumors are even happening. I don’t get what strangers like Penny and Johnny gain by attacking me. I guess I’ll never understand. What I do know is that the sooner people stop worrying about exposing my “supposed past” and focus on what’s going on in their own lives, the happier they will be.

    As I’ve said before, when I decided I was going to let go of the past issues with Teresa, I pretty much knew what I was moving on from, and at this point I don’t really care. I don’t think I’ll ever know exactly how everything came together, but I know in my heart whose hands are dirty.

    The vocal coach was such a sweetheart. He had to cram weeks of training into a few hours. The pressure was on to impress him and Johnny. The coach asked me to sing every note on the regular scale and I did it perfectly. When he pushed me to sing as high as I possibly could I cracked and that is what you saw.

    • September 24, 2013 at 9:37 PM

      hmm very telling blog this week from tsil. where do i begin…rumors and people promising to bring the truth but never bring it? you calling bulldog out messy? never mind he has his OWN health crisis to deal with and you are on a back burner so to speak, ( and that is going out on a looong limb. heck that burner probably isnt even turned on in bulldogs world…hes got bigger fish to fry, and i mean taking care of himself and his health first. his main priority as it should be!) she mentions about penny and JTG attacking her for no reason( refresh my memory isn’t penny and bulldog friends? or no?) if penny and bulldog do not know each other, then how can you explain jan? your ex-BFF? and a.arater, duh messy you tried to sic your legal army after him that is why he hasn’t brought it, you stupid stupid girl. and they are in your past for a reason…they were smart enough to get the hell out of dodge~! you were going to let go of past issues with tre, you pretty much knew where they were coming from?? you know in your heart whose hands were dirty??? ahhhhh justify your snark and bitterness you had for tre? with bravo’s editing to make tre the villian again, oh dear missy you have been vindicated the victim once again. you must be in hog heaven. too bad this broad and many many others have your number as a pot stirring gold digging skank from day one. i agree with others, johnny could be this richer man to save her from her cave-man like male dominated marriage she is in with TB. the digust she has when he tries to come on to her, it is sooo obvious, she doesn’t even try to hide it! the statments of missy writing this book as proof or a paper trail of the mental abuse and dominance she had to endure and try to up her chances in cleaning house in a probable divorce is not that far fetched.. in fact who originally said this, fired an arrow and hit a bull’s eye

      • September 24, 2013 at 10:02 PM

        Johnny Wright is married to a beautiful, smart woman. (I did just a little research, she is from Louisiana.) I doubt Johnny is interested in Melissa. cguierok, I have stated several times before infidelity is very, very hard to prove. Who brings a camera?

        • patriciafromco
          September 24, 2013 at 10:10 PM

          looks like Johnny is going for the promotion exposure of his event…

          • September 25, 2013 at 8:26 AM

            That’s my thoughts, or doing a favor for a friend at Siren.
            As a vocalist myself, Melissa’s “singing” scenes nearly sent me over the edge. A professional singer does not need to apologize, giggle, pretend they have a cold or compalin about feedback in the booth…or start over a million times when they cannot hit a note. Vocalists/singers use big girl words to explain that they are tight or need to warm up, and if the note is unattainable, you see a vocal coach pronto. A pro knows that a vocal coach is an important tool of your trade, not someone you are embarrassed of because it means you cannot sing. If you can find it, there is a scene in one of the Braxton Family shows where Tamar is worried about being consistent on ‘Love and War’, so she goes to see the family vocal coach. And Tamar is a top notch singer who knows how to use a coach to her advantage.
            I think Melissa was worried the vocal coach would immediately know she is terrible. And he did, but was too professional (and paid either way) to say anything.
            In Melissa’s case, she cannot sing, and so the only thing the vocal coach can do for her is recommened the producer use a slathering of Pro Tool on that jacked mess.

        • September 24, 2013 at 11:05 PM

          truth be told i doubt johnny thinks of missy like THAT> the comment i wrote about johnny being the one to rescue her – i should have added ( only in her dreams!)

          • Sharon
            September 25, 2013 at 1:56 AM

            Sorry this may not be the place to ask but what was that rumor on a blog that it was Johnny who just bought their “mansion” from them? Is that true?

            • September 25, 2013 at 10:14 AM

              Hi Sharon, I also read the same rumor. I have no idea if it’s true or not. I also read that they had been leasing their mansion from the bank for the last year or so. Again, have no idea if it’s true or not.

              • LilyM
                September 25, 2013 at 10:28 AM

                What I read was they were banned from the house because of the bank requested! That may explain why there was no filing on the house, just a few, and on the front, is not hard to believe, if you are like they are putting so much energy on material shit, they would have been showing off the house, and for three seasons nothing just the same rooms, and did you notice last week on the recording segment on “her studio” the basement was a complete mess, it wouldn’t be a big deal but she has said over and over that she as OCD or something!

                • September 25, 2013 at 11:32 AM

                  Yes Lilly You made a very good point. Maybe her OCD claims are just more of her lies. I don’t know what happened to their house, but I have no doubt they were forced out of it for some reason. (and not because she didn’t want her kids going to school with Teresa’s girls) That comment was something she made up in her sick mind because she knew they would be kicked out of that home sooner or later.

                • Sharon
                  September 25, 2013 at 1:29 PM

                  The butthead said they were taking the studio with them to the new house. We saw the pic of the moving van on the Bravo site. Of course they got free moving for showing the sign on the side. Maybe someone knows the movers and can ask them if the studio was moved.

                  • September 25, 2013 at 1:58 PM

                    I don’t know much about recording studios, so please correct me if I’m wrong. Doesn’t a sound studio need to be sound proof. Since they are only renting this home, wouldn’t they need to do some construction to make a sound studio? First of all, if the landlord gave them permission, why would you go to the expense if your only renting. I could be wrong but this sounds like another one of her lies.

            • September 26, 2013 at 6:18 AM

              Well the house was sold on the 20th of august but there are still no public records up at realtor. Don’t you have like 30 days in the us to finalise sale? I don’t think the house was sold.

              • Sharon
                September 27, 2013 at 8:18 PM

                Oh really. That is very interesting.

        • Honnie Badger
          September 25, 2013 at 8:50 AM

          I’m just curious as to the size of the paychecks Bravo gave to this Johnny Wright dude. Obviously, it’s enough $$ for him to embarrass himself on national TV.

          • September 25, 2013 at 2:04 PM

            Honnie, no doubt in my mind that Johnny is getting something out of this and it must be big for him to put his name out there for someone like Melissa who has no talent.

        • GrisGrisx3
          September 25, 2013 at 10:42 AM

          Mais Cher! Melissa wouldn’t stand a chance with a Louisiana girl. For lawd, everybody knows (insert Phadedra voice here) you do not mess with a Southern girl’s man!

        • Confused
          September 25, 2013 at 3:44 PM

          Well, I think that the jury is still out on the “smart woman” thing, while I don’t know her personally, I certainly do know her mother…..remember her from the Lee Z exposes? (and she was married to my father-in-law’s cousin).

      • jennacheryl
        September 24, 2013 at 10:24 PM

        Well said

      • LilyM
        September 25, 2013 at 10:05 AM

        I was thinking this while reading TSIL blog, nail it with your comment, cgiuerok!

      • September 26, 2013 at 10:56 AM

        Funny how she says that no one has proof or brings the truth but the reason that the PROOF hasn’t gotten out is because she & Joe & Bravo try to file lawsuits against everyone. Nothing can come out until the lawyers are done haggling. Why would she have had her lawyers go after A. Arater if he didn’t have proof or wasn’t telling the truth. She sent her lawyers after him because she & Joe both know that he is telling the truth!

    • September 24, 2013 at 10:32 PM

      I would assume that most guys who are getting a quicky blow job in the back seat of a Ford
      Fiesta aren’t snapping pictures of it with their I phone unless they want their balls bitten off by a married whore. Yes, my friends, we can freely call her a whore as she refers to herself as one in her book. she is so f***£ing stupid that she does not realize that putanna has a terrible complex meaning in Italian. She is actually calling herself something worse than the c word.

      So, yeah Melissa there is no proof other than the people who saw the car shaking like a blender. and they have already spoken and you did not deny it. you just turned the conversation to Teresa because that is what you are trained to do by production. you sing like shit. And your own husband doesn’t trust you to go to CVS to get tampons. because he met you in a strip club. which is why you come across in your idiotic book as someone who knows a lot about pretending to want sex . you actually come across as more of a paid escort than a wife or mother of three children. Your advice sound like a manual one would hand to a whore in a brothel in the 1800’s. you moron. Why don’t you try to defend your sick and archaic views on Dr. Phil ? that I would pay to see. he would rip you to shreds.

      you are one of the most f ***uped people ever to darken our television screens. I’m so glad you are getting called out on writing one of the most ghastly books ever written. and to think you took Antonia on this book tour. the kid is scarred for life now. The only advice you are qualified to give is whether to spit or swallow. shame on you, shame on Bravoid and shame on McMillian. I hope enough people protest this rubbish on Amazon and they remove it from their site. I am going to write them and suggest that they pull this dangerous trash at once.

      And what is with the statement that says “People who bought this book also might like buttocks enhancing cream?” anybody else notice this? It should say people who bought this book also might like spray on hair and lip plumper for men. I don’t think it will be too long before Joey comes out as a cross dresser. only the Marqis De Sade could even begin to imagine wtf is going on in your house. get help.

      • Bullie
        September 24, 2013 at 10:39 PM

        Hahahha gessie you are the best.

        • September 25, 2013 at 8:28 AM

          omg gessie love ur post

      • Sackem
        September 25, 2013 at 7:57 AM

        You never let me down. I guess publishers are grasping at straws since the digital revolutipn came along….

      • BravoFan22
        September 25, 2013 at 10:29 AM

        Truer words were never spoken. I’m glad we are focusing on Melissa’s own words and not on Penny anymore. Penny is a trainwreck and a liar. Teresa filmed with her because she was forced to by contract. She was smart to keep saying she’s not my friend. I don’t know her. Now the show looks completely fake and it’s obvious what a production set-up the Penny b.s. was.

      • September 25, 2013 at 10:36 AM

        I love your posts Gessie! Thanks for the laugh…I needed one today!

      • NinaK
        September 25, 2013 at 12:59 PM

        Great post Gessie!

      • elemcee
        September 25, 2013 at 1:25 PM

        OMG! Shaking like a blender! My sides hurt! I gotta find a way to slip that into conversation…

      • September 25, 2013 at 2:10 PM

        love your posts, gessie. You have a good since of humor and quick witted.

        • September 26, 2013 at 4:03 PM


      • JUST ME P
        September 26, 2013 at 2:22 AM


      • pjbottoms
        September 26, 2013 at 12:27 PM

        @gessiwtf Love you! I can tell you are a little fed up?;)

        • September 26, 2013 at 4:05 PM

          Don’t get me started. This is as bad as one of those websites that advises young girls how to become and celebrate anorexia. That is how I really feel.

    • Sackem
      September 25, 2013 at 8:00 AM

      Ummm…. they have no proof themselves about Teresa but it never stopped the. You say tomato, I say tomato, lets call the whole thing off…. wait, does that work in text?

      • September 25, 2013 at 10:26 AM

        Love it

    • Autumn
      September 26, 2013 at 11:36 AM

      Mel omits the fact that her sisters and their allies were attacking Penny and Johnny MONTHS BEFORE filming ever started last year. This has been very well-documented and much info is available to verify.

      Why were the Marcos SO AFRAID of PDK six+ months before filming? So afraid of them they tried many dirty tricks to keep them away from filming?

      Especially if PDK was “trashing” Teresa ? Why try so hard to ruin the Greeks reputations? (I think they’ve been successful at it bc P/J take a ration of crap bc ppl believe what has been said about them. SO easy to twist facts to suit the story- on AND off camera.)

  9. NCGal
    September 24, 2013 at 9:00 PM

    I’ve thought for some time that Melissa is looking for an exit from her marriage.. She considers herself a “star” and let’s face it, Joe is no prize in any way, shape or form. She’s over him and surely feels she can do better without him. Sometimes when she looks at him, you can see disgust in her face, and let’s not forget how many times she told him he was stupid.

    He’s too dumb to see it. He has blinders on when it comes to her.

    Melissa will do whatever it takes to achieve fame and fortune. I don’t believe Joe Gorga is part of her plan, other than being a convenient starter marriage.

    • teramusique
      September 24, 2013 at 9:05 PM

      Joey wants to be a star too, probably just as desperately as she does. Neither of them could handle seeing Teresa’s rise to fame while they sat in a seedy town house

    • Saddle_River_NJ
      September 24, 2013 at 11:19 PM

      They are both disgusting and it seems each day we learn just how much more gross they truly are. The Gold Digging Skank seems to have always gone after big masculine men. Happily they all saw through her and just used her for the only thing she was good for. She didn’t give a rats ass about The Retarded Raper. But when he started flashing lots of cash and she found out his zip code she was hooked. Not hooked enough to shake her proclivity to go down on anything with a pulse. Now she finds out that her meal ticket is actually only a coupon for a casino buffet. The girl may want to spread her wings at this point but the only thing she spreads is her legs. She wont get that far on those talents. What monied stud wants a 30-something with 3 kids and mockable “skills”. Miami and LA are littered with 20-somethings that don’t have as much baggage. With ROHNJ as her resume and calling card – who would want her? As for him? His parents are disgusted with thier Chip n’ Dale stripper son who has been a total failure. Yeah – there will be women lined up for a decietful, violent looser that back stabs his own parents, has no means of support and wears shoe polish on his head.

      • September 25, 2013 at 11:41 AM


      • September 25, 2013 at 11:47 AM

        As you can see, Saddle is no longer going to sugar coat the truth. As a patriotic American, and a genuine Real Housewife of new Jersey, she has reached her breaking point, despite the fact that she is the epitome of a Lady. This is outrageous! .

        • elemcee
          September 25, 2013 at 1:29 PM

          You two are killin’ me! The retarded raper!

          I was watching closet freak yesterday, and when she compared him to Forest Gump I almost fell over. But then I realized that is really an insult to Forest Gump!

        • Saddle_River_NJ
          September 25, 2013 at 4:16 PM

          I thought the Singing Sperm Receptacle was merely human garbage before the full contents of her book became available. I just find it staggering that St Martins allowed this to go out under their imprint. It’s one thing to be titillating or scandalous – but to seriously cross over into actual depravity?!? Woe is the low man on the totem pole at the publisher that green lighted this sadistic romp. What were they thinking? “50 Shades of Gorga”? What a sleazy publishing house. And that snotty faygeleh Cohen and his superiors at NBC/Universal think this is acceptable? That it doesn’t reflect poorly on thier “star” and their programming? My opinion of Comcast NBC has fallen considerably. I actually watched some episodes of Modern Family for the first time last night. Funny as all get out, well written and sweet. Disney/ABC can produce something like that while Comcast/NBC promotes sheer trash. What next on Bravo? “America has VD”? “The Rapist’s Studio”? Turn “The Voice” in to “The Vagina”? Scummy programming from cretinous producers.

          • tboz17586
            September 26, 2013 at 8:34 AM

            LOOOOOL Turn The Voice into The Vagina! It wouldn’t surprise me ONE BIT nowadays. Trash is what “we” want apparently.

            • Happy Holly Daze
              September 26, 2013 at 2:41 PM


              • Miss Alicat
                September 26, 2013 at 7:45 PM

                LIKE BUTTON!!!

          • September 26, 2013 at 4:06 PM

            118 and a golden star.

          • Sharon
            September 27, 2013 at 8:26 PM

            Yep, she must have a very low IQ to write something that proves she is incredibly stupid.

      • Autumn
        September 26, 2013 at 11:43 AM

        Danielle Staub had sev celebrity boyfriends and rockstar lifestyle years before ever appearing on tv.
        Melissa was never at that level & probably won’t ever be.
        Gotta love that Danielle proved herself much smarter and more classy by far– and would not take the low road to help Mel trash Teresa.

      • pjbottoms
        September 26, 2013 at 12:29 PM

        ^ True dat @Saddle_River_NJ

    • September 24, 2013 at 11:27 PM

      I have always believed that TSIL thought she was too good for the Gorga family! She probably thought that TB would always have the money he had when they met. Didn’t TSIL say that in 2008 they didn’t have money to buy diapers? Didn’t the Gorga’s have their electric shut off for 3 days last year? I’m sure she wasn’t expecting to be put in such a financial mess like that. I’m sure when the Bravo paychecks came in she did a “As God as my witness I’ll never go hungry again!” vow! When TSIL wrote her “advice” book it was during the cheating allegations being made public. I think in her mind she had to make TB look bad to give her an excuse to cheat. TSIL may go to extreme’s at making sure she stays a celebrity and living in comfort. She’ll even throw her husband under the bus if she has to! I don’t know the clinical word for “perpetual victim complex” but she can make herself out to be the victim in any situation. As for her foolish, ignorant husband he is going to find out the hard way about loyalty. Just because your loyal to a person doesn’t gurantee you their loyalty.

    • September 27, 2013 at 2:30 PM

      I agree NCGal! The cover of her book says it all! Who makes a marriage book without their husband on the cover!? smh…..

  10. teramusique
    September 24, 2013 at 9:03 PM

    Was in the middle of having a snack when I read this but now I completely lost my appetite.
    This is sick stuff!

    • pjbottoms
      September 26, 2013 at 12:30 PM

      I agree–who would have guessed this book would help me lose weight?

  11. Buck Henry
    September 24, 2013 at 10:02 PM

    I’ve made comment before on other blogs that she is wanting out and away from Umpa Lumpa aka date rape aka Joe Gorga. Don’t get me wrong, Melissa and Joe are both users and abusers. What she is doing is she is getting ready for her out from this marriage and I think her manager is the one she is hopeing will save her by getting with her and making her career. Or just making her career. Johnny is married, but the way she hangs on him is telling. Also this explains why she didn’t have Umpa Lumpa on the cover of her book, it was a cover for her to crap on Joe and tell the truth that she knew for years what he was like.

    Joe is going to be served big time and flayed to the point by the public that he won’t be able to show his face out of his APT, not house (because he won’t have any money). Because think about it, he is like this to Melissa. And he had charges of rape when he went to college and he was kicked out of college even though the girl didn’t go forward and changed her story. Sooner or later the girl that he did that to may come out in public and denounce him and it will be all over for him. Teresa knew this and his family knew this, he should have kept a low profile but his wife aka this woman that he had no chance of getting wanted onto the show and he did what she wanted.

    Remember Joe isn’t to bright, and for decades his sister and mother defended him from everything. I think this time they won’t be able to do it this time.

    • September 24, 2013 at 10:53 PM

      The alleged rape charges first became public knowledge via an anonoymous e-mail sent to StoopidHousewives in May 2011 (the “Butch” mentioned is Bryan “Bulldog” Bowen – Melissa used to call him that behind his back):

      One of the reasons Teresa does hate Missy now is because Missy & Joe have an “open” marriage, and Teresa thinks it’s disgusting. Missy leaves her kids with her 2 nannies all the time to go clubbing and hook up (she’s usually with an ex-flame called “Butch”) and Joe sleeps with everyone in a skirt. Joe actually had charges pressed against him for rape back in the day, but his family pressured the girl to drop the suit. Look up the court records in Patterson, NJ though… the charges were filed.


      Note that there is no public record of these charges. The rape allegedly occurred when Joe was a student at Kean University in 1993.

      • Iris
        September 27, 2013 at 1:36 AM

        I would love to give that girl the best spa weekend ever for being so strong. Or something, idk, I am ssssooooo mad after hearing that Roidrage raped a young innocent girl, I can’t even type properly… someone find that girl and give her a million dollars to live a real celebrity lifestyle. or something idk i cant type I’m so fuming mad!!!!

  12. Have2Say
    September 24, 2013 at 10:08 PM

    Melissa is the one who has stated herself that she was raised by the motto of “a lady on the arm, cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom”. What she does for her man now is nothing different that what we’ve read about her past relationships. This can’t be blamed on slojoe

    • September 24, 2013 at 11:08 PM

      I don’t know-as stated above, he did push her pretty hard—2 times ON camera. We all know he has a horrible temper.

      • Have2Say
        September 25, 2013 at 10:41 AM

        as far as his temper… yes, that’s on him. But her claim about the sex stuff is all her. Sex and sex appeal is what she has used as her ticket to get what she wants.

      • Squeezy
        September 26, 2013 at 6:54 PM

        Also, when joe-rga the barbarian is carrying on at the christening he said something to TSIL along the lines of…I know I yell at you. Haven’t seen the episode in a long time so I don’t remember exact quote.

    • pjbottoms
      September 26, 2013 at 12:34 PM

      I just took a Title II state test (TN) for work “Respect in the Workplace” a follow up to Title VI “Sexual Harassment” test. If someone overhears someone talking about “Melissa’s Motto” they are required to report it as sexual/gender harassment.

      • Have2Say
        September 26, 2013 at 2:44 PM

        exactly!! I haven’t read her book and don’t care to but get an idea of the slant from the comments on blogs. If I am understanding correctly she is portraying the victim role once again that she is basically a sex slave to please her man. Please !! sex is just how she got THIS man. I can’t take much more of this female and her thought process. She’s a disgrace

  13. Anonymous
    September 24, 2013 at 10:30 PM


    It looks like the majority at Melissa’s book signing are young girls. Yikes. Folks this is scary.

    • September 24, 2013 at 10:43 PM

      I can see that 1/2 of them “CANNOT” read and the other 1/2 “DOES NOT” read. But everyone got their picture taken. How great is that!

    • September 24, 2013 at 10:46 PM

      The instagram photo is from Rowan University in southern NJ – if Rowan is concerned at all about its reputation, it should not be promoting this book.

      North Jerz Girl said on 2013/09/15 at 2:02 PM at FW:

      I attend Rowan University in NJ right by Philadelphia. We have a Barnes & Noble on campus as our bookstore and they have been promoting Melissa Gorga’s book for weeks now. She is coming to sign on September 26th. Her book was listed as 20% off about a week ago when I was in there. Keep in mind this is a college book store and almost as soon as you walk in there is a display of her books. Why are they catering this book to us? Most of the college population on campus that use the book store are not married or thinking about marriage anytime soon. I will most definitely not attend this “signing” because I believe we will have to purchase her book.

      • September 24, 2013 at 11:05 PM

        IMO this book seems to advocate marital rape-how sad:-(

      • Sackem
        September 25, 2013 at 7:53 AM

        That is frightening!

      • Julie
        September 25, 2013 at 9:21 AM

        They’re marketing it at Rowan because anonymous and momajackie are right–the only ones buying her book are young girls who aren’t sophisticated enough to see through the bs. Their mothers’ must not know the content of this book to allow them to read it.

    • September 24, 2013 at 11:06 PM

      We need to say a prayer for them.

    • September 25, 2013 at 2:13 PM

      She should be ashamed of herself for giving these young ladies the wrong impression of a good marriage.

    • Sharon
      September 25, 2013 at 5:03 PM

      Decent citizens should be picketing the book signings.

  14. September 24, 2013 at 11:03 PM

    If we have any young women reading-I want to say I hope and pray you all know that your WORTH is not in your looks or if have sex with someone, your worth is in your heart!! Kindness and goodness will always win- good men want this more than anything!!

    • jennacheryl
      September 25, 2013 at 12:25 AM

      To add to savage: men want sincerity and realism. Be YOURSELF! Love & know yourself because you can’t truly love someone until you do.
      As most know I am currently unemployed fine my job is the household stuff BUT when the rolls were reversed he did the 🙂 house work; even know he does the cooking some nights (&takes the trash out)

      • September 25, 2013 at 12:36 AM

        Great comment.:-)

        • jennacheryl
          September 25, 2013 at 1:38 AM

          Thanks, you have a great one too! I have seen to many girls focusing on the unimportant crap in life. Like their looks being the only thing a boy would be into. Makes me sad

      • September 25, 2013 at 2:16 PM

        jenna, What is your background as far as employment? I’m still prying that you find a job and I hope it’s with Samsung.

        • jennacheryl
          September 26, 2013 at 1:09 AM

          I was in banking for 10 yrs moved to NM continued for awhile then I started working for indirect Verizon premium retailers in Management. My last job was a district manager for a growing company that has now expanded more into NM and AZ. I was able to build the NM district and I think I kicked a$$!

    • JUST ME P
      September 26, 2013 at 2:39 AM


      • September 26, 2013 at 1:31 PM


  15. jennacheryl
    September 24, 2013 at 11:16 PM


  16. GloBug
    September 24, 2013 at 11:24 PM

    This is really sad, from the first time I saw Joe Gorga on the RHONJ I knew he was abusive. As the mother of two teenage boys, even my sons hated him. Plus lets not forget the countless times we have seen him verbally abuse Teresa. What is really sad though is that many women endure this type of behavior for years and just keep lying to themselves about the situation. Denial is a powerful thing it can make you believe things that are not there. Having sad that most women in this situation do wake up and get out, some are not so fortunate. If she is in denial though I don’t really like her it does explain a lot of why she feels the need to have so much attention, playing the victim these are behaviors of someone that doesn’t have much self esteem and feels the need to seek attention, and acceptance.

    If you know anyone that may be in a situation like this please help them. I had a wake up call a little over a year ago when I met the mother of one of my son’s friends. She was always giving my son a rides, and even took him to the beach with a group of her daughter’s friends. I insisted on meeting her to thank her for her kindness, like I would with any of my boy’s friends parents. Which we have a bit of a network going on. When I met her I recall thinking, there is something about her, I can’t put my finger on it but there is something that isn’t right. On the ride home I shared my feelings with my son, and was actually able to say she is so nice, but she just does not seem very secure in herself. Just like any time you see someone in need I wanted to help, but having just meet her I really didn’t know how to approach the situation. Well I got my answer less than a year after meeting her in May 2012. Her boyfriend, father of her daughter stabbed her to death, he was just found guilty and sentenced to life in prison yesterday. Which is why this is fresh in my mind. My son was notified something had happened through another friend at the same time the girl called the police on her father. I’ll never forget the feeling of denial I felt at the moment, especially when I saw her daughter’s FaceBook status which was a cry for help. No question about it. We rushed to the police station to show our support, and it was there that we found out he had killed her. She had just months earlier broke up with him, and was starting a new life for her self with a new job, new car, and a new sense of how wonderful she is.

    Please if you or anyone you know is in this type of situation, even if it just seems like a hunch. Follow it, the worst that could happen is your wrong, if you were right and they still denied it at least you would have tried. I don’t blame myself for what happened to her, but I do wish I had at least talked to her, even if it was to help build her self esteem.

    • September 25, 2013 at 12:06 AM

      Wow-that is horrible.

    • September 25, 2013 at 12:35 AM

      That is so sad, Globug. Thanks for sharing I’m sitting her in disbelief by what you went through. Last year a lady was stabbed and killed by an ex-BF, who then shot himself, right in front of her 7 year old daughter. I remember an audio of her daughter calling 911 was played on the news and it was heart breaking. The mother held on long enough to tell the girl their address and apartment number then she passed away. The poor little girl was screaming, “No momma, don’t go, don’t go…”. That 911 call still haunts me. I will remember your story and advice if I should ever meet someone that shows signs of abuse. Thanks again.

      • Silvana
        September 25, 2013 at 11:34 PM

        This also happened here in Perth a women was stabbed to death by her ex boy friend in her daughters salon her daughter who was 4 mths pregnant was also stabbed and a client who was a elderly lady was also stabbed whille trying to help luckily the daughter and her unborn son and the client were ok.

        • September 26, 2013 at 2:54 AM

          When Globug was describing the crime I thought she was talking about a crime that happened in Oklahoma! The dates didn’t add up, though, and the crime here was a murder/ suicide. My heart goes out to everyone involved in a abusive situation, especially the children. The little 7 year old girl’s real father now is raising her, so that made me feel better.

          • September 26, 2013 at 7:50 PM

            ceeeseee im in OK and there was a murder/suicide in our area 2009…guy killed a woman i knew and then killed himself..this was in 2009/summer. i know she had kids but the older ones i thought were older than 7? she may have had younger ones but i dont know/hadnt seen her in like 8-9 years before this went down 😦

            • September 26, 2013 at 10:30 PM

              I believe this happened last year fall, 2012. The lady was attending Connor’s State College and I think she lived in Warner, OK, or Haskell? Some little town close to Muskogee, OK. I remember the lady modeled in the College brochure and worked at the bookstore there. I remember the little girls paternal parents were driving to pick the little girl up after the murder/suicide and they hit a deer! They were ok but their vehicle wasn’t. The local sheriff let the family park their vehicle in his yard and took them to get their grand-daughter. I’ll try to find the story but I warn you not to listen to the 911 call, it’s so sad!

              • September 26, 2013 at 11:28 PM

                oh wow ceeeseee i just read the story, i did NOT have the strength to listen to the 911 call..how sad..
                this is the case i was talking about around ponca city ok, july 2009


                my friend and her bf were found by her ex husband..one poster ( who also knew my friend) wrote in this forum/thread
                “I have known the female victim in this case for many years as well as her ex-husband. She had developed quite a problem with prescription drugs and the live in boyfriend shared her addictions. A friend of hers was concerned for the safety of her youngest child who was still in the home because she had been arguing with the boyfriend. She took the child home with her and became concerned when she couldn’t get in touch with her the next day. She didn’t want to call police since she was aware there might be drugs in the house. She then called the ex-husband who knocked on the door and when no one answered he broke the door down and found them both dead. They had been divorced for several years and there were no problems between them. Anyway the reputation of the boyfriend was that he was literally crazy. He once turned around on the steet after getting a ticket and rammed the highway patrol car with his own vehicle! Anyway hope this sheds some light.”

                i didnt know the bf/murderer but wow ramming a Hi-po for giving him a ticket? doesn’t get much crazier than that!

      • September 26, 2013 at 4:10 PM

        OMG, this is like a daily thing in Miami. I kid you not.

      • GloBug
        September 26, 2013 at 4:54 PM

        Oh ceeseee that’s awful! Her daughter was 15 at the time. Her FaceBook status was similar as shocked as I was I can’t believe I can not remember the exact words. I did leave out some points of this because this case is a first. But since it has been all over the news here in Boston I don’t see how my actions is really protecting anyone. The friend that notified my son actually witnessed the killing through video chat. This is the first murder case with a witness that was not physically present at the time, but present through the internet.

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 12:59 AM

      Yes … look for symptoms as those that are abused are ashamed and hide it well.

    • Sackem
      September 25, 2013 at 7:50 AM

      Heart breaking!

    • Jeannie5233
      September 25, 2013 at 8:25 AM

      Thank you for sharing this Globug – it truly is frightening and heartbreaking.

    • elemcee
      September 25, 2013 at 1:46 PM

      GloBug, I am so sad reading this. I hope today is a better day for you and your son. I al=m glad that your son’s friend and his siblings are safe from that monster.

      • GloBug
        September 26, 2013 at 4:58 PM

        Thank you elemcee, we were all really happy to hear that he was found guilty. Even better he is forbidden from seeing her children including his own daughter. Just reading this about MeHo’s book just brought back the memories, which were probably brought back from the conviction. Just sad that as women we get into these relationships and it can be hard to reach out for help due to the effect of the abuse. Which was really why I choose to share, if this story saves at least one woman, then I will be grateful.

        • elemcee
          September 26, 2013 at 10:34 PM

          Thank goodness the children do not have to deal with him. The trauma they have been through is enough. I am glad the court actually saw that and did the right thing! Your story will encourage all of us to help, in any way we can, GloBug. Thank you for that. It is so important.

  17. September 24, 2013 at 11:33 PM

    This is the worst: Joe says…
    “My sons can have a separate entrance to the house. They can come and go as they wish. They can have anyone up to their room. I don’t care. But I want to keep my Antonia my little girl.

    My wish is for her to have on boyfriend for a very long time. They have a mutual breakup with no bad feelings. Then she marries the next guy. That would be ideal. I don’t want her to ever have her heart broken. The only way I can see to helping her romantic life work out that way is be really strict and overprotective about who she sees, when she goes out, and what she does.

    I know it’s a double standard but I just don’t care! I don’t see it so much as restricting Antonia, but as protecting her”

    My gosh what about the daughters that his sons will bring into his room??? They are lowlifes.

    • Saddle_River_NJ
      September 24, 2013 at 11:59 PM

      And what if his sons end up bringing *boys* up to thier room? Will he be “proud” of thier “conquests”. Joe Gorga is a pathetic excuse of a human being.

      • September 25, 2013 at 12:11 AM

        I have 1 son and 5 Grandsons-I consider myself very old fashioned-I love these guys more than life-I would knock them over the head if they ever said anything like this. Mel and Baby Joey are so much worse than I thought. 😦 I think, a while back I read that Joey would tell her not to eat too much when she was pregnant.

        • September 25, 2013 at 12:12 AM

          If a man said that to me-I would bake 5 cakes and eat them all. Not Kidding 🙂

          • September 25, 2013 at 9:03 AM

            I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a man or a woman needing their partner to have a certain appearance. They met them a certain way, fell in love with them a certain way, and want to manitain that same love. That’s okay.
            I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a man and wife enjoying pseudo S & M in their bedroom. If it turns them both on and that’s how they feel most intimate that night, that’s okay.
            IT BECOMES DISTURBING, however, when a man suggests his wife not feed his unborn child. When a man wants his wife to show off her ass to the other men in the viscinity.
            IT BECOMES DISTURBING, however, when a man suggests that husbands far and wide push themselves on a woman who has said “No.” The only time “no” might be ignored is if a partner says “hey ignore it, it’s part of the role play” -and that is so specific to one in a million inside-the-bedroom circumstances, there is no way that is what Joe was talking aout. His was a blanket statement to men to ignore their wife’s wishes and push sex on them after they have said AND MEANT “No, not tonight, not interested, not turned on, leave me alone, you are creeping me out, I do not want intercourse, you’re grossing me out, I was not flirting with you when I bent over to pick up a sock, I feel no need for intimacy with you at this moment.”
            I think Joe thinks it’s a joke when Melissa doesn’t want sex on demand. That he can get her in the mood if he walks up behind her and starts his schtick after she has turned him down. Like the drunk that the bouncer has to remove because he’s a little too rowdy and goading those around him. Joe figures maybe if he physically pushes her around, she’ll relent and at least pretend she’s into it. Cavemen had more swagger.
            This is a man who walks around like a naked chimp with his sister in the same RV. I was waiting for him to sling poop at Juicy and masturbate for Teresa. Which reminds me of Richie’s bonor on Greg’s head, I wish Greg would have punched him straight in the balls.
            What a vile little troll Joe is. I hope Melissa brings something home, infects him, and his dick falls off.

            • September 25, 2013 at 9:06 AM

              Bonor is a fancy word for boner, mind you….or I am just a terrible speler.

              • elemcee
                September 25, 2013 at 2:35 PM

                Jayla, I like your style (and speling!)!

            • Sharon
              September 25, 2013 at 5:09 PM

              Jayla, maybe Joe wants MeHo’s ass to hang out in public so he can boast that it is HIS ass and nobody had better come near it. He has also said he would like her to get bigger breast implants. Ge maybe he should get a dick implant. I bet it is a small one. Gawd I hate him!!

              • September 26, 2013 at 8:13 AM

                I concur-If his dick did fall off, you would have to have Sprint ears to hear it. #pindrop

    • Sackem
      September 25, 2013 at 7:48 AM

      Seriously, Jane Fonda needs to call this chick, bet Ms Ex Jim Carrey’s glad she was caught reading it.

      • Sharon
        September 25, 2013 at 5:14 PM

        Jenny McCarthy, aka ex Mrs Jim Carrey, is quite outspoken. I hope someone asks her what she thought of the book.

    • elemcee
      September 25, 2013 at 1:48 PM

      Can you imagine being Antonia Gorga and reading all of this? Reading that her son advocates rape? This is why Tre does not want anyone talking about her brother’s past. Ever. Even if they think it will help Tre.

    • September 25, 2013 at 2:27 PM

      aaaccup, when Joe made that stupid comment about “my sons can have a separate entrance” this goes to show he has no respect for females and looks at them as sex objects. He is one stick puppy.

  18. September 24, 2013 at 11:43 PM

    Someone please tweet this to andy cohen and bravo tv :

    You know you are failing when multiple popular real housewives bloggers are no longer interested in doing a recap or discussing the show due to the over use of editing and choppy voice dubs. Not addressing it doesn’t make it go away. Don’t insult our intelligence.

    • September 24, 2013 at 11:52 PM

      Oh and if melissa ever does leave joe.. She will blame it on bad in laws and call joe abusive so she can get the kids

      • September 24, 2013 at 11:55 PM

        Maybe she does want out.

    • Sackem
      September 25, 2013 at 7:47 AM

      I think they know it’s going to hell in a hand basket – Kelly aka Scary Island/ Systematic Bullying/The Show is Scripted Bensimon is headed back to NY…. ugh. What’s next? Jill?

    • Honnie Badger
      September 25, 2013 at 8:56 AM

      Very nicely stated, Wine! Brief and quite to the point. Good job! Oh, and good morning! 🙂

  19. September 24, 2013 at 11:58 PM

    Are you kidding me??
    Melissa also recommends that you learn how to cook really really well, wear makeup everyday, shave your legs, watch your figure and go to the Burger King around the corner if you have to poop.

    “Girls don’t poop. Me, never have. Never will. It just doesn’t happen. Or, that’s what Joe thinks! We’ve been married for nine years, and he has never once seen or smelled my business. How have I pulled this off? I don’t do it when he’s around or awake. In an emergency, I have my ways of pooping so he won’t hear, smell, or see. It’s a challenge.”

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 12:39 AM

      I’m claustrophobic and my main floor bathroom is tiny (it’s a powder room) and I don’t close the damn door when I have too poop, but of course that is that time that hubby and daughter come and talk to me …sigh. If I have to fart I let it rip! Do I think hubby is going to think I need go find a woman that doesn’t poop or fart — LOL!

      The marital rape got to me! If my hubby did that to me he’d be in jail. I have respect for myself. I was abused in my 1st marriage and finally got the balls to say enough (I was young 20) and I had never told anyone, I painted the picture that all was well as I was embarrassed so no one new and he was the king of smooth talking. I called my mom when I had enough (not sure if there is a gauge for that) and told her to get her truck and bring Nanna and Grandpa in the am to get my stuff out of the house. She was stunned and didn’t believe that the MF beat the shit out me; pulled a rifle on me and thank god his mom was there so his shot only hit the wall; plus he was a cokehead (no I don’t condone drugs). Mom went over there the next day to get his side of the story, he said no it’s true and I don’t want that bitch in my life. I got lucky! I never told anyone, they never knew. I had angels looking after me.

      I don’t get how people are promoting this type of behavior towards women and doing so in a positive light. There is nothing right about grabbing her hair and ripping her clothes off, maybe TSIL is in denial if she thinks this acceptble behavior, I Don’t know. Granted I don’t have boys, but a separate door for them to bring girls in (implied) … it’s just wrong and bad.

      • September 25, 2013 at 1:59 AM

        im so glad you are safe msjules.you are soooooo worth it.

      • Sackem
        September 25, 2013 at 7:43 AM

        F^*K! MzJules… I’m speechless. He shot at you? You are so lucky.

      • Jeannie5233
        September 25, 2013 at 8:33 AM

        Oh my dear mzjules – how horrible and frightening that must have been for you. I am so happy you found the man you are with now. (I still haven’t gotten over how he cut your meat to make sure you would eat while working – one of the sweetest things I’ve heard). You really are lucky! ((((mzjulesaz))))

        • mzjulesaz
          September 25, 2013 at 5:09 PM

          Thanks Jeannie and all, I just wanted to share my story to tell people that this is a serious situation in the world today and it could be happening to your loved ones and you don’t know it. It’s a sensitive subject for me as I still feel stupid (I know I wasn’t). Just educate the children boys and girls so the stats Jeannie posted below will go down.

          • tboz17586
            September 26, 2013 at 8:48 AM

            I thank The Lord for your strength mzjules! Thank you for sharing.

      • Honnie Badger
        September 25, 2013 at 8:57 AM

        Jules! Glad you had the self-respect to change your situation. So sorry you had to endure the fear and stress and abuse. MUCH LOVE TO YOU NOW! XOXO!

        • September 25, 2013 at 10:34 AM

          So happy you were able to escape this man. Thank God your still with us.

      • September 25, 2013 at 10:31 AM

        OMG-so glad you were not shot!!!! Thankful you got out in time.

      • elemcee
        September 25, 2013 at 1:56 PM

        Thank goodness you are okay, Jules. I am so glad that you are!

      • Laram
        September 25, 2013 at 3:57 PM

        Jules, God Bless you! Brave to share, and so glad you found the life and love you deserve!

      • September 26, 2013 at 12:30 AM

        wow mzjules incredible story!!! you escaped and lived to tell the tale and so glad you did! i shudder at being shot at!! i too escaped from an abusive ex and what was worse his mother was just as psycho as he was. (this is what i tell younger girls and my own when they get old enough to date) is be not only leery of a guy that you hook up with but also be leery of his family. ESPECIALLY if you have kids. because not are only tied to a crazy son of a gun for at least 18 years/kids life but god forbid those kids have a psycho mother/father,ect that have it in for you!!!!! i speak from experience..unlike tsil im not vain/hoochie dressing skankish. on contrare very loyal to him. i worked and helped bring in the bacon and many many many times i was the ONLY provider of our household! his mom still hated me and especially my parents and basically has made my life a living hell during the relationship and especially afterwards right down to phoning in bogus abuse claims to DHS we were starving abusing and worse to our girls. we were cleared of the claims ( of course! nothing happened!) and after a nasty court battle i got full and sole custody of both my girls! no i was never shot at but i went thru physical assaults, verbal and emotional abuse as well as threats from him and countless rages where he destoryed things.

        • mzjulesaz
          September 26, 2013 at 12:45 AM

          Thanks for sharing your story! I’m so glad to hear that you survived and came through with custody of your kids. Unfortunately this is more prevalent in todays society than people realize or admit. We have to educate our youth so they have don’t to endure this type of stuff not enocurage it!

      • pjbottoms
        September 26, 2013 at 12:44 PM

        Glad you got out and know it wasn’t your fault! I used to work for a witness and victim protection agency and I wish more people would see their angels:) Frankly, and I have comment about his elsewhere, both Joey and Ritchie are both inappropriate enough with their words around minor children to warrent a call to CPS. This is just not based on my opinion, I have worked in places (schools, social service agencies) where this would be required. Again, if Melissa’s book does nothing else, it has given a platform for people to share their experiences.

    • Sackem
      September 25, 2013 at 7:44 AM

      Guess a colonic’s out the question. Oh to be a fly on the wall when they’re old and have to look after one another.

  20. September 24, 2013 at 11:59 PM

    Is this a slam at Juicy-we all know he cooks?
    “When gender roles are confused, sexual roles are, too. If he’s at the sink and then changing diapers, then who throws down in the bed? In our marriage, Joe is always the man, doing masculine things. I’m the woman, and I do the female things, including housework.”

    • jennacheryl
      September 25, 2013 at 12:29 AM

      I honestly doubt it. I truly HATE to quote my husband bc he can be a horses patoot but there are more male cooks/chefs then women.

      • September 25, 2013 at 4:54 PM

        I love a man who can cook. I also love my husband. At least he makes his own breckfast and lunch. And he does the dishes.

        • jennacheryl
          September 26, 2013 at 1:07 AM

          Oh see the dishes….that is a dream man! How long to train him on that? lol

        • tboz17586
          September 26, 2013 at 8:56 AM

          Mine too Gessie! My husband is amazing and I have to say, watching him cook for us does it for me. He is no stranger to housework, and doesn’t complain about it. Although I love my role as a housewife, and he is the bread winner…..switching up traditional roles every now and again is great for us!

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 12:46 AM

      I can’t stand them!!! In my house I’m the breadwinner and it’s hard for him as it didn’t used to be that way. He does most of the cooking unless it’s in the slow cooker. He gives me the sales ads and I figure out the menu and he shops based upon the list. I just can’t with this bitch, she’s delusional!

    • marcy
      September 25, 2013 at 1:23 AM

      @aaaccp Why was he ironing his Pink shirt in Arizona? And he looked like he was pretty good at it. While TSIL was putting on her face paint…LMAO..

      • September 25, 2013 at 10:32 AM

        That’s right!!!

    • Sackem
      September 25, 2013 at 7:38 AM

      Seriously? The Suffragettes are turning in their graves. No wonder she gets along so well with Andy.

    • corky21
      September 25, 2013 at 2:48 PM

      Seriously, Melissa is in for a rude awakening. Yes, I was like her once, 20-25 years ago.
      I also didn’t do number 2 at my DH’s place, eventually, yes, but the first few years, no. I also believed like she does about the masculine/female roles. However, that only lasts so long. Once they are a bit older and together longer, her true feelings will come out. She will no longer tolerate his beastly ways, and he will not be able to release his poison. Then he will either have affairs, or become more abusive towards Melissa.

      I see a very insecure girl in melissa’s eyes at times. I see someone who tries hard to hide it by copying Teresa’s style, acting tough, and also putting on this whole I’m so hot for my husband, and I cook, and clean. Well, we’ve never seen her cook, even when given the chance at Lake George. So all she really has is being hot for her husband, but it will wane, and then what will she have?

      Down deep, she’s a insecure, dying to be relevant person. Their marriage won’t last long.

    • September 26, 2013 at 3:05 AM

      I’m sure it is about Juicy! I wonder if Al Manzo was offended? Al knows his sauce and his butter!

  21. September 25, 2013 at 12:02 AM

    In this quote she is basically saying “I’m a hooker!”
    “Happy guys let more go. Issues get brushed off. Quickies count. Say what you want, but it’s the truth.

    [A] woman needs to keep herself in shape. She has to be seductive. She must be willing to try new things for her husband’s pleasure and her own. And, most important, she has to be available for sex.

    There’s real passionate sex and maintenance sex. You need them both for a healthy marriage. Maintenance sex keeps the wheels greased, the lines of communication open, and the fights to a minimum.”

    {{{{{{{. And, most important, she has to be available for sex}}}}}}}}}

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 12:53 AM

      My hubby is a horndog (really), but a respectful one. He’d take sex 3x a day if I’d let him take Viagra and put out — not. Even when we were young I would have kicked his butt with this kind of attitude.

    • Sackem
      September 25, 2013 at 7:40 AM

      She substitutes sex for conversation and resolution… God help the 19 year olds buying this book when they meet someone with some intellect.

      • NCGal
        September 25, 2013 at 10:37 AM

        That’s my biggest problem with this so called book. I think many of her fans are teenage, middle school girls who may impressionalbe enough to come away from this “book” thinking this type of behavior is acceptable. I only hope they have good strong mothers and other female role models who can assure them this is not what a marriage is. By any stretch of the imagination.

      • September 25, 2013 at 10:38 AM

        TSIL is setting women back decades with what she’s saying. Too sad that she really thinks she’s giving good advice.

    • corky21
      September 25, 2013 at 3:02 PM

      Really?? And what about if Melissa may be pissed off at Joe for something, can she really be available for sex then? I doubt it. Unless she is so shallow that he promises her a pair of designer shoes if she just lets him have his way with her. That will only work so long too. If a woman/wife is angry or disappointed with her SO, it’s very hard to give it up until those resentful feelings pass.

      Long term relationships are hard and come with many ups and downs, and she has no clue about that. It’s all roses in the first years but she’ll see if she lasts long enough with him, that all the wine and roses and loving evolves into something different or not at all as the years pass by.

  22. mzjulesaz
    September 25, 2013 at 1:16 AM

    Totally of topic, but I love the Voice and Destinee Quinn was awesome and she plays gigs at a local biker bar, the Hideaway in CaveCreek .. the red and white like that bar so I avoid it!

    • Dianna
      September 25, 2013 at 10:06 AM

      We have neighborhood parties for The Voice. We all get together at a house and cook dinner. And place bets on our favorites. I’ve won last 3 times. I loved Destinee. But also the man that sang Simple Man. His story was really a little to close to home. We joke with one of the girls and bring her big boxes of Kleenex because she cries so much hearing everyone’s stories. Last night it was me with the Kleenex boo hooing my head off. Haha

  23. Laker
    September 25, 2013 at 1:29 AM

    Wow. This might be the straw that breaks the camel’s back for me. I will NOT watch two people who advocate rape. You know they’re the kind of people who would make apologies for rapists.

    I know this is probably too much to share, but about four months ago someone tried to rape me. Literally tackled me from behind and tried to force me right in the damn street! I fought him off and screamed and he ran. It has scarred me deeply and I still am looking behind my shoulders at all times. I can’t even begin to imagine how it would have screwed me up if I was violated further.

    I refuse to contribute to the “fame” of two people who think rape is okay. The fact that Joe boasts this attitude makes the rape allegation seem easily true.

    • September 25, 2013 at 2:09 AM

      we will pray for peace for you ,im sorry you experienced that ,we all need to be cautious, evil abounds ,but JESUS is stronger
      blessings to you laker

    • jennacheryl
      September 25, 2013 at 2:17 AM

      I am sorry that happened to you, I can relate. Stay strong.

    • September 25, 2013 at 2:38 AM

      How horrible! That is scary and I hope the jerk gets stopped before he tries to hurt someone else. My older sister was 17 y.o. (26 years ago) when she was bruttally raped in some bushes next to a sidewalk that people were walking by on! No one seen or heard anything because the rapist kept a knife to my sister’s neck during the attack. He was eventually caught but he destroyed my sister’s spirit. To this day she will not walk by bushes and she still suffer’s anxiety from her ordeal. You know, after reading article’s about TSIL’s book it makes me want to take self-defense classes, again. Also, I think I’ll educate myself in signs of domestic violence. TB’s “TB-ment” about a lady wanting her hair pulled and her clothes ripped off is disgusting. I would pull my significant other’s hair back if he pulled mine if I turned him down for sex! Plus, if he ripped my clothes off I’d probably think he got bit by a dog with rabbies! I would be on the phone dialing 911 for him!

      • Sackem
        September 25, 2013 at 7:33 AM

        Your poor sister!

      • September 26, 2013 at 7:53 PM

        that is scary and im sorry for your sister to have lived thru that 😦

    • patriciafromco
      September 25, 2013 at 3:07 AM

      Am so sorry for your experience. thankful you were strong enough to get away and were safe from further harm. Love my Arkadas (avatar) he keeps me safe.. highly recommend a big dog 🙂 Good thoughts your way.

    • Enga
      September 25, 2013 at 3:21 AM

      I am so sorry this happened to you. These creeps are cowards that rape. So glad you are okay. These two have no idea what they have opened themselves up to with this book.
      You are a fighter and you survived that ordeal because of it. May God bless you and keep you. Believe me, when God finishes with these to pieces of work you won’t even recognize them.

    • Sackem
      September 25, 2013 at 7:32 AM

      HOLY SHIT! I’m so glad you are physically ok!!!!!!!!

    • Jeannie5233
      September 25, 2013 at 8:29 AM

      Laker – I am so sorry you had that horrific experience and thankful for you that you were able to get away before anything worse happened. (((Laker)))

    • Honnie Badger
      September 25, 2013 at 9:00 AM

      Darling Laker — please find an appropriate therapist to work with you to heal. The sooner the better. Otherwise, honey, that fear will embed itself further and galvanize new behaviors that destroy quality of life and love. Trust me! I know. Been there.

      In the meantime, I am sending you much love and faith and very positive thoughts.

      • Laker
        September 25, 2013 at 5:49 PM

        I have a therapist 🙂 I had bad PTSD after… not so bad nowadays, thank God, but it was difficult for a time… Fortunately my job was in the evenings, otherwise I don’t know how I would have survived (I couldn’t sleep during night hours. I could only fall asleep once dawn would break. I literally would google “When is the sun coming up” for months.)

        • Honnie Badger
          September 26, 2013 at 9:51 AM

          Good for you — all the best to you! BTW, sharing this as you did is extremely courageous and is a very positive thing!

    • September 25, 2013 at 10:34 AM

      I am so sorry-{{{{{hugs}}}}}

    • September 25, 2013 at 10:41 AM

      Laker so sorry you had to go through something so horrific. Thank God you were able to fight this pig off.

    • elemcee
      September 25, 2013 at 2:06 PM

      Laker, you can tell us anything. I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope that you are able to find peace.

    • Laram
      September 25, 2013 at 4:09 PM

      @Laker, I agree with everyone and @Honnie.

      Thank God your angel’s protected you from anymore damage. God bless you.

    • September 25, 2013 at 4:56 PM

      OMG. How terrifying.

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 4:57 PM

      OMG how horrible!! I can’t even imagine what you went through. I’ll pray for you!

    • Laker
      September 25, 2013 at 5:50 PM

      Thank you so much for all your support 🙂 I am doing okay, just thankful it wasn’t worse… but in light of what happened to me, and the worse things that have happened to everyone, Mel’s comments are INEXCUSABLE. And the fact that she is now trying to defend them offends me even more.

      • September 26, 2013 at 2:23 AM

        I’m glad your okay, Laker.

    • September 26, 2013 at 7:55 PM

      bless you laker! glad you were able to fight /scare him off but no doubt had to shaken you up some!

  24. jennacheryl
    September 25, 2013 at 1:40 AM

    I think Adam may have won but the competition is strong this year!!!!!!!!!!!

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 4:58 PM

      I’m a country gal so I vote Team Blake … plus he’s hot — LOL

      • jennacheryl
        September 26, 2013 at 1:07 AM

        Miranda is a lucky girl! I love him! But that last chick was amazing! I am actually a fan of all of the judges, however being a girl I kinda want Christina to bring it home this year lol

        • mzjulesaz
          September 26, 2013 at 1:28 AM

          Team Blake … LOL

          • jennacheryl
            September 26, 2013 at 1:46 AM

            You goMzJules lol~! have you seen him in concert?

            • mzjulesaz
              September 26, 2013 at 12:55 PM

              No I normally only go King George … lol

              • jennacheryl
                September 26, 2013 at 3:11 PM

                King George is a must!

  25. Enga
    September 25, 2013 at 2:30 AM

    Aaacccp ita. This was a dig at Joe and Teresa. Who stays at home and cooks for his kids and family and watches them while Teresa earns the bacon. I think she was taking shots at all the cast whose husbands have been accused of cheating. I think Melissa and Joe live vicariously threw them and they both emulate them and hate them at the same time.
    As far as her being abused, I don’t believe it. She and her sisters the Sirens, would tear him to pieces. They just read ghetto and street smart to me. I think she is waiting for to board the divorce train and try to ruin whatever credibility he has left not that he had much to begin with.
    Johnny Wright might owe Andy some kind of favor or something his wife was a Miss America runner up and a lawyer in New Orleans.
    Melissa is very calculating as is the rest of the cast. I think they are strategically aligning themselves in case there is a shake up on the show. I personally believe that Joe is just is trying to prove that he is a real man by acting all hard core but a real man wouldn’t have to keep telling you he is or a real housewife and mother for that matter . She wears the pants in that family and she has drained him dry. On to the next victim.

    • Enga
      September 25, 2013 at 2:43 AM

      P.s when he goes into these rages I think he doesn’t even care whoes in the way, he just sees red like the producers just let him off a leash and say attack! She controls right along with Caroline. When its all said and done he tucks his tail and cries in the corner. You betrayed your family for this woman’s quest for fame Joe Gorga, when she is done she will leave you in the past with everyone else she’s used.

      • September 25, 2013 at 3:04 AM

        I’ve read that TB is a wuss when it comes to instigating a fight. He makes sure that people are around to stop the fight before he charges, ala Juicy and JTG! I guess he was like that even in HS. He has all those steroid induced muscle’s and doesn’t know how to defend himself with them! TB is all talk! I noticed that TB is wearing a beannie cap at the P2 fashion party/show. I think he wore it because he knew he was going to get into a physical altercation. The last time he was involved in a physical fight he wore a baseball cap over his spray can hair head. The cap ended up falling off and he got black goop all over the place! This time he wised up a little and probably didn’t spray his hair and wore a tight fitting beannie hat. A hat that is harder to get knocked off his hard, shoe polished head!

        • Enga
          September 25, 2013 at 3:37 AM

          Good call! Remember she picks out his clothes haa ha ha! Probably made sure it was extra tight and wouldn’t come off, lol.

          • September 25, 2013 at 3:57 AM

            She probably took one of Gino’s beannie caps for TB to wear!

        • Jeannie5233
          September 25, 2013 at 8:36 AM

          Remember Jacs testified JTG is the one who was dressed looking for a fight. Yet, in the previews he certainly isn’t dressed that way to me. I would agree with you – TB is.

          • September 25, 2013 at 10:35 AM

            “dressed for a fight” LOL

      • September 25, 2013 at 10:53 AM

        I agree with you Enga, She thought Joe had money because of the house he lived in when they started dating. Joe was NOT her first choice. She was in love with the money she thought he had and that was what she found attractive about him. Caroline make a comment about Teresa. She said T was the reason Juicy did what he did cuz T wanted the finest things in live. I think T honestly thought he had that kind of money to blow. Compare the two couples today. T will stand by Juicy no matter what because she is in love him, not money. Melissa is another story, She will move on from Joey when she finds another sucker with real money.

  26. September 25, 2013 at 3:03 AM

    I aren’t defending Joe Gorga at all, but we all know that Mel is loose with the truth.

    She has fabricated and or denied parts of her life so what she has written about Joe in the book could be a fabrication also.

    • September 25, 2013 at 3:18 AM

      It’s hard to believe a pathological liar! Plus, she wrote the book when the cheating allegations were made public by “Life & Style” magazine. She may have purposely made TB look bad as an excuse to why she cheated. If one of her cheating buddies sold their story and had proof before her book came out I’m sure she would be advocating for a domestic violence organization! I do think TB loses his temper a lot around her and everyone, really. I’ve seen this season TSIL calling him and idiot and psycho. TSIL also told TB she didn’t want him to “hang” with the guys on the first or second episode? So, she’s not all that innocent in the controlling department. I think they are both extremely jealous of each other and they have trust issues, too.

      • Enga
        September 25, 2013 at 3:30 AM

        Exactly and they wrote an advice book I wouldn’t let her advise my dog on how to fetch a ball let alone a marriage. This book should be banned.

  27. September 25, 2013 at 6:59 AM

    This is off topic but ROLies has a new article out: http://radaronline.com/photos/they-make-how-much-the-23-highest-paid-reality-tv-stars/. They have Teresa at #15 for highest paid reality TV star at making $650,000 and TSIL at #19 making $300,000! Caroline and Jaqueline didn’t make the list! I’m pretty sure that Caroline, at least, makes more than TSIL does! Boy, whoever is kissing ROLies butt at making sure TSIL looks good sure does put their integrity on the line for her!

  28. Sackem
    September 25, 2013 at 7:30 AM

    That’s the saddest thing (or should that be sadist) thing I’ve have read. Just cements TB character as a sexist control freak and this whole bash Teresa thing is to teach her a lesson – the Angel of God must never be ignored. It shits me that TSIL’s Birthday was just a reproduction of the trip that Teresa organised to fix their problems, the trip they all slagged, and TB would have us believe he fixed the family – he needs to dominate and control.

    I do not condone bad behaviour towards women, ever. I do not believe it’s the woman’s fault. I have never been abused, but something tells me that Missy hasn’t been conditioned. She’s uses her sex as a device to get what she wants, jeez she’s documenting it in a book to get attention.

    Did anyone notice the conversation with the record exec. “The key to happiness (or whatever) is..” TB says “sex” and the guy looks at him like he’s a 12 year old and says “love”.

    TB is a pig. None of what I read surprises me and if this is Love Italian Style, where’s the romance?

    • September 25, 2013 at 10:57 AM

      Sackem, He also tried to make the audience believe he paid for the Arizona trip when we all know Bravo paid for it.

  29. Jeannie5233
    September 25, 2013 at 7:48 AM

    Good morning everyone!!!

    To be honest, I do think TSIL wrote this book only as a means to make more money, with B/S’s encouragement and backing like all of the other housewife products. I don’t think it was written to set the stage to leave TB when the time comes. I believe TB did write those “Joements” or “Joeisms” or whatever they want to call them all on his very own. I think he has read the book (it is written elementarily enough for him to read and comprehend; especially the parts about himself) and he heartily approved everything that went in it. And I do believe he feels and does exactly what she writes about. He has an insane sexual thirst; she feeds off of that and has learned how to use her sexual prowess to get what she wants from him and that is why she puts up with his sh*t.

    Like I said in my comment on the last article about this – I almost feel sorry for her. Key word being “almost”. She is a smart cookie – she knows the drill – and she puts up with TB so she can get exactly what she is getting – attention and fame. Her connection to RHONJ is being Teresa’s SIL – if she were to divorce TB, she would have nothing. And she knows it. Even when the show ends, being the ex- wife of Teresa’s brother, does not have the same cache as the status she maintains while remaining married to the SOB.

    I remember reading here at FW and TSIL has said herself (in the book as well) that they fought hard the first 3 to 5 years of their marriage. The timeline fits because right around the time they “stopped”, was when the campaign to get on RHONJ began. They finally had a common goal; something to tie them together. I think that behind closed doors, they still fight – hard. I do believe he threw a highchair and I wouldn’t doubt he has done a hell of alot more than that.

    That little snippet we saw in Arizona – first of all, there is no doubt in my mind it took alot longer for him to calm down than what we are led to believe. I am sure the filming of that gathering was alot longer than the 5-10 minutes we saw. His temper is scary – he goes from 0 to 10 in the blink of an eye. Physiologically, once that much adrenaline has pumped, there is no way the human body can calm down that quickly, especially when fueled with alcohol and/or drugs. Look how he kept ranting after the fight with Juicy. And the absolute hate and anger he was spewing against Teresa in the gym after she left while lifting weights and then continued it while driving home. And then we have the brawl we have yet to see a part of; and it will only be a part of. We all have to remember, we will NOT see it as it really unfolded. B/S won’t show the truth to the general public because of the pending lawsuit against the Lauritas, TB and themselves. That brawl will be shown in the best light possible to cover B/S’s ass.

    I think the Whorgas both have huge control issues with each other and based on what I have read and watched on the show – rightly so.

    It is a sick relationship but the way I see it, TB and TSIL deserve each other.

    • RahRah
      September 25, 2013 at 9:11 AM

      insightful and intuitive

    • September 25, 2013 at 11:01 AM

      I agree Jeannie except for one thing. When all this fame comes to a end with their tv program, and it will. She will leave him for someone with real money.

      • September 25, 2013 at 11:05 AM

        p.s I have no doubt the Joe has a terrible temper and unless he gets professional help, he will always be this way.

      • Saddle_River_NJ
        September 25, 2013 at 3:34 PM

        But who will want her? Aside from her sexual abilities, she has precious little to offer. She would make the perfect Mistress – just a piece of ass to keep on the side. But then again there are girls much younger than her that can offer the same services without all of TSILs baggage and drama. She is nothing more than a glorified prostitute – a woman who trades sex for payment of some kind. And at her age the younger competition will sweep the floor with her.

  30. Sackem
    • NCGal
      September 25, 2013 at 9:28 AM

      Andy will never do it, but after the outcry over this book, the only way this show can gain any credibility is if he axes the Gorgas.

    • Honnie Badger
      September 25, 2013 at 9:58 AM

      Jacqueline really doesn’t bring anything special; she’s not charming, she’s not memorable. She is sometimes expressive, but nowhere near as naturally as Teresa. Same for Kathy. There is nothing inherently watchable about either one of these ladies. I always felt Jacqueline was the weakest, since the beginning. Kathy brings nothing except fighting with Teresa (boring!). To me, Bravo missed the boat on Kathy — I wanted to see more of her blossoming in her business; it’s always inspiring to see women become successful!

      I think the only way I would be more interested in Kathy, honestly is if I were allowed to watch her really grow her own business, meeting with clients, coming up with new treats, meeting with suppliers, and really making it on her own. But then again, I’m weird! 🙂

      • NCGal
        September 25, 2013 at 10:33 AM

        That would have been an interesting story (Kathy). But she blew it by first getting in bed with the Gorgas to go after Teresa (and I understand that’s why she was hired, but she went way too far at the reunion. Her hatred and anger made her ugly and turned viewers off.

        Still, could have been interesting if Richie had been left out of it. He inserted himself into her business at every opportunity and it went past annoying. He’s not well liked by the viewers to begin with. Kathy didn’t have the guts to tell him to shut up and back off when, during business meetings, he was being totally inappropriate.

        She herself ruined what could have been a good story. Sell those cannoli kits now, Kathy.

      • September 25, 2013 at 4:52 PM

        I am sorry but I can’t stand Kathy-I think she is boring-and a little evil.

        • September 26, 2013 at 3:23 AM

          I don’t trust Kathy! Her husband and kids come across as disrespectful, entitled brats! Richie seems to have let this show go to his head and I can’t stand a cocky, conceited person. This past episode Richie bought/leased his son a jeep. I couldn’t help but think that the Wakile’s were only able to afford that because of Teresa. The same lady that all of them, kids included, like to laugh at and mock behind her back! It bother’s me when the kids get involved with their parents “hate” campaign and that Victoria is a little B word! I would have a little respect for Kathy if she corrected her daughter and said, “don’t talk like that” or “shhh….it’s not your business.” when Victoria referred to Tre as “that woman!” at her bday party. If I was that age and inserted myself in my parents adult “relationships” I would have been told to “mine your own business”. That’s the way I am with my kids. I have some estranged relative’s I don’t trust but I wouldn’t allow my son to bad mouth them on TV! My dad would always tell us girls, “I’m your protector, your not mine. I’ll let you know when I need your help! Now go be a kids!”. Those are the same words I told my son when my younger sister acts!

          • Jack Hole
            September 26, 2013 at 5:38 PM

            They are an entire family of “Haskels”!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think Rosie and Joe Guidice are the only 2 that are true blue, genuine and not playing the game.

  31. Jeannie5233
    September 25, 2013 at 8:17 AM

    Most of the following statistics are based on physical violence/abuse. However, it is a fact that when there is violence involved, it is usually begins by controlling and emotional abuse, which then can escalate into physical abuse. When emotional abuse occurs, it is wise to get out before it becomes too late. I know this is long but I felt it is worth sharing for all to read thoroughly. These statistics are staggering with this one alone: over 2,000,000 (yes, that’s 2 million) American women assaulted by men a year. Extremely disturbing

    Statistic Verification
    Source: U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics
    Research Date: 6.28.2013

    Domestic Violence Statistics Data
    Percent of women who have experienced domestic violence 25%
    Estimated number of domestic violence incidents per year 960,000
    Victims of Domestic Violence
    Women 85%
    Men 15%
    Women ages 20-24 are at the greatest risk
    On average, 3 females and 1 male are murdered by their partner each day
    The health costs of domestic violence yearly $5.8 Billion
    Percent of female high school students who reported being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner 20%
    Percent of teens who reported threats from their boyfriend or girlfriend to harm them or themselves to avoid a breakup. 14%
    Number of children who witness domestic violence annually 6 Million +
    Number of women who are stalked by an intimate partner annually 503,485
    Percent of domestic crimes reported to police 25%

    Stat Data
    Percent of high school students that will be involved in an abusive relationship 32 %
    Percent of teenage girls who say they know someone their age that has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend 40 %
    Percent of all murder victims killed by their boyfriends 7 %
    Percent of college females that will experience some form of dating violence 19 %
    Percent of date rape victims that are young women from 14 to 17 years of age 38 %
    Percent of all sexual assaults attributed to date rape 67 %
    Percent young women raped who knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance 68 %
    Percent of the rapes of young women that occurred in their own home or a friends or relative’s home 60 %
    Percent of incidents of domestic violence involving non-married persons 40 %
    Number of American women assaulted by men each year 2,100,000
    Percent of the victims of domestic violence that are women 95 %
    Percent of all emergency room calls attributed to domestic violence 35 %
    Percent of those that abuse their partner that also physically and/or sexually abuse their children 65 %
    Number of women that die each day as a result of abuse 4
    Number of children that die each day as a result of abuse 3
    Percent of all women who sought care in hospital emergency rooms for violence related injuries 37 %
    11% of all murders in 1998 were the result of domestic violence.
    On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day.
    A child’s exposure to the father abusing the mother is the strongest risk factor for transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next.
    Slightly more than half of female victims of domestic violence live in households with children under age 12.
    Child abuse occurs in 30-60% of family violence cases that involve families with children.
    The National Domestic Violence Hotline has received more than 700,000 calls for assistance since February 1996.
    Nearly one-third of American women (31 percent) report being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives.
    It is estimates that 503,485 women are stalked by an intimate partner each year in the United States – National Institute of Justice, July 2000.
    Estimates range from 960,000 incidents of violence against a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend each year to 4 million women who are physically abused by their husbands or live-in partners each year. – Violence by Intimates: Analysis of Data on Crimes by Current or Former Spouses, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends, U.S. Department of Justice, March, 1998.
    Studies show that child abuse occurs in 30-60% of family violence cases that involve families with children.
    Women are 5 to 8 times more likely than men to be victimized by an intimate partner.
    Violence by an intimate partner accounts for about 21% of violent crime experienced by women.
    In 92% of all domestic violence incidents, crimes are committed by men against women.
    Of women who reported being raped and /or physically assaulted since the age of 18, three quarters (76 percent) were victimized by a current or former husband cohabitating partner, date, or boyfriend.
    In 1994, women separated from their spouses had a victimization rate 1 ½ times higher than separated men, divorced men, or divorced women.
    In 1996, among all female murder victims in the U.S., 30% were slain by their husbands or boyfriends.
    31,260 women were murdered by an intimate partner from 1976-1996.
    40% / percent of teenage girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.
    Family violence costs the nation from $5 to $10 billion annually in medical expenses, police and court costs, shelters and foster care, sick leave, absenteeism, and non-productivity.
    One in five female high school students reports being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner.

    Source: http://www.statisticbrain.com/domestic-violence-abuse-stats/

    • September 25, 2013 at 11:14 AM

      I emailed nbc can you ALL do the same n cbs n bless them out for promoting that book of mehos

    • September 25, 2013 at 11:53 AM

      ms Jeannie,i hope you are well,i think of you everyday
      I wish nbc and cbs could see n read your letter above

      • Jeannie5233
        September 25, 2013 at 5:59 PM


    • Laram
      September 25, 2013 at 4:22 PM

      Thank you @Jeannie. Eye opening.

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 4:44 PM

      The sad thing is these statistics only represent those that report it. Unfortunately abuse is shameful for many women as they truly love the spouse and buy the BS the next day when he treats her like a queen for awhile, until the next time. When in that situation you think you can fix it and they literally break you down emotionally as a result. You look like shit in that outfit, you didn’t do XYZ right, why did you talk to that guy you are a whore etc. It’s not just physical it is mental as they break your spirit or try. They also try to disassociate you from anyone, including family and friends. It’s humiliating as a women because if you tell people they think you are nuts as he’s so nice and would never do that. Then it progresses to the how could have been so stupid to stay with him. I was lucky as I got out as that is the lowest my self esteem has ever been and I was young, but I still don’t know where I got the courage to leave as he was horrible and scared me. I guess it was probably because I moved home and my dad was a cop at the time and I felt safe there as I had agun to kill the MF if he came and tried to hurt me again. It is sad that women feel ashamed and don’t report the abuse.

      This is a bit of a funny as to how it affected me … My current and last husband (who is a wonderful man) came home from the bar drunker than a skunk one night and threw his paper plate at me and was screaming (drunk). So I thought I am not going through this again and called 911. OMG …. my dad worked for the PD and I said yes this is XYZ’s daughter and my husband is on a rage and threw a paper plate me. They asked are there guns in the house and I said yes we have rifles but he doesn’t have them out. 1 minute later the cops were at the front door and pretty soon 5 more cop cars pulled up and then my dad (the cops called him not me). Dad said not to press charges after he talked to hubby who was crying like a baby at that time, and Dad took me and my daughter to his house for the chill period. The next day hubby came over and didn’t say he was sorry, he said he was ashamed and had made and appointment with a counselor for anger issues. We’ve had no issues in the 20 years since that happened (not like that anyway).

      I just women would educate their daughters on sons on this topic, I know I have tried.

      Sorry for the ramble/rant.

      • Jeannie5233
        September 25, 2013 at 5:34 PM

        Don’t apologize, jules – don’t ever apologize. What you say in this comment is true and is exactly how physical abuse starts – with emotional abuse. The passive aggressive digs that become outright insults; the embarrassing comments made to you in front of others; the control over what you wear and where you go; the isolation and not being allowed to socialize with anyone – the need for control becomes stronger and it begins to escalate and evolve into violence.

        I grew up in a household where domestic violence and abuse was commonplace the first fourteen years of my life. I was engaged to be married to a man who beat me to the point I was hiding bruises. He was smart, he never hit my face or my lower arms or legs. I had such low self-esteem, I actually believed him when he said I deserved it. So, I would do my besst not to make him angry. But he always found something to be angry about. Thankfully, I found the strength to leave him. And later on, I dealt with this issue how it relates to elder abuse. My sister was emotionally abusing my mother for years until my mother became so afraid she broke down and told me what was going on. That is when I intervened and took steps to protect her and make her safe.

        I am proud of you, Jules, for coming forward and telling your story. It is understandable more women do not come because of the stigma and shame attached to this issue by society. The more who do the easier it becomes for others.

        • September 25, 2013 at 7:34 PM

          Jeannie, So glad you were strong enough to get away from this guy. Talking to you on this blog I would of never guessed you grew up around domestic violence and almost married someone abusive. I’m so glad your mother finally told you what was going on with your sister. It sounds like to me, you have a wonderful husband and a great life.

          • Jeannie5233
            September 25, 2013 at 7:51 PM

            My husband was the one who taught me that I was worthwhile. He is the one who helped me gain my self-esteem back.

            I have shared much with this community but barely scratched the surface. When I was a young child, I witnessed and experienced things no child should. Let me just say this – when TSIL was revealing things about her father, I related personally, except there was also violence and abuse to deal with too, due to alcoholism. Without going into too much detail and out of respect for my father I will tell you this – he stopped drinking when I was 14 and throughout the rest of his life he did his best to try to make up for what had happened. I was able to reconcile and forgive him and when he died at the age of 60, I mourned him terribly. I still do. But I will say I still bear the scars of my childhood – it is one of the reasons why TB’s violence disturbs me so much. To this day, I cannot be around that and avoid it as much as possible – sometimes I start to shake and it makes me want to crawl into a fetal position.

            I have been married to a wonderful man for 39 years this coming October. He is far from perfect and we have had our ups and downs, but I am so grateful I found him for many reasons. He is my rock and my best friend. And with his help, I have been able to break the dysfunctional cycle handed down generation to generation from alcohol abuse. My girls are successful, grounded, happy, healthy, and contribute positively to society. I am proud of them and I am proud of myself and what I have accomplished. I am one of the lucky ones.

            • September 26, 2013 at 1:34 PM

              You have a lot to be proud of, Jeannie. Not everyone makes it through what you have.

            • September 26, 2013 at 9:10 PM

              I love you msjeannie, you are so precious ,if I cud write I would n could have written the same thing except married for 54yrs oct 8th .

            • September 26, 2013 at 9:46 PM

              I just stumbled upon this Jeannie. (((((Jeannie))))). I have been busy lately and reading, randomly, all of the comments. So, so many comments, keep them coming.

  32. September 25, 2013 at 8:55 AM

    Fame, I Didn’t read this yet, but I have one thing to say:
    Get out of My head! LOL
    Last night someone mentioned that a Taylor Armstrong book is in the works for Melissa.

  33. Honnie Badger
    September 25, 2013 at 9:03 AM

    Joey’s roid-style douchebag rages were evident on their official debut at their kid’s christening. The table banging, the fighting he started, calling his sister “garbage” and of course screaming at his father. Ugh. Ick. Ook.

    • RahRah
      September 25, 2013 at 9:23 AM

      I think TB has mental issues and they may stem from steriod use but it I believe the mental illness existed prior to any illegal drug use now combine his mental issues with his little man syndrome and you have literally a monster.

      I wonder what they really think about the public’s reaction to their little quick read? Advocating whoorish behavior in print. Who was the audience for this book? Do they have any numbers? Is it on the NY Times bestsellers list? I wonder if my local library will buy a copy?

      • September 25, 2013 at 11:09 AM

        Joey no doubt has major mental issues/illness. He has proven this over and over.

      • Buck Henry
        September 25, 2013 at 8:48 PM

        I totally believe that, he had mental issues (the reason the sister kept protecing him). Also you have to wonder what he did after getting kicked out of college back in 1993 or 4. Did he go hom and work odd jobs. I think this little guy with steroids is a walking hormone and will jump on anything in range.

    • tulip
      September 25, 2013 at 8:33 PM

      And let’s not forget the balding (common with steroid users), and I wouldn’t be surprised if he isn’t supporting a big old set of bi*ch t*ts! (medical name for it is Gynecomastia).

      All that combined with the rages also steroid use also can cause hyper-sexuality.

  34. Lauren
    September 25, 2013 at 9:17 AM

    This is so utterly disgusting and disturbing. I really can’t stand Melissa, but damn I have to feel sorry for her if she thinks this is a normal, healthy marriage. Didn’t she once make some offhand comment about her mother not doing what she was supposed to do and that’s why her father cheated? She has a lot of issues. Joe Gorga is a predator in every way. He found the “pretty” broken girl and has created a puppet out of her.

    Not to get too deep but way before I met my husband I went on a date with someone. I was nervous and hadn’t eaten much and had too much to drink. I completely blacked out and instead of being a gentleman, I woke up to my date on top of me pulling my pants off w a condom in his mouth. It was terrifying and I broke his nose during my fight. For these two to be basically encouraging marital rape and rape in general, and that women are basically always available almost makes me hope this little baby in my tummy is a boy, because I worry so much for young girls these days.

    • Saddle_River_NJ
      September 25, 2013 at 10:51 AM

      Lauren – you shouldn’t worry. You are a smart, articulate woman and your child (whichever gender) will be blessed to have you as their mother. You will instill good sense and good values which will serve your child well in this world. I’m sorry that you had to go through such a terrible event and I’m glad you broke the bastards nose.

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 3:54 PM

      Lauren, I’m so sorry you had to endure that. I agree with Saddle you will be a good mother (Congrats by the way).

    • Jeannie5233
      September 25, 2013 at 5:40 PM

      Because of your experience, you have learned the hard way and become all the stronger for it. God bless you and your little one, sweetie. Do not worry – your baby will grow into a strong, independent, compassionate human being because you will be a warrior mom!! Take care of yourself – (((Lauren)))

  35. RahRah
    September 25, 2013 at 9:19 AM

    Sounds like this must definitely be a book for gold diggers and they should have called it the “Gold Diggers Guide/Handbook to Catching and Keeping a Rich Man.”

  36. RahRah
    September 25, 2013 at 9:32 AM

    I have a friend, she is on her second marriage. She married the guy she cheated on her husband with and you know their relationship was purely sexual. Now that they’re are married she doesn’t understand why he just wants sex all the time. Some mornings she literally calls me crying from work she is so exhausted from being sexed up all night. I mean as soon as she walks in the door he wants it. She has an administrative job and does not have the income to really support or live a middle class life style so her affluence comes from a two paycheck household or a husband who has a real good salary. This is the most unhappiest woman I know but when she was cheating she was exuberant and happy. She asked me why did he treat her the way he did and y’all I really tried to hold back but this is what I said to her “maybe it is because he sees you as a vagina with two legs.” What I meant by that is this–he only wants you for the sex and he married you to make it convenient for him to have sex with you. I don’t think these people actually know what real love is, I am worried that if her butt gets to big or she becomes sick God forbid, he will leave for greener pastures.

    • September 25, 2013 at 11:16 AM

      Rah, This guy is like Joey. Sex is the only thing on their minds and it can become dangerous even if their married. Too bad she didn’t get to know him better before marrying this guy.

    • Honnie Badger
      September 25, 2013 at 11:43 AM

      Unfortunately, too many people mistake lust for love.

  37. Dianna
    September 25, 2013 at 10:11 AM

    E Online is also ripping Melissa’s book apart

    • September 25, 2013 at 10:36 AM


    • kayswhims
      September 25, 2013 at 12:43 PM

      E Online is a network of NBCUniversal Cable Entertainment. NBCUniversal spends money to sell a RHONJ Bravo contract holder’s book so they can turn around and bash it for entertainment? I guess that makes sense

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 3:39 PM

      Huff Post is now too … I’m sorry not all publicity is good publicity.

      • September 25, 2013 at 4:55 PM

        Oh no-not this time.

  38. teno
    September 25, 2013 at 10:16 AM

    Melissa and Joe Gorga are in so much debt. You can look this up on the internet. They’ll say and do anything for money and fame.

    • tulip
      September 25, 2013 at 8:18 PM

      Someone posted a few weeks ago on, I think, All About TRH some property taxes that are delinquent that Melissa and Joe owe.

  39. Saddle_River_NJ
    September 25, 2013 at 10:21 AM

    Lets also not forget that the Sneering Bitch Cohen has had a part in the creation, publication and promotion of this disgusting book. The man has no moral compass and will do anything, no matter how revolting, to juice the ratings of his darling shows. He has some demented, evil drag queen view of how women behave. To him “normal” is big hair, glossy lips and bloody cage fights. The women in his creations are for the most part simply bitchy Barbie dolls with hair spring tempers. Is it any surprise that a cheap slut whose only “talent” is between her legs would pen such an offensive book? What a bunch of disgusting people. A dumb whore and an oversexed dunce given screen time by an egomaniacal creep who probably spends his weekends in a sling getting gang-banged by a roomful of boyz from the hood. Is it such a surprise then that such a book was produced?

  40. elle
    September 25, 2013 at 11:14 AM

    It just occurred to me that TSIL’s “advice reminds me of things I’ve seen in movies set in medieval or other early times when women were trained to be concubines.

  41. Kay
    September 25, 2013 at 11:16 AM

    @pakrer2 is a 16 year old ……………the tweets speak for themselves……..I cant imagine the 16 year old even has her book.

    Melissa Gorga ‏@melissagorga 11h
    The Best! xo RT @pakrer2: @melissagorga I love ur husband because of the way he loves and treats u #ugotagoodman

    mtv,vh1,bravo,etc. ‏@pakrer2 11h
    @melissagorga I speak the truth I want I husband who will love me and treat me the way I need to be and protect me

    Twilight Fans™ ‏@TwilightTweets9 11h
    @melissagorga @pakrer2 You’ve got a beautiful family! Your daughter is soo cute! Would totally spend the day with her at the spa! #SpaDay

    Stephanie Silva ‏@stephanie_leahh 11h
    @melissagorga @pakrer2 I think that’s 1 of the reasons why ppl hate on her.Bc they have a marriage most ppl want&don’t have, they pretend 2.

    amoldeep ‏@amolbhullar 11h
    @pakrer2 @melissagorga wow like best speak weeks happened

    mtv,vh1,bravo,etc. ‏@pakrer2 11h
    @stephanie_leahh while I’m not a hater and that’s what marriage is about but I’m only 16 so I have time to find my prince

    • September 25, 2013 at 12:01 PM

      where are these families these parents that these innocent girls are buying this trash book?

  42. Nuttyz
    September 25, 2013 at 11:58 AM

    A funny review of Melissa’s book…Figured you all might enjoy it after reading all the crap TSIL and TB have been spewing


    • kayswhims
      September 25, 2013 at 2:06 PM

      That was funny. My fave was frozen dinner lol

    • September 25, 2013 at 2:49 PM

      Thanks for the link,Nuttyz We all need a good laugh now and then.

    • lulu birdie
      September 25, 2013 at 2:59 PM

      this had me in absolute stitches. i’m in tears!

      ps. im from toms river and the stuff about Melissa being a whore and a dancer are true. lookers has nights when the bartenders dance in a thong and bra, she participated but wasn’t an actual stripper. and Melissa is “love the way you lie” still your song for Bulldog (release date of the song is 2010) what year were you married again? LOL!

      • September 26, 2013 at 2:45 AM

        Thanks for that piece of info, Lulu Birdie! Didn’t the video for “Love the way you lie” get bad press because it promoted domestic violence? I think it did. It sounds like TSIL still has a thing for Bulldog, three kids and all! I wonder why narcissistic people are like that? My younger sister’s second husband left her 4 years ago and she still can’t let him go. He’s re-married and moved on with his life. I’ll say it’s some sort of control issue they have. From what I read narc.’s don’t take to being rejected easily.

  43. September 25, 2013 at 12:09 PM

    As I sit here and read all of the new posts, my heart and healing prayers go out to all posters, friends and family members who have been abused and/or violated. The statistics Jeannie posted are a real eye opener.

    This book and it’s author(s) are so disturbing and disgusting on so many levels, words escape me. The stupidity (women do not poop, shave your pits, sexy dressing, etc.), the lies, the promotion of abuse and acceptance of violence, coming from the very same people who posted a video of their baby simulating masturbation on the internet just makes me sick. This is an advise book?

    The publishers and Bravo should be sued if any act of abuse or violence is committed which results in the injury of any person who reads this book and follows TSIL’s advice.

    • Miami53
      September 25, 2013 at 2:58 PM

      Don’t forget the picture TB posted of Gino taking a leak outside.

      • Honnie Badger
        September 25, 2013 at 4:24 PM

        …and don’t forget that video of Gino pantomiming jerking off.

        • September 25, 2013 at 4:58 PM

          So very very sad 😦

        • tulip
          September 25, 2013 at 8:02 PM

          That was truly disgusting wasn’t it? I can’t believe child protective services haven’t been shown a copy of that video that is ON THE INTERNET for pedophiles to view! That is a form of pornography involving a CHILD! Having Gino doing that, filming it, then having it on the internet.

  44. nsr1076
    September 25, 2013 at 1:10 PM

    I haven’t read the comments yet but this sounds to me like a ploy to buy her book to see just how awful TB is and to get people all worked up about this. Obviously from the show all TB thinks about is his poison and it is also obvious how TSIL doesn’t want it.

  45. Sars
    September 25, 2013 at 1:59 PM

    OT but I bet when Melissa is home alone, she puts on a black wig and pulls it halfway down her forehead and squeals, looking in the mirror and calling out, “Gia! Milania! Gabriella! Audriana! Dinner’s ready! I’m New York Times best-selling
    aw-therr! I love my brother!”

    I seriously believe she has spent time looking at herself and imagining having T’s life.

    • elemcee
      September 25, 2013 at 2:31 PM

      I very much think you are correct. I have often wondered about her obsession with all things Teresa.

  46. Sars
    September 25, 2013 at 2:22 PM

    Guys, since now is the time for Bravo to be offering new contracts and ending others, please be very vocal on your social networks about whom you want gone!

  47. September 25, 2013 at 2:51 PM

    I can’t stand Andy, but I will watch WWHL this Sunday. I’m very curious what T and Joe have to say.

  48. Spaghetti Kitten
    September 25, 2013 at 3:23 PM

    I’m up in the air on this one…on one hand I thought her childhood sounded creepy – but not for any of the BS reasons she listed and that maybe the creepiness of her Dad (on the couch on the couch on the couch) attracted her to the Roid-Ridden antics of JoeG (and the house the house the house.) I think she craved the “traditional” she never had and wanted to be fully embraced into the Gorga family. And wasn’t. Two kids I can understand..3 is odd in her situ, for someone who is planning an exit.

    Not that I don’t agree she would leave it all – including her kids – in a nanosecond when the right offer comes along.

  49. Balashi
    September 25, 2013 at 3:33 PM

    Joey Gorga: “Men, I know you think your woman isn’t the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says ‘no,’ turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated. Women don’t realize how easy men are. Just give us what we want.”

    If both parties are ageeable, no problem. The way Joey presents it is marital and/or date rape. The guy is a pig. I don’t think for one minute this is a clever exit strategy for Melissa. She’s not that smart. She’s a self proclaimed puttanta, and her price is a gilded lifestyle.

  50. Confused
    September 25, 2013 at 3:46 PM

    Thank you for posting TSIL’s blog…..I’m now so disgusted that I don’t even look at their website, I don’t want them to count me as traffic. Might I suggest the same to all here?

  51. Nestings
    September 25, 2013 at 4:06 PM

    If this book is a cry for help, TSIL is totally unaware…I guess that’s the definition of a “cry for help”…she may or may not have a marriage exit strategy. I don’t care which it is…

    I simply can’t believe that any publishing professional had anything to do with this book! (Of course, my opinion is based solely on the previews offered by Amazon, but that suffices.) Ghostwriter, editor, publisher…should all be ashamed of this product. Not only is it filled with inconsistencies and poor grammar, but it advocates forced sex. That’s rape, a violent act of subjugation. Who publishes that???

    Had a few minutes to spare, so I read Amazon’s Five-Star “reviews” of the book. 22 were complete raves; 1, well, I couldn’t tell if it was pro or con; 7 were hysterically sarcastic. One commenter is waiting for TSIL’s revisionist book about Hitler…

  52. threegirlsofone
    September 25, 2013 at 4:43 PM

    After reading the review and excerpts on Jezebel it almost seems to me as if Melissa and Joe may have deliberately sensationalized their marriage – yes, we’ve seen him fly off the handle too many times to count and make despicable comments (calling Antonia a c*ckblocker comes to mind), but IMHO she is the one in control of their relationship.

    I am not buying the “I was independent until Joe taught me the way of the knife” BS. I think she is extremely calculating and manipulative and narcissistic and I highly doubt she would stay if the horrors described in that book are 100% true. I sincerely wonder just what IS true at all and what isn’t an exaggerated, fictionalized account of the boilerplate that is their marriage. I could easily picture her whispering in Joe’s ear, yes, honey, include this (dominant lion, marital rape, etc. etc.) in your joements, and I’ll write about this (puttana, no pooping, (CMON!) humbling housecleaning, sex whenever even if I don’t feel like it) and we’ll show everyone we have this supposed fun, hot “throwback” marriage we’re proud of. She wittingly or unwittingly created the persona of Joe as a misogynistic, abusive asshole, and once again has set herself up to be victim. I think he bought it hook line and sinker and now he’s going to get screwed. And maybe, just maybe, she will too.

    If she isn’t a machiavellen puppetmaster who penned this to get out of her marriage but truly believes people will be inspired by what she writes of as her marriage, then she has miscalculated bigtime – the outcry on social media is pretty deafening and the book is an insult to all women and men everywhere who have survived or been victims of abuse and rape.

    I do think Joe has anger and sexual issues but why would he be ironing his own shirt in AZ (on tv no less) if he truly was this old fashioned gender based roles only bastard? Melissa has been caught on camera getting physical herself at the christening and during the fight between Juicy and Joe, she looks absolutely disgusted every time Joe comes near her, and she has called him an idiot on national tv. If this really was her marriage as she describes in her book, would she do those things? In her blog after the idiot comment, she explained it away by saying that she and Joe have the type of marriage where they call each other out when one of them is wrong and learn from each other or are stronger for it or( some such sh*t). That doesn’t fit with her book’s message based on what I’ve read!

    I have not been in an abusive relationship and I don’t mean to offend anyone here, and my heart and prayers go out to the posters here who have been abused. If what she writes of IS true, then so help them both, and their kids.

    Sorry for the long post, rant over!

    • GPM
      September 25, 2013 at 5:31 PM

      Yes! I think we were both writing at the same time, threegirlsofone, and saying very much the same thing!

      • threegirlsofone
        September 25, 2013 at 5:55 PM

        Your eloquent and insightful post was right on IMO GPM!! 🙂

    • Confused
      September 25, 2013 at 5:35 PM

      Hmmmm….I like you’re thinking and I think that you could be on to something here. I have been in an abusive relationship and while there is absolutely many, many signs of abuse in that home, there is a lot that just doesn’t make sense, namely Melissa’s ego — it’s too big. Perhaps she is the abuser???

      • threegirlsofone
        September 25, 2013 at 5:59 PM

        Good point @confused!

      • September 25, 2013 at 8:45 PM

        I think you nailed it. That scene where he lost his temper and she sent him to the room and berated him really stood out to me. I just can’t see her as the victim.

      • September 26, 2013 at 4:08 AM

        I think TSIL messes with “slow” TB’s mind! I’ll say she brainwashed TB into stabbing his sister in the back for a spot on RHONJ! When TB was with Dr. V it didn’t take him long for him to hug his sister in that emotional scene. I’m not trying to make TB out to be this innocent victim because I think he had jealousy issue’s with Tre most of his life! He just found the right women to tell him his jealousy isn’t his fault, it’s the person he’s jealous of, which was Tre and Juicy. She probably made TB feel like he is the wronged one for having such mean/awful feelings for his sister and Juicy. I think someone like TSIL thinks when another person can cause that jealousy emotion to surface, then that person is a bad person who must be destroyed! Their delusional and their views of “reality” are distorted!

    • kayswhims
      September 25, 2013 at 7:55 PM


  53. September 25, 2013 at 5:08 PM

    I really hope groups against domestic violence stand up and get this book of Melissa pulled from the market. They can protest at her book signings, she has many of them right now. We have to contact some groups because a book like that is like promoting the Taliban to take over. I am sorry but I am still upset about this! Like I told you guys before I am Arabic and have seen many women go down this road because old tradions told them to do so, this so wrong on many levels.

    • Confused
      September 25, 2013 at 5:38 PM

      I agree. I actually was looking for her next TV appearance to write them ahead of time to point out this article. It’s clear though, that the appearances are all scripted with approved questions because I just cannot believe that some of these very strong women who have interviewed her would not nail them to the wall. I thought that the expressions of Tiki and his wife were priceless — they had to sit next to scum.

  54. GPM
    September 25, 2013 at 5:29 PM

    I’ve had SOOOOO many thoughts going through my head regarding this topic I can’t seem to even get them organized!

    First question for the group: Why should we even believe what TSIL says about her marriage in the book? Why should we even believe that the quotes attributed to TB are in fact his?

    The reason I’m struggling with this are:

    (1) In the book, TSIL tells an outright lie about when she and TB met;

    (2) The whole “Boca b***hes” incident in the book seems so ridiculous that it’s been suggested it was lifted from The Outsiders;

    (3) TSIL never seems to have an original thought on any subject; she copies EVERYTHING, from Teresa and others, so it doesn’t seem like much of a stretch to think that another book, like the Cowboys book perhaps, could be the basis for a pack of lies;

    (4) TB and TSIL have made a number of public appearances; I’m puzzled as to why they would be so visibly uncomfortable discussing this book;

    (4) Whether it’s with respect to Teresa, the Boca b***ches, or her former friends “I’m the victim here!” is an ongoing and never ending mantra with TSIL;

    (5) While I agree that there are indications that TB is controlling and abusive, TSIL does not appear to possess the characteristics of an abused woman. I know quite a bit about the subject of abuse because I’ve been studying it quite seriously for well over a decade (a dearly beloved close relative of mine has been in a series of abusive relationships that span everything from mental and emotional abuse to physical abuse so severe it’s put her in the hospital more than once) and TSIL simply does not display the mannerisms or behaviors of an abused woman. While she certainly “talks the talk” of an abused woman well — “pleasing her husband” etc. — it’s obvious from her interpersonal interaction with TB that she’s the one who is actually in control. She seems quite confident that she can use her superior intellect, verbal skills and sexuality to convince him of anything, but has consistently expressed discomfort when people speak to TB in her absence, isolating him from alternative viewpoints. And how many times have we seen her jump in and divert the conversation when it starts going in a direction she’s uncomfortable with? This woman is not scared; in truth, her baldfaced lies indicate a breathtaking arrogance.

    TSIL’s book makes TB look really, really bad — but is it possible that we are doing him a grave disservice by believing that any of it is actually true?

    • kayswhims
      September 25, 2013 at 9:08 PM

      Bryan Bulldog Bowen and others know how TSIL operates. From some of the comments he made, I would say he saw the same pattern she is doing to break TB away from his parents and sister. Bryan listened to his parents and he said his relationship with his sister is unbreakable. I believe Bryan that TSIL got him inot many fights. It reminded me of all the conflicts my father and siblings were in that revolved around my mother.

      This is from TSIL’s book Google still has free preview, just type in keywords about fighting/fight etc.

      “Fans of RHONJ know all too well that Joe will go to war for me. He will march into battle and slay my enemies”

      Now think of all the tiimes TB marched into battle for TSIL.

    • September 26, 2013 at 4:35 AM

      I think their is a “Joe-ment” in the book about TB not ever changing a diaper. I watched a clip of the Gorga’s on “Bethenny” yesterday and TSIL told Bethenny that TB (paraphrasing), “puts the diaper’s on backwards”. How can TB put diaper’s on backwards when he wrote he doesn’t change crappy diapers? I’ll tell you, because they are both liars! So, I’m with you GPM at not knowing what to believe in her book. There is one “Joe-ment” that he lied about!

      • September 26, 2013 at 12:06 PM

        Joe-ment. I mean does she not set her self up for ridicule just by making up that word? what is a Joe-ment when you come right down to it. Here is a guy from a nice traditional family that doesn’t turn out right. It happens. Not the parents fault. He becomes a stripper and gets thrown out of college for raping a girl and his parents have to lose all their money to give to the victim so that they won’t press charges. His sister and brother-in-law teach him how to flip houses and buildings and he becomes a prosperous man against all odds as he is exceedingly stupid. Almost a mongoloid. And for those of you who think that is a politically incorrect term, I like it.

        A person with caveman-like facial attributes that unintentionally acts as if they have a mental impairment.” He repays this generosity and love from his family by clawing his way on to a t.v. show which is his sister’s place of employment and calling her a bitch, scum, garbage, liar, etc. He also sits by while puseseople call his parents liars and other names. He spends every moment on the show attempting to portray his sister in a bad light. He tries to bite off his brother-in-laws balls after attacking him because his brother-in-law had the audacity to ask him to apologize to his sister for calling her scum five times in a row on national television. He sucks his wife’s feet. He wears women’s undergarments and abuses steroids. He starts fights only when he knows somebody will break them up. Then he makes statements in a book advocating marital rape and domestic servitude for women.

        And Melissa thinks it will be adorable to call them Joe-ments. What a f****ing idiot she is and he is a miniature, cowardly cave man and a complete pos as a human being.

        • September 26, 2013 at 12:11 PM

          Oh, did I mention that he swindles his parents out of their life savings and leaves them homeless and has no remorse. He thinks his parents are resentful of him because his sister is telling them bad things about him. As if they don’t know first-hand what an asshole he is.
          He probably killed small animals as a child for laughs. His balls are shriveled to the size of small grapes and he can’t get it up, which is why he talks about sex all the time. Like a sixteen year old. He calls his daughter a cock-blocker. he throws his wife lavish birthday parties, but his kids get a stale piece of cheesecake from Denny’s with one candle. He is in court today for luring a man to be beaten up while being held by other men and the man still manages to throw his pimply ass into a sink across the room. What a guy. yes, don’t we all wish we had husbands like this said no one ever.

          • September 26, 2013 at 2:00 PM

            gessie, once again you summed everything up.

          • September 26, 2013 at 2:07 PM

            You need to write a book, Gessie! You are so clever with words! You say everything that I’m thinking! I bet when the Gorga’s heard the word “Joe-ment” or “Gorganize” they probably thought they’d make it into the urban dictionary! I think it was on Dr. Oz when the Gorga’s were promoting TSIL’s caveman book and TB told TSIL, “Tell them about my Joe-ments”. I had to let out a chuckle (like Juicy did when Wyatt Webb educated TSIL about the difference between being nice vs. being manipulative)!

            • September 26, 2013 at 4:19 PM

              Oh, thank God I didn’t see that. I would have vomited.

  55. NCGal
    September 25, 2013 at 5:33 PM

    7 Terrible, Sexist And Dangerous Passages From “Real Housewife of New Jersey” Melissa Gorga’s New Book


    • Confused
      September 25, 2013 at 5:45 PM

      Now a national publication has slammed her. I hope the bad press continues

    • September 25, 2013 at 7:23 PM

      Great article. Loved it!

    • jennacheryl
      September 26, 2013 at 2:00 AM

      dang, at least she is in Cosmo

  56. Debbie J
    September 25, 2013 at 5:35 PM

    Melissa Gorga ‏@melissagorga 3h
    I’m so disgusted that a reporter has taken things completely out of context simply for shock value. #SAD

    It would appear that Melissa is having problems with a reporter and her book.

    • Confused
      September 25, 2013 at 5:48 PM

      I didn’t think that sluts or whores could get disgusted. Learn something new everyday. BTW I don’t care how you slice it or dice it, even if you took those excerpts from the book and cleaned them 10x’s over, they would still be disgusting to anyone with 1/2 a brain. Got it Melissa Whorega?

    • Jeannie5233
      September 25, 2013 at 5:50 PM

      It would appear that the Jezebel article is being picked up by many outlets on the internet and the blogs are writing all about it. TSIL can try and do all the damage control she wants; what she writes and the interjections of TB throughout with his caveman mentality in that rag being called a book, is clearly within context. And that is what is really #SAD

    • old news
      September 25, 2013 at 6:39 PM

      out of context can be simply shown by showing the before and after of the information. The problem is here that it is NOT out of context. It is clear that the premise she is trying to defend is clearly what she meant it to be read out. There is no reading in between the lines here. Its all wrong.

      I saw the pics of the young chicks at Rowan for her book signing. I feel sorry for them. I hope they realize their worth. Mel seems to not.

  57. September 25, 2013 at 6:17 PM

    Why do I get the feeling that ” shock value” is not a word that she often is using, believe you guys some team is doing some damage control this upcoming days. This can go really bad, u heard it here first!!!!

  58. Jeannie5233
    September 25, 2013 at 6:42 PM

    Jacs’ blog is up on Bravo – insulting to Penny; contradictory to what she testifed in court about JTG: and she slams all the “haters” –

    “Penny “Taught Autism”?
    Posted by Jacqueline Laurita – September 25, 2013


    Kim D. told me I had actually been in Penny’s presence a couple of times in the past in quick passing at her store and at one of her events, but for some reason, I couldn’t remember her AT ALL. I certainly don’t know the girl, and we have never been formally introduced. I am sure I would have remembered her if she had been rude to me in the past, so she must have been nice to my face. Even when Penny was pointed out to me at Moxie, she didn’t look familiar at all to me. Maybe I was distracted by her hair, but I didn’t recognize her face. Come to think of it, I have met lots of people, and nobody has actually been rude to my face upon meeting them. I guess most rude people just talk behind my back or hide behind their computers like cowards.

    Once we arrived at Moxie Salon, I was told it was rumored that Johnny may be coming, contrary to what I had heard previously. I really wanted to confront him about what he had been saying on social media, to the press, and around town about my family, me as a mother, and about my son. Maybe because his wife “taught Autism” he thought he was an expert on the topic and could tell whether or not my son “graduated” that class with a diagnosis. He is the one constantly talking about all of us on social media and everywhere else, but WE are the ones trying to get attention? Ok. (Eye roll.)

    My husband and I were disgusted and bewildered by the amount of hate that was obsessively coming from him. It was unbelievable to me that a grown man would put so much effort into trying to ruin another person’s life that he didn’t even know for no apparent reason. I was curious if Johnny had an aggressive mental disorder that could potentially be very dangerous. What sane person tweets horrible things about people he’s never met all day long? Are his hot dogs not selling these days, because I can think of something entertaining for him to do with those left overs to fill up his…spare time?!

    Maybe after confronting Johnny, he would tell me a random juvenile delinquent had hacked into his social media and it wasn’t really him. That would make much more sense. It certainly didn’t sound like a grown man. I decided to get to the bottom of it and ask the both of them face to face. If it was them saying those awful things I saw and heard, they could at least have the guts to look me in the eyes and say it to my face instead of hiding behind a computer like cowards. This was their big chance to say, directly to me, what they have always wanted to say, or had been saying about me and my family. I was giving them their shot. I then wanted to know their reasoning for saying these horrible, ugly things. I was just trying to make sense of it all. It was interesting how he announced on Twitter after that night that his attorney advised him to delete all his tweets over the past few years. That is why he had deleted them? I know why.

    I confronted Penny because there were things on my mind that I felt needed addressing, and I wasn’t about to let it go. Penny was finally in the same room as me, and the odds of us being in the same room again were slim to none. To my surprise, Penny was just as sweet as pie to me. I was confused. I actually kind of liked her when she was being so nice to my face and when she said that she loves kids with Autism, although she kind of lost me a little when she said she “taught Autism.” I’m still trying to figure that one out, but that is neither here nor there.

    So… Penny denied everything to my face as I looked her straight in her eyes, and she, of course, defended her husband. All I was hearing from her was that they didn’t do it, someone made them do it, and they were following orders from someone who was feeding them ammunition. OK… contradicting… but she sounded somewhat convincing, but truth or lie, what more could I say to her if she wasn’t going to admit anything to me? I wasn’t about to get into a “Yes you did!”/”No I didn’t!” war with her. Either way, their actions were unacceptable. I had to move on from it. Ugh! I hate when people lie to my face and/or about me. Have some integrity.

    I wanted to ask Johnny the same things I asked Penny. I couldn’t believe the things he said and did. Guess you’ll have to wait for the season finale.

    Now I will address “haters” in general for a minute. Haters on social media baffle me. Please answer these questions.

    1. Why follow someone on social media that you don’t like? That is weird. I don’t like your negative energy, and that is why I am not following you and blocked you. I’m sorry that you feel rejected. Try being kind.

    2. If we have never met, how could I have hurt or offended you personally, and so deeply, that you feel compelled to not only reach out to me, but to fixate, insult, obsess, and harass me? It’s as if you actually believe I murdered your puppy. I didn’t.

    3. How is me living MY life, and the choices I make, effecting YOUR life so negatively? If it’s hard to watch, and effecting you so emotionally, I advise you not to watch me anymore. Fast forward or don’t follow me. Hate makes you ugly and is not healthy. Save yourself.

    4. Did you know there is a difference between constructive criticism and insulting someone? Google it! When you insult me, I block you.

    5. Did you know that repetitively spreading rumors consisting of accusations that are not proven to be true (FALSE accusations) and maliciously stating them as facts is slanderous, defamation of character, and harassment?

    6. Do you understand the difference between having an opinion of someone and seeking out a complete stranger to fixate, insult, slander, defame, harass, and obsess over them? It is abnormal, psychotic, and illegal.

    7. If your daily focus consists of finding ways to hate on me, aren’t you losing focus on yourself and on important positive things and people that you should be focusing on in your own life? While the hate inside you has been growing and eating you alive, I’ve been doing my job working for Bravo, creating a beauty website I’m hoping to launch soon (AltruisticBeauty.com) and beauty products, raising autism awareness in various ways, writing books, and taking care of my family. How you doin’?

    “Haters keep following me, while I follow my dreams.”

    8. Do you have a psychotic disorder that may or may not have been addressed? That would explain a lot, and I would handle you differently. Check on that.

    The reality is I’m really not your enemy; you are your own enemy. You are your own worst enemy. If you continue on this path, you will self-destruct, and I will not have done a thing to you. Get a hold of yourselves!

    The truth always comes out in the end. That is why I don’t fear it.

    I am becoming an even stronger Autism advocate as time goes on. As hard as you haters are trying, you can’t stop me. I have too much passion and I am too strong for you.

    Thank you to all you wonderful, kind hearted, supportive people that have appreciated our sincere efforts to raise Autism awareness, who love my family, who have supported me no matter what, who lift me up, who have shared with me their own stories, information, and resources, who make me smile and inspire me every day. You are a part of my joy and I wish you all the best, always! (The rest of you….not so much) XOXO!


    • Jeannie5233
      September 25, 2013 at 7:07 PM

      P.S. Jacs, along with her husband and TB, are all due in court tomorrow for a hearing on those assault charges.

      (1) She testified JTG was told not to come. Yet in her blog, she states she heard he was coming. Of course she did – the Wakiles were on the phone with the Greeks for a lengthy time the night before trying to convince JTG to come.

      (2) She testified she was scared to death of him that night. If she was so scared, why did she confront him then (we haven’t seen this part yet)?

      (3) She says JTG erased the tweets because his lawyer advised him to; yet Bravo was able to capture his other tweets but not the one where he alleged spoke about Nicholas. Note she says he was doing this over a long period of time. If that were the case, there would be more than one missing tweet. For someone who is notorious for taking screenshots and making recordings that she “can’t disclose”, how come she or the producers have not been able to come up with any of them. It is also known, that Twitter keeps an archive; even deleted tweets can be recovered.

      P.P.S. Rumor has it Jacqueline will not be back next Season and Kathy will be a “Friend”.

      • September 25, 2013 at 7:27 PM

        She sounds really angry at the world. Bitch should get off twitter if she can’t deal with haters. What an idiot.

        • September 25, 2013 at 9:11 PM

          I’ve been reading your comments for over a year now and I think it’s official: you rock! You’re always on point and concise about it too. Glad you’re on the side of the sane viewers.

      • mzjulesaz
        September 25, 2013 at 10:04 PM

        Jeannie … JTG tweeted tonight that you can you recover deleted tweets with instructions. He challenged anyone to provide a tweet of when he said something negative against Nick.

      • Dianna
        September 26, 2013 at 5:32 AM

        To bad she didn’t apply these steps to herself when she was talking texting about Teresa

    • GPM
      September 25, 2013 at 7:14 PM

      With respect to her comments regarding Johnny, Jacqueline might want to refer to No. 5 of her blog post. The standard reality show liability waivers typically protect the producers and the network from lawsuits but they do usually do not include similar protection with respect to lawsuits between show participants.

      I read Johnny’s Twitter irregularly and from afar but, while he has certainly been candid about TSIL, I have never once seen him tweet, post or say anything whatsoever about the Lauritas, much less post about them or anyone else on the show either constantly or obsessively.

      Now that I think about it, Jacqueline might want to refer to No. 8 of her blog post as well. . .

    • September 25, 2013 at 7:29 PM

      She must have A LOT OF HATERS! She devoted half her blog to addressing the haters. This delusional heifer must think that she’s the only one allowed to be nasty on twitter.

      I still don’t believe that Johnny said anything bad about Nick. If she had said he called her a liar or said that she used his autism for sympathy – I could believe that – because I very much believe she is, she did and still does. That’s just my personal opinion of her.

    • mzjulesaz
      September 25, 2013 at 7:50 PM

      She is truly delusional!

    • September 26, 2013 at 12:13 PM

      Jacqueline is insane. This blog proves it.

    • September 26, 2013 at 9:27 PM

      That blog is reason enough for Bravo to fire Jac – insulting the viewers and telling them not to watch the show. And it should help out the Greeks if they decide to file a civil suit against the Lauritas.

  59. NCGal
    September 25, 2013 at 7:25 PM

    After reading her blog, I tend to believe she will not be back and I do not think it is voluntary. There is a bitterness there.

    I did respond to each one of her points, doubt it will be printed but maybe Bravo doesn’t care anymore.

  60. packerlover
    September 25, 2013 at 8:14 PM

    Melissa is a self serving, manipulative, liar. No way is she a “victim” as portrayed in this book. I think this an appeasement to neanderthal Joe because he is nothing but a cuckolded jockey to a cheating horse. In his pea brain, this makes him look like “the man”. How embarrassing for him that the world knows she cheated on him, and not the other way around. This book is a rebuttal to those rumors, as if to say, “see? Theres no way I couldve possibly cheated with the leash he makes me wear” jmho.

    • packerlover
      September 25, 2013 at 8:16 PM

      Ps, I can imagine Andy reading this crap wringing his hands and laughing his ass off! Hes not that dumb, he knows they will do or say anything for the spotlight. Who wins? Bravo

  61. tulip
    September 25, 2013 at 8:26 PM

    After all the backlash this book is generating, I don’t see how Melissa and Joe can continue to go on the talk show / NBC circuit promoting this book! NBC needs to be held accountable if they put these two in front of the cameras to push a book that condones marital rape! And especially, Andy Cohen needs to have his a** fired for even allowing this pukefest to continue. How much worse can it get? Andy Cohen is a BIG liability for NBC.

    • September 25, 2013 at 10:08 PM

      3 cheers for your comment….let’s get it done

    • September 25, 2013 at 10:32 PM

      Andy Cohen needs to remove himself from the circle jerk in the Hampton’s and do some damage control. Of course if someone was advocating raping gay men, he’d be screeching like a baboon from the rooftops of the bathhouse in Fire Island. and that is the truth. time to call him out for real on being a woman hater.

    • my6girls2012
      September 26, 2013 at 8:39 AM

      I don’t think any of these talk show hosts even read the book before interviewing these idiots. But, I did notice on Dr Oz, his wife looked really turned off by Melissa and Joey; maybe she DID read it?

  62. Rachel
    September 25, 2013 at 8:45 PM

    Some people can support tSIL and I understand that they might like her more than T or whatever. Here’s my thing, it is very very apparent that they are condoning abuse – not only sexual but emotional and physical abuse. If I tell my husband that I do not want to have sex, it means NO – it does not mean take me. This is how rapists think – I know have no doubt in my mind that the rape rumors are true. Also, I think it is a very sexist when TB says my sons can bring whomever they want but I wanna keep Antonia my little girl” I gotta be honest and say this is probably the way him ad Teresa were broguth up. He did whatever he wanted with whom he wanted and Juicy was Tre’s one and only. If I were Melissa, I would pull that book and pull it FAST! It’s embarrassing and dangerous to let this sort of book be out there giving girls and women the wrong idea of how a husband should act and what you have to do as a wife. I believe that we should honor our husbands but I do not believe that you should do as your husbands want and everything be your fault and you should take his crap.

    • September 25, 2013 at 10:34 PM

      It certainly does give one pause with regard to the old college rape rumors. hopefully his victim will see this quote and be so enraged that she comes forward.

      • Rachel
        September 25, 2013 at 10:58 PM

        I would really hope she does come out, no one should go through that and be kept in the dark. Rape is not something that is funny or something that should be talked about so lightly. We should be outraged that this is written and that they published it and the fact that Bravo promotes it, they should be ashamed and they should fire Melissa and Joe Gorga because they are promoting something as disgusting as this.

        • jennacheryl
          September 26, 2013 at 12:24 AM

          Sorry Rachel I disagree. If she does come out it will make her a victim all over again to these animals! If she does she has my support but sometimes you gotta move on in life. This girl has done that. Right now all of this is needs to die down for her sake. Do you think the Marcos and all the Gorgas would stop at nothing to destroy her? I hope she is a VP of banking in Dubai or somewhere safe from this. I know she still thinks about this crime as all victims do but my sympathies lay with her

  63. September 25, 2013 at 8:57 PM

    Melissa Gorga ‏@melissagorga
    If you’ve read my book, you know that I am promoting mutual love, respect, honesty, and loyalty. #TRUTH
    11:27 AM – 25 Sep 13

    Rhonj Season 5 ‏@rhonj_5 6h
    @melissagorga @TrueJersey43 Honesty?! You said you met Joe in 2003 to Glamour Mag, but in your book you said 2001. Oh and the poop thing LOL

    Elizabeth ‏@TrueJersey43 6h
    @rhonj_5 @melissagorga What a delusional nutbag, really

    Rhonj Season 5 ‏@rhonj_5 6h
    @TrueJersey43 @melissagorga The bitch lies!

    Elizabeth ‏@TrueJersey43 5h
    @rhonj_5 @melissagorga That explains her 3 nose jobs lol

    Rhonj Season 5 ‏@rhonj_5 5h
    @TrueJersey43 @melissagorga She had a lot more than that.

    Meghan ‏@Meghan102909 5h
    @melissagorga some if the things you said are way out of line . Think of Anitonia. This isn’t 1950. Omg .

    Rhonj Season 5 ‏@rhonj_5 5h
    @Meghan102909 @melissagorga @TrueJersey43 She said in her book, that she never poops.

    Melissa Gorga ‏@melissagorga
    I’m so disgusted that a reporter has taken things completely out of context simply for shock value. #SAD
    11:25 AM – 25 Sep 13

    La Maldita Lisiada ‏@TooFabulous4U 6h
    @melissagorga You are promoting misogyny and sexism. It’s okay for men to overpower women? IDTS.

    Bonnie & Blithe ‏@bonnieandblithe 6h
    @melissagorga it’s NOT OUT OF CONTEXT! It’s ACTUAL quotes from your book! #RHONJ

    La Maldita Lisiada ‏@TooFabulous4U 6h
    @bonnieandblithe We’re supposed to drink the Gorga juice, but we refuse.

    Kim Pirrella ‏@kimpirrella 6h
    @melissagorga I know right! Don’t worry people with common sense get where your coming from. #PayNoMind

    Dee Gruz ‏@DeeGruz 5h
    @HWifeinTraining @melissagorga “if your wife says no, its ok rip her clothes off” oh yeah just what would make my marriage work- NOT!!!!!

    Alexis ‏@drellnco 5h
    @melissagorga what has been taken out of context?

    Dee Gruz ‏@DeeGruz 5h
    @HWifeinTraining @melissagorga Thats how dumb she is, she dosnt even know what out of context means!! Its quoted from the book! Moron

    Dee Gruz ‏@DeeGruz 5h
    @bonnieandblithe @melissagorga Whether she likes it or not she has to drink it because he is the KING and she is the Queen! Lolllll

    Alexis ‏@drellnco 5h
    @kimpirrella it’s common sense that men should be allowed to rape? Take the blinders off and be a decent human being and a good WOMAN.

    Alexis ‏@drellnco 5h
    @kimpirrella I understand your desire for fame but your sis has gone 2 far. Sometimes you have to stand up for what is right despite family

    Alexis ‏@drellnco 5h
    @bonnieandblithe @JenGotClassNass hard to be out of context when he quotes a large portion of the book

    Sue Cohen ‏@plainviewsue 5h
    @HWifeinTraining @melissagorga Excuse me? Those were her words. Those were his words. That is what is disgusting.

    • Laker
      September 25, 2013 at 9:26 PM

      HAHA I am the one going wild on twitter– follow me at drellnco 🙂 I am going absolutely nuts over this on twitter though so beware if you don’t want your TL spammed with my outrage

      • September 25, 2013 at 10:31 PM

        Just followed…!

      • AnnieMarie
        September 26, 2013 at 12:19 AM

        I will be following soon!

      • September 26, 2013 at 4:22 PM

        I’m following you! I love you. Platonically.

    • Maze
      September 26, 2013 at 2:10 PM

      Out of context? WTF. There IS NO proper context for a comment like Joe Gorga’s. No means no. It’s a simple concept. Even toddlers are expected to understand the meaning of no. This is too much. I could care less about the Housewives manufactured drama. I’ve been watching reality tv too long. These people are employees of their network playing a role no more, no less. Been that way since the Real World. So when one of these employees spews disgusting garbage like this? It reflects on the network they represent and it is their responsibility to deal with that employee. They need to be fired. Hell, Sirens needs to be fired. It’s all gone too far. Never commented on a HW site before today, generally all this BS just amuses me in a morbid kindof way. But this is too much. MTV usedto get people who were out of control on their shows professional help back in the day. Even they have fallen pretty far from the old days when Bunim kept a lid on reality “stars'” behavior, but not to the level Bravo has sank to. Jeebus fuck.

  64. kayswhims
    September 25, 2013 at 9:18 PM

    From TSIL’s book

    “In a game of chess, the King can only move one square at a time. The Queen can zip across the board at every turn. As the Queen I create the playbook of our marriage”

    • September 25, 2013 at 9:49 PM

      Can you imagine what she’ll be like when menopause hits her a$$.Her fake nose will probably melt off ? She’s gonna have to re-write that “playbook”

      • September 26, 2013 at 2:08 PM

        …she will soon be pooping in her depends!

  65. Laker
    September 25, 2013 at 9:25 PM

    Hi everyone– please email sm619@bncollege.com to express your disapproval and disappointment that a book promoting rape would be advertised on Rowan University’s campus. I contacted Rowan University and they said they have nothing to do with the guests– it is Barnes and Noble.

    • September 25, 2013 at 9:49 PM

      The real problem with this book is her daughter will one day read it. That tells me Melissa does not put her children first. She always talking about how much her kids mean to her and how she hates being away from them. She wrote this book for the MONEY period. She is the most self centered person I have ever seen.

    • jennacheryl
      September 26, 2013 at 1:39 AM


  66. September 25, 2013 at 9:44 PM

    this makes me ill…….all for 15 minutes. Your children will suffer in more ways than one, I hope it was worth it. I think after the spray hair, and all the bloggers responding, Bravo HAD to take notice that they were a JOKE!!!! and knew that they couldn’t sugar coat this tag team any longer . I think the “smart ones” knew that the “dumb ones” would take the “heat off them”……well played Caroline, but remember, if in fact it’s true that there is a spin-off….your next, all of “yous”….unless you “own your own producers”

  67. tulip
    September 25, 2013 at 9:48 PM

    Lots of sites picking up on this story. D Listed, Celebitchy (a lot of folks there don’t even know who she is!) and their local New Jersey newspaper:


  68. tulip
    September 25, 2013 at 10:02 PM

    Let’s not forget that Bravo/Andy/NBC are all getting a cut of profits from this book. I hope they get hammered with e mails!

    Remember when NBC ratings fell when they treated Ann Curry like crap? The viewers were on the blogs saying they were boycotting NBC. They hated what Matt Lauer and NBC did to her.
    They are still suffering from lower ratings from that. GMA has them beat still in the ratings. They can get all the fancy new TV sets and furnishings, but the powers-that-be over there are so out of tune with what the viewers want.

  69. September 25, 2013 at 10:08 PM

    Maybe this question has been answered, but is there anyway or anyone that could pull this book off of the shelves?

  70. Laker
    September 25, 2013 at 10:30 PM

    EVERYONE please write Boulevard Books and Cafe with your disapproval that she is a guest at their store! I have all the contact info and a letter you can send! http://womendeserverights.wordpress.com/2013/09/26/please-contact-your-local-book-companies-with-this-letter/

  71. Laker
    September 25, 2013 at 10:58 PM

    All of Book Revue’s info is also here. You can copy and paste my letter directly. http://womendeserverights.wordpress.com/2013/09/26/please-contact-book-revue-with-this-letter-contact-info-and-letter-inside/

    All contact info for their facebook page and twitter is there, too.

  72. Rachel
    September 25, 2013 at 11:07 PM

    guys I feel like we need to light Bravo and Andy up with tweets, messages, letters and calls letting them know we do not approve of this! I understand that us disagreeing with the storyline is one thing but not saying anything when someone condones rape is NOT ok. We need to fight for the men and women that are being raped everyday by their spouses, family members, friends, strangers. We need to take a stand as viewers and let them know we will not support this in any shape or form!

    • Laker
      September 25, 2013 at 11:08 PM

      my thoughts exactly– see my posts above about contacting the bookstores hosting Melissa! Email, tweet, and facebook them! all the info is there! Also, tweet @bravowwhl and hashtag #wwhl demanding a response to her book!

      • Rachel
        September 25, 2013 at 11:12 PM

        Laker, I am writing a letter as we speak, rape is something I take very seriously. Do you know how to email or write the publisher? We need to blow them up. This goes farther than me not liking her, I really honestly think she should be fired after this.

      • tulip
        September 25, 2013 at 11:22 PM

        Great idea Laker! Could your links also be put on the other Housewives blogs to reach as many as possible to contact the bookstores?

        • Laker
          September 26, 2013 at 12:31 AM

          Yes put them anywhere you like 🙂

          • GPM
            September 26, 2013 at 12:50 AM

            Laker, I am SO impressed by your organizational abilities and passion! I typically do not involve myself in social media efforts but Enga’s post below convinced me to make an exception in this case.

            According to Wikipedia, Bravo “currently broadcasts a mix of reality series aimed primarily at females between the ages of 25 and 54 years old.”

            Let’s just see how that demographic feels about marital rape and the subjugation of women, shall we?

  73. Saddle_River_NJ
    September 25, 2013 at 11:11 PM

    Let’s not forget that this filthy book is just the icing on the confection baked up by Andy Cohen. None of my catchy names here. Andy Cohen the executive vice president of development and talent at Bravo. Andy Cohen the force behind the creation and promotion of some of the trashiest programs on tv. His precious RHONJ has morphed into a horrible, dark experiment of manipulation and manufactured “reality”. We on this blog have been the ones to first realize the truth and attempted to expose it. Fame has made a valiant effort to get the truth out. She is our hero. The time and effort she put for no benefit other than getting the truth out is a testament to her character. What happens now? The Bravo machine keeps spewing out this garbage. I for one have been telling eveyone I know to just stop watching anything on Bravo. It is just filth. Good grief – I’m starting to feel like one of those dowdy temperance matrons from the turn of the century. I’m fed up with the garbage and it’s time for a change.

    • mzjulesaz
      September 26, 2013 at 12:34 AM

      Saddle I agree! I only watch NJ and nothing else Bravo. I will stop Bravo completely after the reunion. I’m a glutton and have to see how it plays out. Bravo is scum for condoning this shit.

    • September 26, 2013 at 9:36 AM

      Fame is a selfless hero and investigative reporter. And a sweetie pie. Maybe it is time that women of good character take a stand against Bravo. They put this book out and have been giving it free advertising on their shit show. They have been promoting it so there can be no other conclusion other than they stand behind it’s contents.

  74. tulip
    September 25, 2013 at 11:33 PM

    What’s interesting to me is that RadarOnline has not mentioned this once! Proof positive IMO that Bravo is behind all of the HW stories that are put on there. Just about every other news channel online is talking about this. RadarOnline? Crickets. Very telling.

    • September 26, 2013 at 12:17 PM

      Very telling, indeed. And of course it won’t be picked up by U.S. Weekly as Ashlee Holmes works there. remember her? The daughter of the one who thought it was terrible that teresa was being talked about in the tabloids even though she never said anything bad about anybody?

  75. punkinseed
    September 26, 2013 at 12:11 AM

    Hit them where it really hurts. Threaten a BOYCOTT Of every single sponsor if they don’t pull this book and fire Andy Cohen and the entire production team. Notify the sponsors that you will not purchase any of their products or services if they don’t pull their ads. We can get a list of the advertisers.
    And who in the colleges and other businesses promoting this book that are sitting on Boards of Trustees and Directors are going to allow a trashy book promoting marital rape will allow this subversive, perverted piece of crap on their campuses and stores? This is an outrage.
    Notify every sponsor on Radar Online and let them know we are serious. Rape is a crime and promoting it is just as sick and psycho.

  76. elle
    September 26, 2013 at 12:16 AM

    For old times sake and in honor of one of the most entertaining episodes of RHONJ:

    Look what I just read: Testicle eating fish caught in New Jersey….http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/24/testicle-fish-new-jersey_n_3984181.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000009

    • September 26, 2013 at 9:38 AM

      Has anybody seen Joey Gorga near any bodies of water lately?

      • elemcee
        September 26, 2013 at 11:31 AM


    • September 26, 2013 at 2:00 PM

      Ankle biter Joey Marco fish.

  77. Enga
    September 26, 2013 at 12:21 AM

    Open letter to Melissa Gorga

    You wanted to be famous, well here you go. You happy with your master piece? Have ever been raped? I have and molested and beaten down the street for 8 blocks and no one helped. Do you have any idea what it feels like search for your missing tooth through one good eye because the other one is swollen shut while fire fighters and policeman stand in your kitchen and watch helplessly because they are trained to disassociate themselves from reality? Have you ever had your head beaten in wih a table leg
    because you spent the money that you saved for a dining room set so your kids could eat as a family? Huh Melissa!

    And rape, what do you know about that? To have a stranger beat you into submission when you have fought with everything you have and there is no strength left. Your clothes are ripped off violently and you can’t do anything about it. You are torn and ripped inside because your body does not want this you just want the pain to stop so you become still and numb. Your mind tries to escape but your senses can’t and you smell the stench of this monster and you wonder what diseases he has, are going to get pnant, is he going to let you live? And when you get home after this horror, you tell your abusive partner ande beats you because you are a whore, and you aske: for it.

    This is but a small portion of my truth Melissa. A truth that hope you or any person has to experience. A truth that is happening in real time all over the world and you are making a mockery of that to sell a book. You took something as life altering and terrible as rape and tried to make it sexy. There is no sex involved in rape, it is about power and control as any real victim of this crime can tell you.

    So take a bow Mrs. Melissa Gorga, you’re famous.

    • jennacheryl
      September 26, 2013 at 12:27 AM

      You are strong. I am so very sorry this has happened to you & others.

    • mzjulesaz
      September 26, 2013 at 12:28 AM

      Enga … I’m so sorry to hear what you had to endure. No women should have to go through that. Prayers out to you!

    • Kay
      September 26, 2013 at 12:33 AM

      wow….there are no words….I literally despise the gorgas and the show.

    • Enga
      September 26, 2013 at 12:34 AM

      I’m sorry for all the typos, just so angry. But I am sure you guys will understand. I wish I could edit it and send it to her.

      • jennacheryl
        September 26, 2013 at 1:12 AM

        No apologies needed. I truly hope you are an advocate, you have a lot to offer.

      • punkinseed
        September 26, 2013 at 1:45 AM

        No worries Enga. I’m really angry too. I do understand what you’ve been through and appreciate you writing your story. I’m a survivor of this kind of abuse too. I know so many others who’ve had similar experiences. Some survived; some did not.
        One of my brother’s former girlfriends wasn’t so lucky. She was raped, run over and murdered by a man she thought she could trust about a year after my brother passed away. She was this monster’s second victim. It was over 30 years ago and I will always miss her as much as my brother.
        Rape is about power, yes, but it’s also about rage. Rapists hate women. All this book shows me so far is how much Joe Gorga hates women, including his wife.

        • September 26, 2013 at 2:38 PM

          punkinseed, My thoughts and prayers go out to you also.

      • September 26, 2013 at 2:32 PM

        Enga, So sorry you had to endure something so awful. I can’t begin to imagine going through what you have. God Bless your sweetheart.

    • GPM
      September 26, 2013 at 12:42 AM

      Enga, your post moved me to tears . . . I just wanted you to know that I’m so sorry for your pain. . .

      Thank you for sharing; you have inspired me to join in advocating against this book because, whether it accurately reflects TSIL and TB’s marriage or not, NO ONE should have their thinking informed by this book.

      It’s should be entitled Beavis and Butthead Discuss Marriage. .

    • punkinseed
      September 26, 2013 at 1:30 AM

      Great letter Enga!
      You’ve taken her from “famous” to “infamous.”
      Melissa Gorga needs to recuse herself from this monstrous book and all that goes with it.
      How could she possibly continue to make further excuses and go on promoting this horror? If she doesn’t stop, she’s up there with being as stupid and crazy as Casey Anthony.

    • September 26, 2013 at 4:52 AM

      Enga, thanks for sharing your horrible experience. I’m so sorry for what happened to you. Your story brought tears to my eyes. If I had my hair pulled and my clothes ripped off me it would be because I was fighting to protect myself. There is nothing “sexy” about TB’s “Joe-ment”. Her book could easily send a survivor of sexual/physical/mental/emotional abuse in a funk if they suffer from PTSD.

      • September 26, 2013 at 9:39 AM

        This is true.

    • September 26, 2013 at 10:52 AM

      Oh Enga so glad you posted this. I am so sorry you had these monsters in your life. I want to go after them right now. You will be forever in my thoughts and prayers.

    • September 26, 2013 at 10:58 AM

      Your story brought tears to my eyes. I wish I could hug you and help make some of your pain and the memories of this go away.

    • elemcee
      September 26, 2013 at 11:33 AM

      Enga, you are an amazing lady, and the world is a better place for you being in it. Your strength inspires me.

    • September 26, 2013 at 5:02 PM

      my heart aches for you enga that you went thru this…raped by a stranger then beat by your partner because you “asked for it”…what a vile human ( him both the rapist and your partner.) i too am glad you survived and thank you for sharing. TSIL has no idea on what countless others go thru

    • September 26, 2013 at 8:29 PM

      😦 So sorry Enga.

  78. AnnieMarie
    September 26, 2013 at 12:23 AM

    I know I am late coming into the combo, but reading the excerpts from her book made me cringe inside. I normally abhor book burnings, but I think I would actually lead one with this book.

  79. jennacheryl
    September 26, 2013 at 12:36 AM

    Personally I think gorga needs to apologize to T &J for saying he was a better man & husband. Maybe this is the fakeness I have sensed in her. But Dang never thought he was a …. I just thought he was blinded by her powers of persuasion

  80. Tassie Devil
    September 26, 2013 at 1:01 AM

    Richard Wakile ‏@richardwakile 9h
    Damn @RosiePierri I hope @KathyWakile doesn’t get mad but can we do a threesome? Lol you look great! @PhatBurn 🙂 pic.twitter.com/WRgGbYyd5H


    This is another low-life that has NO RESPECT FOR WOMEN.

    Couldn’t he of just said Rosie you look FAB to boost her self esteem?
    Kathy must think it is ok as it has been up for 9 hours, my husband would of got the venom from my tongue, and then made to say I’M SORRY I’M an IDIOT

    • mzjulesaz
      September 26, 2013 at 1:32 AM

      UGH … that it is disgusting, but doesn’t surprise from me him. He’s just slimy and gross. No wonder Tre has issues with him.

    • September 26, 2013 at 2:14 PM

      Good land-are they now promoting incest?? He should think of her as his sister!!

  81. Enga
    September 26, 2013 at 1:52 AM

    Thanks for your prayers. God is what got me through 8 years of abuse. I will pray for others to find a safe way out also.

    I really didn’t want to go there but when she ended her tweet with #truth I lost it.

    These people are shameful
    and don’t deserve the platforms they have been given.

    • punkinseed
      September 26, 2013 at 2:05 AM

      I will say prayers for you and the others as well. I will pray that Melissa and the kids get away from Joe Gorga and all of the horrible people helping to promote this book. What she advises about in her book is not about marriage at all. It’s all about evil manipulation and abuse. And that is the Truth.

      • September 26, 2013 at 2:53 PM

        I’m thankful that the cowboy, Wyatt Webb, called out TSIL for being manipulative. So, when you see TSIL being so sweet and nice she wants something from you! I’ve not read TSIL’s book but it sounds like her, “I cook, clean and I’m my husband’s puttana….” is her telling women to manipulate their husbands. No love or respect just be nice to them and give them what they want, so you can get what you want! SMH!

    • Dianna
      September 26, 2013 at 5:39 AM

      Sending you some love.

    • September 26, 2013 at 9:41 AM

      I can see how you are being victimized all over again, in a sense.

  82. jennacheryl
    September 26, 2013 at 2:04 AM

    Is it bad to tweet @endDV to make a stand? I am willing to tweet other groups but I would love to know if you all think that is going too far

    • punkinseed
      September 26, 2013 at 2:08 AM

      not one bit! If it helps one person who reads it to realize it’s time to grab that bugout bag, and saves their life or sanity it’s worth it! “What price, salvation?”

      • jennacheryl
        September 26, 2013 at 2:14 AM

        I just searched it on twitter….damn hot topic!

        • AnnieMarie
          September 26, 2013 at 7:40 PM

          I totally went on a twitter rant about it last night. I work on human rights violations and this just irks me.

          • jennacheryl
            September 28, 2013 at 1:57 AM

            That is awesome! I would love to work with that even on a volunteer basis. I hope you feel good about yourself and the difference you are making.

            • AnnieMarie
              September 28, 2013 at 3:05 PM

              It is good work, but the sad thing is that you don’t see results as quickly as you would like, esp in developing countries. Then for TSIL to write this book, in my opinion, sets us back in progress we have made, because then violators from those developing countries see a woman from a first world country say it’s ok… I just want to be like, ‘why?!?’ How can we lead by example if we are putting forth conflicting messages?? Ugh, I cringe.

  83. teramusique
    September 26, 2013 at 3:08 AM

    lmao. in the midst of this mess, BOTH Gorgons will be taping an interview with Wendy Williams on October 3rd.

    We all know Wendy is part of the Bravo machine, but this controversy can’t be ignored anymore so watching TSIL and TB fumbling to defend themselves should be entertaining!


    • Dianna
      September 26, 2013 at 5:44 AM

      SUBMIT. QUESTION FORM. Is on this link. Come on all of you Think of some really good questions. I never watch WW. But I might if I know y’all have asked the tough questions.

      • September 26, 2013 at 12:15 PM

        im sure ww is jus like mssandusky he fakes all the q. so why bother
        im not giving them paper time

    • Sharon
      October 1, 2013 at 2:41 AM

      Wendy is so freaking slimy! Maybe I already said that but really she is. That “woman” has no morals.

  84. GPM
    September 26, 2013 at 3:09 AM

    At a time when India is in the grip of what seems like a rape epidemic, “All India Bakchod” — the brainchild of comedians Tanmay Bhat, Rohan Joshi, Ashish Shakya and Gursimran Khamba — , has launched a satirical video on the subject and it’s a chilling indictment of the entire “Bravolebrity” book:

    Pass it on!

  85. tulip
    September 26, 2013 at 6:31 AM

    Please everyone, do not watch the reunion! Don’t watch Wendy Williams! We can get all the recaps here on the blogs. Do not tune in and continue to give Bravo and Andy the ratings. They cannot for one more minute, continue to make any money off this trash.

    People may think, I’ll just watch, I’m just one person, the ratings won’t be affected if I watch. If everyone thinks that way and tune in, Andy and the Gorgas will be loving the fact that this was the highest rated reunion ever!

    We need to keep up the pressure on the sponsors, and on NBC. All these NBC affiliated TV shows that are on NBC, Dr. Oz, Wendy Williams, they are to promote Melissa and the book.

    If Melissa appears on Wendy’s show, if Wendy addresses the issue at all, Melissa will just give her excuse that the book is taken out of context, etc. Wendy will follow the Bravo script for asking questions. Melissa will follow the Bravo script for answering. They know that people will tune in to see what Melissa will say. They are laughing their A**es off because they will be making ratings history and making $ $ off of this.

  86. September 26, 2013 at 6:36 AM

    OK here goes.

    I am Irish, born and bred and living in italy for almost 20 years. My husband is Italian, born and bred and we live not far from sala consilina, the gorga and giudice’s home town.

    I’ve been with my husband for the same amount of time that the Gorgas have been together so I can relate.

    My husband, 100% Italian, knows that no means no and if I say no and he tries to rip my clothes of, he’ll get a swift knee in the balls.

    My husband does not fly off the handle at every given opportunity, we fight as all couples do but he has never been violent.

    He cooks, cleans, irons and helps me around the home. He supports me in Mt career and has often said ‘if you can work you should work’ he supports that I am often away on business and that I go out with my friends, like I do with him.

    He knows I poop, I know he poops. We don’t sit in the bathroom watching each other poop, that’s just basic manners and common sense, but we don’t deny that we do something which EVERYONE does.

    Most of all we love and respect each other.

    Love Italian Style? No meho. Yours is Love Sadist Style so please stop insulting a nation of men, and women, where BTW marital rape is ILLEGAL.

    I translated a few experts for the hubby from the book and he said that I’d spent too much on a book that wasn’t even useful as toilet paper. Who knows maybe I can use it as compost in the spring as compost seeing as its pure dung…………

    • punkinseed
      September 26, 2013 at 12:40 PM

      Go raibh maith agat! Love all your posts skeddykit!

      • punkinseed
        September 26, 2013 at 12:46 PM

        sorry. meant to say loved your posts irish Italian and spaghetti kitten’s too.

  87. Spaghetti Kitten
    September 26, 2013 at 6:55 AM

    I have a running personal list of the most despicable BRAVO-lebrities that rank like this: #1) Slade Slimey #2) Taylor -Shana- Armstrong who is almost tied with #3) Jax Laurita.

    My first thought reading Jaxie’s immature and bitter blog, was that oh-oh, someones been FIRED. My second thought is that she didn’t let her lawyer proof read, cuz boy oh boy would Judge Judy have a field day (with or without story time) with this statement: “…I was curious if Johnny had an aggressive mental disorder that could potentially be very dangerous..”

    Can’t you just hear Judge Judy asking “Oh so let me get this straight, you thought in advance that this man was a dangerous psycho but thought YOU SHOULD APPROACH HIM???!!!”


    The Greek should add a slander (or is it libel when printed?) charge or lawsuit from this blog alone.

    • September 26, 2013 at 9:42 AM

      Remember, he came dressed to fight. Over a non-existent tweet mind you.

      • September 26, 2013 at 3:32 PM

        I wonder WTH Bravo’s plan is for showing the “altercation” of 3+ against 1? The audience can see that JTG didn’t show up dressed to fight! He didn’t wear a beannie cap to hide his bald head like TB did!

        • Sharon
          October 1, 2013 at 2:45 AM

          Please tell me what TH and SH mean. I know most of the others. Thanks.

          • October 1, 2013 at 9:56 AM

            TH- Talking Head.
            SH- Stoopidhousewives.com.

            I just found out that ROFL means “rolling on floor laughing”!

    • punkinseed
      September 26, 2013 at 12:51 PM

      Ya! Judge Judy is amazing at reminding us to use common sense.
      Slander is the verbal and libel is the written/printed.
      I have an AP Style and Libel manual that’s saved my bacon and others so many times from being sued. Most folks throw that threat around without any idea of what the libel laws really are. Defamation is another one that gets thrown around a lot.

  88. Spaghetti Kitten
    September 26, 2013 at 6:56 AM

    I’m not clicking any of the links to the legitimate media stories on Meliss…critical or not. Don’t want to give this ‘any publicity is good publicity” beotch ANY kind of hits.

  89. tulip
    September 26, 2013 at 7:50 AM

    That is a good idea. Bravo has a tracking program on their site that when you go on the Housewive’s blogs, they can track what sites you are visiting. I noticed this when I saw my computer delaying and then saw message at bottom that it was connecting to “scorecard research.com”.

    • jennacheryl
      September 26, 2013 at 11:35 AM

      isn’t that illegal?

  90. September 26, 2013 at 9:43 AM

    twitter drellnco is on a mission. You go girl!

    • my6girls2012
      September 26, 2013 at 11:11 AM

      Gessie, how do I find her on Twitter?

      • my6girls2012
        September 26, 2013 at 11:13 AM

        Okay, I found her…lol

      • Confused
        September 26, 2013 at 3:16 PM


        Who ever this is she needs a medal…..keep up the good work!

    • September 26, 2013 at 1:48 PM

      I am going for a look right now.

    • AnnieMarie
      September 26, 2013 at 7:43 PM

      I know! I was rooting from my side of the computer screen. She even retweeted one of my tweets last night about sexual violence.

  91. Honnie Badger
    September 26, 2013 at 10:11 AM

    It’s really interesting to see now how many media outlets are disgusted over this book; this is blossoming. I bet you now both Gorgas are scared to go on any more TV shows, knowing that this stuff may be brought up. Unless of course, Bravo will pay the talk show hosts NOT to mention it!

    • September 26, 2013 at 10:35 AM

      Are they on Wendy Williams today? Not sure but I thought I saw it somewhere.

      • September 26, 2013 at 3:38 PM

        Above in the comments I read October 3rd, so next thursday. Gosh, it’s already October next week?

  92. tboz17586
    September 26, 2013 at 10:13 AM

    Does anyone remember in Season 3 when TSIL and TB went out with Gregg and co and Gregg was all over TSIL in the bar and Josephine said to Gregg “fondle her breasts, I wanna see”. I watched season 3 again last week and noticed TONNES of stuff I had forgotten about or missed first time round. That was very telling to me, especially when the swingers thing came up.

    • September 26, 2013 at 1:47 PM

      Jooe Gorga really does make Juicy look like shy kind gentleman!

      • tboz17586
        September 26, 2013 at 3:33 PM


  93. September 26, 2013 at 11:05 AM

    They are both jealous! Melissa doesn’t trust Joe & Joe doesn’t trust Melissa. They both have sketchy pasts that each are aware of. Joe doesn’t want Meho out by herself but Meho is just as bad & won’t let Joe go anywhere by himself either. Joe knows Meho is a whore & has cheated & Meho knows Joe is a whore & has cheated on her. If someone talked to ex girlfriends of Joe I think you all would be horrified at what the truth really is when it comes to Joe Gorga. He is disgusting & uses women as sex slaves. This book is beyond horrifying & sets us back about 500 years!

    • jennacheryl
      September 26, 2013 at 11:30 AM

      yall it just dawned on me…. we are giving her meho her storyline for at least part of next season. How T’s army killed her book and how it is all T’s fault.

    • September 26, 2013 at 4:11 PM

      I’ve often wondered why no one from TB’s past have come out with stories about him? That would make an interesting article if they did. I did read a couple of comments 2 years ago from 2 seperate women who had sexual relationships with TB while he was married. One said that she had no idea that he was married until TSIL showed up at her place yelling at her and TB threw money at the lady when they left! The other lady, or it could be the same one, said that TSIL sliced her tires. Both comments said that TB came across as a really nice guy who was a horn dog with a little tarzan. If Bravo is protecting these two from their past I have to ask why? Why are they protecting known cheater’s who got on the show by default by promising to hurt someone? TSIL hasn’t received much respect in the music world or the literary world! In fact, she’s a disgrace to both careers! She can’t dance, sing or write, yet Bravo continues to shove her down the public’s throat! I’m starting to thing that they are part of some agenda that Bravo is working on! Maybe trying to prove that they can turn an average looking mother of three into a pop star, sex symbol? IDK, but she is a disgrace to women who were raised in domestic violent households, or married an abuser, even the women/men who work at shelter’s who help women get their self-esteem and their lives back!

  94. difromnyc
    September 26, 2013 at 11:21 AM

    From the star ledger (nj newspaper) http://www.nj.com/entertainment/celebrities/index.ssf/2013/09/melissa_gorga_real_housewives_love_italian_style.html

    Love this quote “I read the book, and I took it in the spirit of which I believe it was intended: To sell books to stupid people.”

    • September 26, 2013 at 1:44 PM

      The best!

  95. September 26, 2013 at 11:33 AM

    This “woman” makes me sick. I put woman in quotation marks because if she was a real woman’s woman, she would never advocate marital rape. How many times have we seen her say no to SlowJo on RHONJ? She is basically saying every time the camera left her house her clothes were ripped off? Although in many eps SlowJo complained of having the “poison” in him because they hadn’t had sex the night before…

  96. Kay
    September 26, 2013 at 11:50 AM

    Michelle Paul ‏@michi_paul 17m
    @joegorga Please see comments made to rape survivors. Yours is similar. Your publisher is dumb. http://www.buzzfeed.com/regajha/27-survivors-of-sexual-assault-quoting-the-people-who-attack?s=mobile … #rhonj

    Joe Gorga says in the book:

    My sons can have a separate entrance to the house. They can come and go as they wish. They can have anyone up to their room. I don’t care. But I want to keep my Antonia my little girl.

    My wish is for her to have on boyfriend for a very long time. They have a mutual breakup with no bad feelings. Then she marries the next guy. That would be ideal. I don’t want her to ever have her heart broken. The only way I can see to helping her romantic life work out that way is be really strict and overprotective about who she sees, when she goes out, and what she does.

    I know it’s a double standard but I just don’t care! I don’t see it so much as restricting Antonia, but as protecting her.

    • September 26, 2013 at 11:55 AM

      I took that to mean he wanted Antonia raised the same as his SISTER not his beloved wife. Juicy is Tre’s first but was MeHo his first? Very telling to me…

      • September 26, 2013 at 4:20 PM

        I didn’t even think of that when I first read one of TB’s moronic, “Joe-ments”! It’s kind of funny that TB wants to raise his daughter like his sister, and not like his wife! I don’t have a twitter account but I might get one to ask TSIL, “how does it feel that your husband wants to raise his daughter like Teresa was raised and not like you?”. Wait, that might be a way for TSIL to use her, “my daddy is a cheater and left to get milk for 2 days!!! Boo-hoo-hoo, poor me!”.

        • September 27, 2013 at 11:43 AM

          First thing that came to my mind he wants a Daughter like T not MeHo, and even if you didi create an account and tweet her, I doubt she would reply back to you, she tweeted that her condoning marital rape had been taken out of context, so I tweeted her;
          C-J ‏@Rhofw 23h
          “If your wife says “no,” turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated.” @melissagorga that’s taken out of context?
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          No reply back though, you only get a reply if you kiss her ring or suck her feet like SlowJoe…
          Sorry for the lateness of my reply I pretty much passed out last night after putting my children to bed lol.

  97. Kay
    September 26, 2013 at 11:52 AM

    So Joe gorga wants to protect Antonia but all other women will be fair game for his sons…sick.

    • September 26, 2013 at 1:29 PM

      Horrible-I guess he doesn’t care about other peoples daughters1

  98. elemcee
    September 26, 2013 at 12:13 PM

    I want to know whatever happened to the two Nannies and maids she used to brag about? Does she mention them in the book? I find it interesting that she used to brag she did not do housework like Tre because she is too young and pretty and awesome but in this book she claims she is constantly scrubbing toilets.

    And, they could have circumvented the problems they have been having the last two days with the content of the book by simply naming it “50 Shades of Gorga”. I have not read the 50 Shades books and never intend to, but I think it is about a woman agreeing to be a sex slave? So that title would be very appropriate for TSIL and TB.

    • September 26, 2013 at 1:28 PM

      This book is 50 Shade of GROSS!

    • jennacheryl
      September 26, 2013 at 5:51 PM

      not really, I did read the books….yes I own it. The first book was about finding her sexuality and her boundries. Falling in love the last 2 books are about the love story between the 2.

      • Anonymous
        September 26, 2013 at 9:27 PM

        Sorry if it does not apply, Jenna, I honestly do not know. But, it would have made sense for them to find a way to cover their behinds. Did they really think this would be okay? I guess they really are that stupid. Crazy.

      • elemcee
        September 26, 2013 at 10:13 PM

        Jenna, that was me on my tablet, I forgot to identify myself.

        • jennacheryl
          September 26, 2013 at 11:39 PM

          Oh no problem elemcee! I thought I would never read the books, but I actually ended up liking it for a quick brainless read!

          • jennacheryl
            September 26, 2013 at 11:48 PM

            Sorry Elemcee! I kinda forgot what the first statement was. I was just trying to lighten up the conversation. I have not been as positive and upbeat as I usually am and so I am trying different venues! I did not mean to offend! Unlike Melissa I do not have the perfect life/marriage but it is what I choose in life. Not to say that I do not love my husband as I do. The books were not going to win any awards lol! Apparently neither is Melissa’s lol

  99. pjbottoms
    September 26, 2013 at 12:18 PM

    OMG I love this blog! Melissa is only promoting Melissa and any backpeddling she does is because she wants to move forward to promoting herself and she and Joe’s “brand” (which, like poor Gretchen and Slade, was doomed from the beginning IMO). Doubt she sees the irony that this book is producing real and relevent dialogue on the topic. The bottom line is who’s geiing paid $$$, and I will not put money in June Shannon’s Honey Boo Boo book!

    • pjbottoms
      September 26, 2013 at 12:20 PM

      oops I mean I will NOT buy MELISSA’s book.

    • September 26, 2013 at 4:30 PM

      Off topic, but did June Shannon write a book? I know Si and Phil did! I love those guys there momma would be proud! I would like to see Si and Phil give advice to Tre and TB, with NO spouses involved.

  100. Kay
    September 26, 2013 at 12:21 PM

    excellent post!!!!

    Soncee ‏@Soncie22 12m
    My @Realitytea Friend Miss Kittenella’s Response to Melissa Gorga’s book! Take a Peek!–>http://disq.us/8fbqxy #RHONJ #LoveItalianStyle

    • September 26, 2013 at 1:25 PM

      Love, love love it!!!!!

  101. September 26, 2013 at 12:52 PM

    Totally off topic but Dina just tweeted;

    Dina Manzo ‏@dinamanzo 9m
    …if it wasn’t for the “telephone game” I think @daniellestaub and I would have even gotten along! I hold ZERO ill feelings towards her btw

    • September 26, 2013 at 1:22 PM

      She MUST be talking about Jac and Caroline!!!!!

      • September 26, 2013 at 1:31 PM

        More than likely It the clown was dripping the poison about Danielle in Dina’s ear, while Drunky was out with Danielle bad mouthing Dina and then telling Dina everything that was said but that it came from Danielle’s mouth and of course production doesn’t help telling as many lies as the famewhores they are filming.

        • September 26, 2013 at 1:40 PM

          Oh I really believe this! “Drunky’ has the emotional maturity of a 12 year old. Just look at what she said about Teresa’s daughter Gabriella looking like T’s ex?

      • elle
        September 26, 2013 at 2:05 PM

        Or possibly production too?

  102. bug
    September 26, 2013 at 1:03 PM

    It seems to me that Melissa has become the new star of Jersey. Her face and story is all over the place. Looks like its working. Maybe bravo isn’t that dumb after all. Everyone’s talking about her.

    • Kay
      September 26, 2013 at 1:10 PM

      for me it just concretes the fact that if the Gorga’s are on season 6 I won’t be watching.

      • bug
        September 26, 2013 at 1:22 PM

        I agree! I’m over it! I think Bravo doesn’t care if people know the show is fake. We all know the Kardashians are fake and look at all the people making money off of that show. Melissa Gorga is everywhere now. She’s now a poor victim or spousal abuse. Her book is definitely of interest. She will become the new Teresa. She told Teresa “You don’t get to be the victim, I do” Caroline has her own show and I’m sure Jac will follow onto that show. If not she has her Autism stuff. But all these sites are promoting Melissa. Poor Poor Melissa. Ugh!

        • GPM
          September 26, 2013 at 2:11 PM

          People may be talking, but I think it does matter what they’re actually saying.

          The Hollywood Gossip, for example, is literally likening TSIL to a primate.

          If it seems that only ridiculous clowns watch the RHONJ, no one will watch it.

          • September 26, 2013 at 2:17 PM

            People also talk about serial killers.

          • bug
            September 26, 2013 at 2:23 PM

            I hope you’re right. Melissa and Joe get publicity for doing the the most disgusting things. I am personally done watching Bravo. I used to love watching the housewives…sigh

            • Happy Holly Daze
              September 26, 2013 at 3:22 PM

              We all did bug….. ig was like innocently *looking into the life of rich* women, and how they live… we have been bamboozled, and hoodwinked…. I just yesterday sold my 3 seasons of RHONJ, and got a whopping 2.00 for each season….. I told the guy behind the counter, I’ll give you 5.00 just to take em all….. He laughed, .. said his mum watches them, and is VERY disalousioned with them as well…. I asked him, if she was aware of Famewhorga.wordpress.com, he didn’t know…. so I gave him, this website, for her to check out, and get the truth…

              • bug
                September 26, 2013 at 5:07 PM

                Lol! I can just see you standing there selling your dvd’s. Did you hear that Andy? 2 bucks…Holly got 2 bucks a dvd!!!! I bet the guy was hoping you had Duck Dynasty because face it that’s the rage (although I don’t watch it I’m trying sitcoms for awhile, I’m letting my brain rest for awhile) But I’m a scorned lover ( Kinda weird isn’t it?). I feel betrayed! Lied to! You said it Holly… Hoodwinked! What lies are they feeding us? This isn’t China…tell me the G.D. truth. I’m a big girl! If Melissa was a stripper tell us! If Teresa is playing the victim tell me. So I admit, I hang around and read all the websites and blogs to watch the chaos of another day. Melissa Gorga will take press any way she can get it (kind of like her men). That’s why she’s a fame whorga. But where is Teresa in all this??? Is she one of them? Using us this whole time to sell her books and crap sigh. Why do I care? What is the truth and what is fiction? I am a confused ex viewer.
                Now Kate Gosselin wants everyone to buy her book and feel bad for her because she’s out of work. I just want to scream! She has a college education! That’s more than some people have! Quit crying! Go back to nursing! Go away! Shoo! Oh and one last thing Miley Cyrus put on some clothes!
                I miss the Waltons! Happy Days anyone?

                • RahRah
                  September 27, 2013 at 7:05 AM

                  I’ve been watching Little house on the prairie and the Waltons, yeah.

                  • kayswhims
                    September 27, 2013 at 11:13 AM

                    The Waltons DVD set was my Christmas present 😀

                • Happy Holly Daze
                  September 27, 2013 at 6:22 PM

                  LOVE the Waltons… I don’t have them, but I DO have all the Little House on the Praire, AND just started getting Highway to Heaven, 1&2. Life was so innocent back then…*sigh*

    • patriciafromco
      September 26, 2013 at 2:04 PM

      superficial acknowledgement is just that superficial not sustainable, party hard while they can,, just another wrinkled washed up throw away.. in the end.

    • teramusique
      September 26, 2013 at 5:40 PM

      Teresa and Joe were all over the media when the charges came out, but it didn’t help ratings at all. Doubt this controversy will be any different.

      Although people usually do at least tune in for finale/reunion to see who hates who for next season

    • RahRah
      September 27, 2013 at 7:03 AM

      but not in a healthy/wholesome way

  103. September 26, 2013 at 1:53 PM

    The nutjob is at it again:
    From Wetpaint—-

    “Jacqueline Laurita is at it again! The Real Housewives of New Jersey is mighty pissed about something or other and she’s dealing with it the only way she knows how: by posting about it on Twitter!

    Jac went on the social site to vent her frustration.

    “Delusional haters..I’m really not ur enemy.U r ur own enemy.U r ur own WORST enemy.U will self destruct & I would not have done a thing 2 u,” Jacqueline ranted.

    We have no idea who she was talking to, but it sounds like it wasn’t anyone too specific, just people in general who aren’t supporting her and who are throwing her shade.

    In Season 5 of The Real Housewives of New Jersey, Jacqueline’s dealt with rumors about her autistic son Nicholas, backlash over her plastic surgery, and overcoming a phobia of public speaking. We’re sure she’s had her fair share of haters along the way.

    But as much animosity as she has for those who bring her down, she has triple the love for those that do stand behind her.

    Later that day, she tweeted, “I’m going to need a bigger pillow with all the love & support you all are giving me.Who wouldn’t love that?You Tweeples are the best ! XOXO!”

    Wow, talk about a roller coaster!”
    She really is psycho.

    • September 26, 2013 at 1:55 PM

      Wonder if tis has anything to do with Dina’s tweet?

      • September 26, 2013 at 1:55 PM


    • September 26, 2013 at 5:41 PM

      I’m not sure if anyone watches “Amish Mafia”? What they do to the “insane” is put a straight jacket on them and throw them in a white van to be taken to the Amish treatment center. The ATC employs other Amish people who think the insane are full of demons and they make them read the bible, hoping that the demons will leave them! I think Jaq needs to be thrown in the white van and taken to an ATC! No TV, no camera’s, no social media, just a bible to read from front to back! In a way the ATC seems to be like a “spook” house to the Amish. If anyone knows more about an ATC please share!

      • lalala aka i'm with Dubba
        September 26, 2013 at 6:53 PM

        From what I’ve read everything about Amish Mafia is scripted/fabricated and Disc keeps doing it because they know the Amish won’t come out and say anything.

        Though I agree, that’s what Jacko needs!!

      • Grand-Beth
        September 26, 2013 at 7:38 PM

        I watch amish mafia, But then I watch Mob wives too. Interesting!!!!

  104. September 26, 2013 at 2:20 PM

    Lori-Anne Ferullo · Top Commenter · Blaine-Wet paint

    “Jacqueline is a nut case she just lost it really bad, First she’s yelling at everyone on Twitter then she waits a few goes back on an said that ” Thank You for all you Support” Are you kidding Me!!! Jacko needs a doctor and fast, lol she’s out there somewhere, This is why she needs time for herself and her son and forget about Bravo, as of today Bravo fired Jacqueline an now Kathy is on Bravo for a Friend now so maybe Nicholas can have a full time mommy time an now Jac can rest an be happy . Kathy I have no words for, lol!”

  105. Nuttyz
    September 26, 2013 at 3:16 PM

    Not sure if this has been mentioned already…but did Penny ever write a blog for Episode 17? Just curious to know what she had to say about that episode and her blaming Teresa on camera even though I’m sure production had something (or a lot to do with it).

    • Honnie Badger
      September 26, 2013 at 8:40 PM

      Penny is a rabid famewhore, how can you believe anything she says? The fact that we’re talking about her probably makes her orgasm. THIS is what she wanted. (well, also red carpets, interviews in trash-tabloids, etc.).

  106. Happy Holly Daze
    September 26, 2013 at 3:33 PM

    Now Everything has changed and my real purpose emerged and I never knew it was coming.Everything happens 4 a reason.There r no coincidences….

    This is a twitter from Jacqowine on twitter….. could this be her telling us, that she is no longer going to be on HW??

    Doesn’t matter to me..I’m still not watching…

    • Anonymous
      September 26, 2013 at 4:16 PM

      She was in court today right???

    • bug
      September 26, 2013 at 5:11 PM

      Don’t you think Caroline will want her baby brother Chris on the show with her once in awhile. I have to assume Caroline named her son Chris after her brother Chris. So don’t you think Jac will be on with the Manzos? Yuck! Which I refuse to watch by the way. I’d rather have root canal!

      • Happy Holly Daze
        September 27, 2013 at 6:26 PM

        Oh Bug…. I didn’t think about that…. I would rather give birth vaginally to 2 babies AT THE SAME TIME, SIDE BY SIDE, then to watch the MAN SHOWS.. aka Manzos….

  107. September 26, 2013 at 4:31 PM

    If anybody hears anything about the court case today, please let us know.

    • difromnyc
      • difromnyc
        September 26, 2013 at 4:46 PM

        and low and behold

        ‘The Real Housewives of New Jersey’ Fight Charges Could Be Dropped in Court
        September 26, 2013 04:00 PM EDT
        The Real Housewives of New Jersey stars Jacqueline Laurita, Chris Laurita, and Joe Gorga are currently facing assault charges among other things but according to a new report, Jacqueline can put an end to things if she’s willing to do one little thing — apologize to the man she accused of attacking her.

        “After Jacqueline’s blog for Bravo came out it looks like she finally said what really happened that night, which is that she confronted Johnny and not that he attacked her,” a source explains to Radar Online. “A truthful apology would be all that is needed for these charges to go away.”

        That seems easy enough. Having these charges against her and those close to her isn’t a good thing for anyone. No one wants to be found guilty and have something like that on their record, but at this point, it is a possibility unless they can agree to an apology.

        “The Tweet doesn’t exist and if Jacqueline will apologize for saying that Johnny wrote malicious things about her child then his attorney would be inclined to tell the prosecutor that they no longer wish to pursue the charges against her and her husband,” the source adds.

        Hopefully, Jacqueline will take this opportunity to apologize and end this. Even though she may not want to, it would be worth it if she can end the legal battle and save herself and her family members the time and money it will cost to fight it out.

        What a crock of shit.

        • Confused
          September 26, 2013 at 4:57 PM

          Interesting as well is that there is no mention of Joe Gorga………..hmmmm

          I wanted to puke when I heard that. JTG shouldn’t drop ANYTHING until all charges against him are not only dropped but declared unfounded (not sure what the legal term is). Someone needs to stop all of these people….

  108. elemcee
    September 26, 2013 at 5:36 PM

    There is a new article up on nj.com!!!!

    • Confused
      • September 26, 2013 at 6:50 PM

        Thank-you for the link, Confused! I’m not shocked just disappointed.

    • elemcee
      September 26, 2013 at 5:40 PM

      All charges dropped! Does everyone still believe Penny and Johnny now? Sold out for TV time. I freaking knew it.

      • Confused
        September 26, 2013 at 6:01 PM

        Not so fast elemcee, Faux just posted the following comment:

        Faux Reality Ent ‏@FauxRealityE 19m
        #Exclusive: Criminal Charges against all #RHONJ cast dropped in exchange for waiver of Contract terms to allow filing of civil suit!

        • elemcee
          September 26, 2013 at 6:06 PM

          Sure, we will see.

        • elemcee
          September 26, 2013 at 6:08 PM

          You do understand that if they were found guilty a civil would have been MUCH easier, right? Doing anything they can to keep the con rolling.

          • Confused
            September 26, 2013 at 6:14 PM

            Yes, I do understand that — but the key words are WAIVER OF CONTRACT TERMS — which, I believe that they (meaning the Greeks and whomever they sue) can divulge the truth. Brilliant! (if it’s true).

            • elemcee
              September 26, 2013 at 6:47 PM

              It has been three years. Are you really going to keep waiting for “the truth”? If they wanted to actually “tell the truth”, they would have done so three years ago. It is beyond ridiculous at this point. I cannot believe anyone is still willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. They were warned over and over and over and over. Come on.

        • Miami53
          September 26, 2013 at 7:27 PM

          Boy, that JTG was really sweating under his arms. I can’t believe Jacko wore a one shoulder sleeve blouse to court with her black stiletto shoes…who does that. TB wore his usual jeans, sneakers and cap. No respect for the court of law!

          Link to see the gangsta’s in court…


          Note: Edited by Fame to give link to photos at NJ.com

          • GPM
            September 26, 2013 at 9:52 PM

            “I can’t believe Jacko wore a one shoulder sleeve blouse to court with her black stiletto shoes…who does that?”

            Someone armed and dangerous and “dressed for a fight!”


        • Saddle_River_NJ
          September 26, 2013 at 8:17 PM

          If in fact the Greeks have gotten a waiver of contract terms, that *might* mean that Bravo may actually not renew the franchise. If John and Penny were actually able to file suit, that would open up Sirens to a very messy and public accounting. And they (Greeks) could follow it up the corporate ladder. Remember Penny saying her phone was worth gold? If she saved voice mails and texts from Sirens production that would be damning. The charges against the 3 Little Pigs were serious as individuals. But if the Greeks have saved text/voice between themselves, castmembers and production, that can blow the whole franchise open if they are able to make it public. Princess Cohen would never wan’t his image tarnished – nor would his superiors want to deal with it. Simplest solution in a scenario where the Greeks contract has been voided is to not renew the series.

          • jennacheryl
            September 27, 2013 at 12:05 AM

            Hi Saddle, I hope that if they did these 2 have protected their text messages by emailing them to themselves or printing them out as they came through. Their are apps for texts to be deleted. You have to know your crap and know how to do them but the ability to get delete texts does exist. BTW this seems to be all about the money. Since B/S has released them from their contracts does this happen for the Gorgas and Lauritas as well? I doubt it but it would be interesting to see what a good lawyer can do.

        • Honnie Badger
          September 26, 2013 at 8:38 PM

          Yeah, and you know that site is the mouthpiece for Penny and Johnny, who campaigned really, really hard to be on that show. I don’t believe anything on that site; it’s so biased and one-sided. Sorry.

      • September 26, 2013 at 6:05 PM

        What a complete sell-out JTG and his blabbermouth wife are. I have no respect for them whatsoever. I hope it was all worth it so you could get your fifteen min. How desperate and stupid.

        • elemcee
          September 26, 2013 at 6:13 PM

          There are no words, Gessie.

        • mzjulesaz
          September 26, 2013 at 6:36 PM

          WTF so was this really smoke and mirrors? I hate Bravo.

        • Saddle_River_NJ
          September 26, 2013 at 8:43 PM

          Deep breath Gessie! I have a different take on this if I may… The Greeks have a history with Missy. They are well aware of her background. Seasons 1-3 appear to have less ludicrous editing done. A lot of problems arose when they were fiming season 4 as 3 was being broadcast. Penny probably was shocked when The Infectious Author got a place on the show and wanted a piece of it. She very well might have signed one of those contracts with sweet promises of air time. All of a sudden Slutella is playing the innocent victim and the Witch Sisters start trashing people like Bulldog who knows the Greeks. Bravo/Sirens was probably getting everyone and thier brother to sign one of those contracts *as insurance*. Get anyone and everyone with the ability to publicly expose the show as a fraud locked down. Production is now free to do what ever they damned please without recourse. Now production wratchets up the lies and deception and nonone can stop them. Of course B/S never realized that Janax is a complete loon, that the Whore of Gorgalon is as gross as she is and that the Wakiles and Manzos are dishwater dull. Anyway – back to the Greeks. I think they came on early with better intentions but got lost in the insanity that the show had devolved to. FWIW – the Greeks actually have a very decent reputation around here and are pretty different from the characters you see on tv.

  109. bug
    September 26, 2013 at 5:43 PM


  110. September 26, 2013 at 6:13 PM

    How much money did Blavo fork out to them to drop charges?

  111. Sackem
    September 26, 2013 at 6:22 PM

    The Greeks are in the same boat as the Whorgas. Seriously, after watching these women humiliated and their endorsements ridiculed why would you WANT to be on the show? That little contract leak, extra or no extra, the editing process will manipulated your words and social media will slay you.

    The Greeks might bring a smidgen of truth but there’s no righting a wrong. I believe Missy cheated, I believe she was a stripper/dancer – neither act I really care about, I care about the bogus facade she’s built to destroy another person, but these two, it appears, will just say anything to get their heads on our telly.

    The best thing about TSIL’s book is that she’s exposed herself. All the rumours about Joe telling her to loose weight whilst pregnant, Jan saying he hit her in the cab, the unfortunate rape allegations from college days, they all seem more plausible now even if they are just rumours.

    TB had to “correct” her, she took cues from Teresa, YES SHE COPIES HER. TSIL wants it to sound like a fairy tale, My Fair Lady or dare I say Pretty Woman when in reality it’s control.

    Please take them away from our screens and whilst we enjoy discussing our disgust, I’m glad Fame has taken a step back so they will fade from popular culture and just be a skid mark on our minds.

  112. Jeannie5233
    September 26, 2013 at 6:35 PM

    And Jacs never fails to let us down – she has already taken to Twitter:

    Jacqueline Laurita ‏@JacLaurita 8m
    #honesty #integrity
    3:24 PM – 26 Sep 13 ·

    Jacqueline Laurita ‏@JacLaurita 17m
    I don’t know any man that would lie about a woman hitting him with a shoe! #neverhappened
    3:17 PM – 26 Sep 13

    • Sackem
      September 26, 2013 at 6:50 PM

      But that doesn’t make sense in my mind, she knows Johnny, we saw the pictures, don’t you love how she slipped into TB mode of defence re twitter when none of us saw a tweet to them? TSIL and her obviously spent time together. Makes all the reunion allegations about Teresa and Juicy look like lies.

      • Jeannie5233
        September 26, 2013 at 6:56 PM

        I don’t think this is over and I am getting the feeling, based on Faux’s tweet and JTG’s reply, this isn’t over. I remember JTG said numerous times he had every intention of suing all the way up the ladder to Bravo. Having the terms of the contract waived opens up that door whereas before, he could only have brought a civil suit against the Lauritas and Gorga but couldn’t go after B/S. Just speculating here.

    • Jeannie5233
      September 26, 2013 at 6:52 PM

      And JTG’s reply:

      John Karagiorgis ‏@JohnnyTheGrk 6m
      Don’t feel punked. Just know, NOW it begins!!!
      3:44 PM – 26 Sep 13

      John Karagiorgis ‏@JohnnyTheGrk 8m
      #Honesty #Integrity *achem #BullshitArtists

      NOW IT BEGINS !!!
      3:42 PM – 26 Sep 13

      • Sackem
        September 26, 2013 at 6:56 PM

        Oh man,will these people EVER bring it… Me feels like me reading the boy who cried wolf.

      • elemcee
        September 26, 2013 at 7:22 PM

        I thought it began three years ago.

  113. Miami53
  114. September 26, 2013 at 7:35 PM

    Alexis ‏@drellnco 24 Sep
    @bulldog_nj what are your thoughts on the fact that Mel’s new book advocates marital rape?

    Bryan ‏@bulldog_nj 5h
    @drellnco it’s a disgrace! In what sick world do they both think its ok to force yourself on somebody. Married or not

    Alexis ‏@drellnco 5h
    @bulldog_nj thanks for your response. I was never a fan of Mel but now I truly think she is sick in the head
    10:35 AM – 26 Sep 13

    Bryan ‏@bulldog_nj 5h
    @drellnco 1 you’re welcome 2 you are correct 🙂 enjoy your day!

    Bryan ‏@bulldog_nj 5h
    @drellnco He’s known for that! #college

    Alexis ‏@drellnco 5h
    @bulldog_nj I had heard that :/ yikes

    NJQueen1 ‏@NJQueen1 5h
    @bulldog_nj @drellnco It’s disgusting and the fact that @BravoTV is ignoring it is terrible. They are hoping it goes away I think.

    Bryan ‏@bulldog_nj 5h
    @NJQueen1 @drellnco They only care about ratings $

    • Jeannie5233
      September 26, 2013 at 7:41 PM

      Alexis@drellnco AKA our very own LAKER!!!!!!!!!!!

      I admire you Laker – you don’t just talk the talk – you walk the walk!!!!!!!! Sometimes in this life one needs to not only take a stand but act on it- and you have. Thank you for all your efforts and what you are doing. 😀

  115. Rachel
    September 26, 2013 at 7:41 PM


    Look up this link. It is a review on TSIL’s book. One of the few 5-star reviews. The catch is, it was her sister that wrote it. Look at the comments under the review, she had a picture of herself and her husband but has since then been removed. Someone called her out on it on twitter :

    @ReaI_Housewives what's so scandalous about it? 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 Unlike others, I support everything both my siblings do#unbreakable not sure ur point— Lysa Simpson (@LysaSimpson) September 18, 2013

    The thing is in her review she tried to sound like it was a random person! Hilarious! Confirms only her army is behind the good reviews. They are sooo stupid they can’t even figure out to remove the picture before they write the review.

    • September 26, 2013 at 8:13 PM

      I think if she would have made her relationship to TSIL known and shared a few personal comments about TSIL, TB and the book, her review would have been respected.

      The thing I really detest about the RHONJ and Bravo are all of the lies. There is no need to make up stories. I understand filming of the housewives cannot be randomly done on a whim. But clearly there is enough going on in all of these women’s lives that could be used for the show. Why Bravo chooses to make it all up is beyond me. This show, as well as many other Bravo shows have lost much of their audience.

      • September 26, 2013 at 9:55 PM

        mabe they are trying to act like hi filutin producers like they know what they are doing,but WE SEE CLEARLY THEY DO NOT

  116. tulip
    September 26, 2013 at 7:49 PM

    I saw that review too. And, there are a lot of people speculating that another 5 star reviewer named “Barbie” is none other than MeGo herself.

  117. mzjulesaz
    September 26, 2013 at 7:54 PM

    Did anyone used to watch Gene Simmons Family Jewels? Scripted for sure but real and touching and funny. It’s coming backback, but I don’t think I have the channel 😦

    • NCGal
      September 26, 2013 at 8:36 PM

      I used to watch it sometimes. Never remembered when it was on. I also used to like the Osbourne family show.

      AXS TV purchased Jewels – never heard of them – but it looks like they will be rerunning the 7 seasons.


      • mzjulesaz
        September 26, 2013 at 9:07 PM

        Thank you … I have it’s 167 on Dish 🙂

    • September 27, 2013 at 6:33 AM

      Mzjule, Seems we both have the same taste when it comes to programs. If you find out what channel family jewels is on, please let me know. I have really missed that program.

      • September 27, 2013 at 6:36 AM

        p s I do not have dish, i’m hoping there r on our local cable company.

      • mzjulesaz
        September 27, 2013 at 11:48 AM

        AXS … I’d never heard of it before.

    • September 27, 2013 at 7:59 AM

      I loved that show. And yes, definitely scripted.

  118. September 26, 2013 at 8:34 PM

    That’s why Bravo is showing the brawl finale. The Greeks decided to settle long ago. I feel like a sucker supporting them. Bunch of sellout fakes. I don’t trust that Anthony and Bull dog anymore. It wouldn’t surprise me if Bulldog shows up on season 6,if TSIL and TB return..

  119. Kay
    September 26, 2013 at 9:57 PM

    hahaha love this review…….

    1.0 out of 5 stars Nothing stops a man from cheating, September 26, 2013
    By cb72 – See all my reviewsThis review is from: Love Italian Style: The Secrets of My Hot and Happy Marriage (Hardcover)
    You think your man doesn’t look at/want to cheat with other women? just because you keep yourself pristine? Two words: Billy Joel.

  120. mazeycat
    September 26, 2013 at 10:49 PM

    Still no repudiation of Gorga’s “No doesn’t really mean no, women like to be forced” statement from Bravo or NBC? Are they on crack? I told my husband about this story and he was like, “Bullshit, that chick carries that guy’s cock around in her purse. She owns him. It’s fake. A pose. An overcompensating attempt to live down the rumors he’s a pussy whipped cuckold. ” Which I think may very well have some truth to it. BUT. That said. Whatever the TRUE nature of their relationship, he still made the statement. In print. A statement that encourages other men to physically force sex on a woman who has said No. That dismisses consent and advocates coercion. That endorses rape. This is a fact. Even if it is a pose, the statement is still dangerous and repugnant. It is still the moral and ethical responsibility of Bravo, Andy Cohen and at this point probably NBC as well to publically divorce their corporate entities from this statement. The companies who advertize on their networks would not thank them if they were boycotted by women’s groups for being associated with comments that promote marital rape. It could happen, they should think about that. Long and hard.

    • Russkaya
      September 27, 2013 at 8:37 AM

      I agree. I was thinking about that last night. Maybe bravo doesn’t want to release any statement so that they don’t involve themselves in it publicly. They really should, its the right thing to do. Something like bravo does not condone marital rape. I don’t know. But I think if bravo is doing season 6 they are keeping meho because its the only storyline they have. Might actually be the new storyline as someone already suggested.

      So glad this blog is up. I love it.

  121. kayswhims
    September 27, 2013 at 12:21 PM

    TB thought she was wife material when he saw her in her leopard bikini in Cancún

    “My husband’s a ham. He’s not shy at all,” says Gorga. “Joe and I are also a young couple. We kind of live an over-the-top life. We’re very blessed … to have the life we live.”

    Their paths first crossed during a spring break in Cancún. “He saw me … and he looked at his best friend and said, ‘That’s gonna be my wife,’ ” says Gorga, who adds that when they ran into each other back in Jersey, “he came over to me and said, ‘I saw you in your leopard bikini in Cancún.’ I said, ‘Well, why didn’t you talk to me?’ He said, ‘Well, you didn’t look like you wanted to talk.’ And it went from there.”

    They got engaged the same week she graduated from New Jersey City University with a degree in elementary education. Her fiancé asked her to work in his office and help him build his promising business. “So, I decided to go that route,” she says.
    – See more at: http://www.bergen.com/New_Additions_Two_new_families_bring_more_humor_to_Real_Housewives_of_New_Jersey.html#sthash.gzNft2Ov.dpuf

  122. Happy Holly Daze
    September 27, 2013 at 7:20 PM

    Anyone read this girls/womans blog?http://www.jewishjournal.com/keepingitreal/item/melissa_gorga_of_rhonj_a_book_review#.UkYMXz9Sn8U.twitter I personally love her…. Here is her review of Mels book

  123. Enga
    September 28, 2013 at 7:00 AM

    I wanted to personally thank all of you for your kind words and prayers; mama Jackie, mzjulesaz, jeannie, gloria, aaacccp, jennacheryl, gessiewtf, gpm, punkinseed, ceeeeseeee, mehonogo, elemcee, cguierok, bree, dianna, and everyone else. A special thanks to laker for rocking the hell out of twitter and being a voice for all of us

    Fame thankyou for giving us such a uniqrm to be able to voice our opinons, it means so much
    I don’t think I can watch Bravo after this crazy week. Sticking to AMC, just watched Breaking Bad , lol.
    I will just come here for updates. You guys are the greatest!!!

    • Enga
      September 28, 2013 at 7:03 AM

      *unique platform

  124. September 28, 2013 at 7:59 PM

    A few thoughts… first… just from reading these few excerpts… they definitely give credence to the possibility that the “rape” rumor is more than just a rumor. He says outright that “it’s what women want.” Now my question is how many times it may have happened.

    Next, if TB has so much power over TSIL, than how come he can’t demand that she get along with EVERYONE in his family? Let’s face it… HE probably doesn’t want to get along with Teresa… after all… fighting with his sister turns him on… he admitted it himself. Gross!! I feel dirty even repeating that. ewwww. Yes, that TSIL is one lucky lady. GAG… GAG… GAG.

    I love the way TSIL uses the word “puttana” instead of whore or slut. Because it doesn’t sound as harsh? Really… I’m quite sure that many people who read her book won’t know what a “puttana” is. Just SAY IT. TSIL and TB are so offensive to women… and men too… in this “love advice” book. Is she embarrassed to say she’s a whore in the bedroom? It’s like taking one little sprinkle off a sprinkle cookie so it’s less calories. Please!!

    I’d rather my husband/significant other go to a strip joint or even cheat than to live in a relationship in which the respect only goes one way and to be an object to have around so I can tend to his every whim and over the top need. I wouldn’t care ’cause I’d be divorcing him anyway. According to TSIL, a cook, a maid, a lady (HA! more like eye candy that men drool over but only he can have), and a slut to take care of his every sexual whim… whether it be a quickie or some deviant fantasy (good Lord I don’t even want to think about what that may include). Let’s not forget, the sole caregiver of the kids… well, in TSIL’s case… other than her sister, nannies and God only knows who else… but definitely not their own father.

    Funny how everyone talks about how crappy Joe treats Teresa yet his philosophy was happy wife, happy life. Just goes to show that any one sided relationship doesn’t fare too well. I don’t believe Teresa’s marriage was one sided however. We’ve seen Joe cook for the girls, take them to extra-

    The kicker is… I don’t believe half of what she says. No way do I believe she’s the perfect, little wifey. I believe TB would like things that way… but I don’t think it always happens. When they were first shown on RHoNJ, I recall her telling him she was sick of him talking about his “poison.” Something like… “poison, ugh stop it with your poison. That’s disgusting.” How does that fit in with the claims of the subservient little wife? I also remember when Joey was soooo upset because they hadn’t had sex “in days.” She complained about how tired she was. IIRC, he was trying to kiss her and she told him to get away. Something like that… dang, I wish I could just bring up that episode because she certainly wasn’t being a good, little wifey that day and it didn’t seem new to her… or him. Most people would be miserable if they were living a lie… it’s like second nature to TSIL. I don’t think she knows anything else.

    They sicken me. I don’t miss watching this show as it is but I do miss the original RHoNJ. It was my favorite. Then the Wakiles and Gorgas not only ruined the show but they also ruined Teresa’s relationships on the show and the fun they first had. Yet Teresa can’t even sit at the same table of six? seven? along with TSIL’s former best friend. Poor TSIL – she’s such a victim! There’s a book in there somewhere… so I’ve heard.

    • SomeWoman
      September 28, 2013 at 8:23 PM

      Hiya 🙂

      I’m down with the flu, and my local tv station is doing a RHONJ marathon which I’ve been watching, we’re three episodes into season two.
      I do not know if anyone else has been watching reruns, but based on the excerpts I have seen from the book, and what I have seen on TV is this:

      Both Teresa and Joe say Happy wife/happy life in season 1, in addition to alluding to sex, several times a day. One of Caroline’s boys is seen wearing a Tee that says Girls don’t poop. I’ve seen other small things which sounded fa,iliar coming from MeHo – add to that the book, and it’s as if she’s really been stripping others’ lives and past episodes for *cough* inspiration *cough*
      I have to admit that creeps me out – I think the woman is a borderliner – the type who sits alone in the park on a cold winter’s day to gain sympathy, and faking details of a life because she has no concept of what feelings and emotions are, and hence needs to make them up,
      She’ll always be the one seeing you and raising you one in the drama stakes, because that’s how she sees personal drama – as a competition.
      I know it’s dangerous to diagnose a person based on edited information in a tv show, but the book, and the excerpts I read drove it home to me.
      She thinks she is brave and cute, when in reality, she is absolutely clueless. (and I am pretty sure she probably also wrote a great deal of the Midget’s comments)

      Also – seeing the first two seasons, I am *stunned* at what they did to Teresa in subsequent seasons, in the first few, she comes across as both less vapid and more likeable. I really feel sorry for what they did to her, and am pretty happy she had the smarts to write, and that her books did well.

      • September 28, 2013 at 9:35 PM

        Outstanding observations, SomeWoman! And I agree 100% that she wrote the Midget’s comments, and I believe she did so with malicious intent. He will be the one to suffer the consequences from passages in her book.

  125. SomeWoman
    September 28, 2013 at 10:27 PM

    Thank you 🙂
    I went “wait a minute?” a few times watching S01, having forgotten most of it, and having S5 in recent memory. Seeing these episodes in context after reading the Jezebel review and the pages here was a bit of an eyeopener.
    it was Chris wearing a black “Girls don’t poop” tee that really drove it home to me, I’d brushed the Guidices “Happy Wife/Happy Life”. off as a common ItaliaMerican saying or something, and that’s why she was using it in her S5 opening line.
    But then all these other little bits started showing up and the penny dropped, especially after reading about the matching Rolexes. Matchy-matchy bling does not equate love, if it’s even true, but it does equate love to someone without a concept of what it is – as it shows the value of the material, and not the emotion. .
    And she won’t stop, as her behaviour and the reactions to it feed into her sense or reward and entitlement.
    This is not to excuse that buffoon with a hint of intelligence she is married to, though – I find him a crude, oversexed, insecure and obnixious little prick.
    But I doubt he’d be able to verbalise his take on sex and women so… shall we say…damagingly succinct?

    Still vegging out, watching Danielle go apeshit at the Brownstone with Danny. Damn, S2 was far more entertaining, and less crass than the subsequent ones – Our Lady of Perpetual Suffering and that juggernaut of whinge, the illustrious MS Wakile should have taken a few pages out of her book, if they wanted to be entertaining rather than depressing.-

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