Melissa Gorga Admits to Glamour Magazine That She Met Joe in 2003, When She Was 24, Not 21, Like She Says in Her Book
A few weeks ago, Melissa and Joe stopped by Glamour magazine for an interview. In the interview, Joe conveys that he “got married young.” When Glamour asks, “How old were you when you got married?,” only Melissa answers, and she answers truthfully, for a change, saying: “I was 24 when I met him, and I got married at 25. We got married within a year.” However, in her book she states she met Joe in 2000 when she was 21 and he was 26, a story they conjured up to erase four years from her past and to hide the fact that Joe was almost 30 years old, partying with college-aged kids, when he met her in Cancun during the filming of MTV’s “The Real Cancun” in March of 2003.
Also in the interview, Melissa declares that RHONJ has “always been where Teresa’s the crazy one, so they’re trying to bring out a little bit of a softer side, but it’s not really working.” She asserts that next season producers “need to switch it up a little bit,” and says they are going to bring in new people, but she doesn’t think “they’d actually take anyone out” because “they don’t want to mess with us.” She explains that the new people would have to be family, “like somebody else’s sister-in-law,” because that’s “why people are so into the show.”
As far as new cast goes, Melissa reveals that she’s “suggested a couple people, but then they’ll try them out and be like, ‘Ehhh’.” She expresses that she wants producers to “bring in more younger people because I’m one of the youngest of the Housewives of all the franchises.” She conveys that she and Joe are angling for a spinoff: “That’s what I want to do. I don’t want to do the drama in the family. I want to be like, the Melissa and Joe fun spin-off family!” Joe chimes in with: “We’ll give ‘em drama! We have drama!”
On the secrets to a successful marriage, Joe divulges that “98 percent of the time, I’m a man” and tells wives to “respect your husband, and he’ll respect you.” He suggests wives make their husbands dinner and have sex at the end of the night since it only “takes 10 minutes.” Melissa boasts: “I sing, I’m on this reality show, and I do all of this – I make him the king in my house and in return I’m the queen.”
The following is the interview published in Glamour magazine on September 9, 2013.
Glamour: How do you feel about this season, so far?
Melissa: I feel like they need to switch it up a little bit because it’s always been the same. It’s always been where Teresa’s the crazy one, so they’re trying to bring out a little bit of a softer side, but it’s not really working. It is what it is. I mean, it’s successful. It’s got 3 million viewers, so we’re doing something right. I think it’s because it’s about family.
Glamour: It’s stressful watching sometimes!
Joe: Imagine being us!
Melissa: I know. I think that’s why people are so into it—because it’s about family and believe it or not, this [sisters-in-law having drama] happens everywhere. No one’s crazy enough to put it on national TV, but it happens everywhere.
Glamour: Would you want some fresh blood to come in?
Melissa: I think they’re going to do it next season. They need to switch it up a little bit. I don’t know if they’d actually take anyone out. They don’t want to mess with us because sometimes when you switch things up it can change it around and people don’t end up liking it, but I have a feeling—and I’ve heard through the grapevine—that next season is going to bring some people in. We thought this season we were going to bring people in. But they have to be part of the family in some way, or it won’t really make sense. It needs to be like somebody else’s sister-in-law, you know?
Glamour: Can you suggest people?
Melissa: You can. I’ve suggested a couple people, but then they’ll try them out and be like, “Ehhh…” They have to have some kind of tie-in or it seems random with our crew. I want them to bring in more younger people because I’m one of the youngest of the Housewives of all the franchises. They’re talking about possibly doing a spin-off here or there, but we’ll see what happens. That’s what I want to do. I don’t want to do the drama in the family. I want to be like, the Melissa and Joe fun spin-off family!
Joe: We’ll give ‘em drama! We have drama!
Glamour: So, let’s talk about your book. What made you decide to do it?
Melissa: Everywhere I went, everybody wanted to talk about my marriage and how we keep it young and fresh. And that’s what everybody always came to me with on Facebook and Twitter. I started to see that, and I started to notice that’s what people wanted from me. I was getting a lot about fitness, I was getting a lot about makeup and style, and then I was getting a lot about my marriage, so I figured I’d put it all down and tell people. There’s some sex in there too—just how we keep it fresh and sexy. Not that dirty. Now, Joe has his “joe-ments” in there…
Joe: I mean, we gotta be real here!
Glamour: Is that the sequel, Joe’s “joe-ments?”
Melissa: He wants he wants to call it: Just 10 minutes. That’s his sequel.
Joe: Ten minutes! Like last night, was it seven minutes?
Melissa: If you read this book, you’ll think about what men want, how I do it, and how you can be a working woman, but still be a great wife and a great mom. It’s about how I come into my own, and I’m very independent—I sing, I’m on this reality show, and I do all of this—but I make him the king in my house and in return I’m the queen. So far the preorders are doing awesome, so I hope it’s going do really good. I’m excited about it!
Joe: The key is respect. And when you get married, remember this: Respect your husband, and he’ll respect you. If you work all day and come home and try to make him dinner or you guys have sex at the end of the night…it takes 10 minutes, but he’ll feel like “Wow, she’s thinking of me. She respects me. She cares how I feel.” And he’ll do the same for you. That’s what keeps us real. We’ve been together for what, 10 years? And she’s smoking hot, and it’s like I just met her yesterday.
Melissa: We still flirt. Actually, we were out to dinner last night with a friend and he said, “You guys act like you just met. You guys act like you’re on a first date.” There’s little things that I do here and there to flirt or keep up with it, and that’s what I put in the book.
Glamour: What are some of your favorite tips?
Melissa: The best one? You know what, I think the whole section on grooming and keeping at yourself—there’s a whole section on how women don’t poop, which I think is so funny. I still act like I date him. You know the things that you would hide when you first start dating someone? You should be comfortable, but there’s still a little bit of a mystery.
Joe: I like mystery.
Melissa: So, yeah. I think all of that about how you have to keep it spicy and keep it secretive, a little bit.
Joe: And your cooking thing. You always talk about that.
Melissa: Which one?
Joe: Prepare food for your husband.
Melissa: Yeah, I always say that too. Even if you’re a working woman. It doesn’t have to just be your husband, it can be for your boyfriend or whoever. But if you work all day and then go home—even if you just order him Chinese or something like that—but put it on a plate, get him a glass with ice. You don’t even have to cook it, but you just show that you care and make the effort a little bit. I say a lot in the book that you have to lose your ego when you walk into the house. When you’re at work you can have an ego, but when you’re with your husband, don’t have an ego—and vice versa.
Glamour: Joe, I want to hear some of your advice. I know she said you’re in there a little bit, with your Joe moments.
Joe: Respect one another. Keep it fresh. It’s not always that the woman has to do this and that for the man—the man has to do the same thing! I look at my wife every day and tell her how gorgeous she is, how beautiful, everything. I make her feel like a woman. Don’t get me wrong: We do have our arguments because we’re normal. But 98 percent of the time, I’m a man, and a man treats his woman like a queen. In return, I want the same thing. So that’s respect for one another. That’s why we have such a wonderful relationship. It’s old-school values but in a modern way. I’m not, “Oh, babe sit here” and she has to cook and clean…Nah! It’s traditional in the fact that we like to keep our family together but still, we’re young, we go out. I got married young.
Glamour: How old were you when you got married?
Melissa: I was 24 when I met him, and I got married at 25. We got married within a year. We just knew. Instantly.