Teresa Giudice Says Melissa Will ‘Spin It’, Cheatergate, So That It’s All Teresa’s Fault; Melissa Gorga Takes Another Dig at Joe Giudice’s Mother
Teresa was shocked to hear what was said about her.
By Teresa Giudice
July 22, 2013
There are no words. No words. I wouldn’t wish this situation on my worst enemy. This was not a fun episode to watch mostly because I was hearing the things my family was saying about me behind my back for the first time. Richie, really? Melissa, really? This is how you talk behind closed doors? You see how me and my husband talk. No bashing. Never have.
I have to say for all Melissa’s accusations, you have never heard me call her a gold digger, a stripper, or a cheater because I never have. Not once. (If I had, you know it would be played back over and over.) But I couldn’t list all the things she has called me and my husband. Did she really whine through an entire blog because Joe called her a “horsey face”? He said my brother was a “dum dum” this episode, so I can only imagine what’s coming. Alert the tabloids!
In five seasons, no matter how much people have tried to get a rise out of me, I have never ever laid a hand on someone. Melissa, not so much. First her own son’s Christening it looked like she was kicking people, then she goes after her brother-in-law, and I didn’t even see until I watched the episode that it looked like she wanted to charge me when I was leaving. And I’m the animal? OK.
I lost count of how many names Melissa called me over the last two weeks but I could care less what Melissa says to me. Call me every name you can think of (or if you can’t think of any, just keep calling me the same one over and over). It’s my brother’s words that hurt. We grew up in such a house of love with the utmost respect for each other. He never called me names. Never. And suddenly now he calls me these terrible things in front of the whole country. It’s confusing and hurtful and it breaks my heart. But still, I can’t hate him. I’ve never hated him.
I don’t know why he has so much hate inside him. My husband isn’t full of hate like that. Maybe Joey and Melissa need to drink Fabellini more often. I don’t know. I can’t wait to hear what the secrets to her hot and happy marriage are when her husband is running around this angry attacking people all the time… He’s either angry or he’s crying… Will there be a chapter on what to do when your husband cries in bed? How can you see your husband hurting like that and not want to fix it?
Of course I did not want to see my brother and my husband fight. Once my brother started calling me names, I went to get Joe to leave. Not so that Joe would do something. Melissa seems to forget she called Joey last year at the fashion show for exactly that reason, so he would come and fight. I didn’t want it then, and I didn’t want it now. I just wanted to leave. I was done.
I was very proud that my Joe walked in the room and asked for an apology. He didn’t call anyone names. As soon as Joey charged him, Joe was figuring out the safest way to hold Joey off. If there was ever a “safe” fight for my brother to be in, it’s with my husband. He would never hurt my brother. Joey knows that and Melissa knows it too. Why she was acting all hysterical was insane to me. I get that if Joey was fighting with a stranger, she might be afraid for him, but not with my husband. Then, you should definitely jump in and try to stop it, Melissa! When he’s being an idiot with my husband, you can let them be.
I did run to get security to break it up, but I got back to the room before they did. And I broke up the fight right away. How is that? There were 4 people there trying to “break it up” but only I could do it? Seems to me they weren’t really trying to break it up, they were also attacking my husband. Poor guy!
I had no idea that Melissa felt so strongly about my cookbooks and my products. I guess that explains why she never publicly supported me even though I supported her. I do them because food is what I know best and it makes me happy. It’s sad that she feels the need to belittle me for doing what makes me happy and trying to make a better life for myself and my family. Although I’m sure it’s somehow my fault anyway.
I have nothing else to say except that I can’t wait to see how Melissa will spin this. Here’s a free hint: it’s all my fault.
Melissa opens up about the Joe vs. Joe fight.
By Melissa Gorga
July 22, 2013
Hi everyone. I hope you are enjoying your summer. I can’t believe we are almost half way through! I know these last few episodes have been very dark, but we had to go through what you are seeing to get to a better place.
When Teresa went out and told her husband what her brother called her, Joe Guidice came flying into the ballroom yelling and aggressive. Ten years of hurt and anger in my husband just exploded. He had reached his breaking point. Joe Giudice immediately demanded an apology when his wife was called “scum.” I wonder how he would have reacted if his wife were called, say, “stripper,” “cheater,” “skank ass beotch,” or “horsey face.” How about if he were called “pussy whipped” or that he “took it up the a– with a strap on?” Joe said one word — one syllable — to his sister, right to her face, not behind her back or using other people to speak for him, and look at what happened?
The fight was about anger, frustration, and resentment. We held it in for so long that eventually we just broke down and couldn’t take it anymore. What Joe was trying to explain to his family is that when you speak negatively about his wife, it is disrespecting him. From the past few seasons, I think it’s clear that neither Teresa nor her husband will ever understand that.
When the brawl started, I just reacted and jumped in to break them apart. I’d jump in front of a moving train for my husband and kids. If my family is threatened in any way, you couldn’t drag me away. Watching the fight last night, I think I confirmed my take on marriage. It’s about love, honesty, passion, respect, and loyalty. Loyalty means you stand by your man and defend him in a fight. You don’t take off and blame others later.
Even though Joe Giudice might have deserved to get slapped for the things he’d said about me, I really wasn’t trying to hurt him. I just wanted to get them off of each other. It’s pure instinct to try to help your loved ones when you feel like they may be in danger. I was in Mama Bear mode. The claws came out. I might be small, but I can and will do anything to protect my husband from people who tried to do him harm, physically and emotionally.
Immediately after the fight, Joe was devastated. He knew that his sister and her husband would spin the fight their way and he was upset he let it get that far. He was right. Teresa told Joe that she was the one that had to go in there and break up the fight! Really? She wasn’t there! Whatever her excuse will be, the fact is she ran in the opposite direction when her husband and brother were trying to kill each other.
It was agony to watch my husband cry. Joe is a passionate, sensitive man. He really felt destroyed over what just happened. The suffering had to stop. I was desperate to separate him from the source of the pain and get out of there.
After the fight, Teresa came to our room. She asked to talk, and Joe said “no.” She then asked me to leave my husband alone with her. I said “no.” I know my husband and we all needed to cool down. I’d say we should have slept on it, but Joe and I didn’t sleep a wink that night. We were too upset. Joe was a wreck. He could barely speak and I was shaken up watching him.
Now I know that while we were crying, devastated, and embarrassed over in the other room, nothing but giggles and Fabellini toasts. The Giudices must have felt like what just happened was no big deal. They were having sexy time in the hot tub. Hey, whatever floats your boat. I wonder what Filomena “too much boobie” Giudice would say about her son and daughter-in-law’s Jacuzzi action and his “I’m going to jerk off”?
The next morning we felt more done with trying to repair our relationship with Teresa then we ever had. I said some not nice things about Teresa’s brands. I “eggmit” it. She’d thrown mud on my projects for years, especially my singing — her rendition of “On Display” at the reunion was unforgettable. Multiple times she said I lip sync and even my nieces have repeated it. As I’ve said before, tit for tat will not get us anywhere. Two wrongs don’t make a right. When I am wrong, I say I’m wrong.
I know I’m being a bit of a hard ass this season, but I just can’t be fake. Watching your husband so upset would make any women see red. I toughened up for him. He needed to be strong for our family, and I needed to be strong to back him up. At this point, I was beyond fed up. I had lost hope and believed that the nonsense was never going to end.
As you can see, I might have had the right idea. Just last week in her blog, Teresa outright threatened us saying I am “very, very lucky that [she’s] keeping quiet about the things [she] does know” about me and my marriage. I thought we are supposed to be in a better place? This is exactly why I didn’t want to just put on a fake smile and pretend that we could snap our fingers and the animosity would disappear. Teresa can threaten me all she likes. All day long, or all night in the hot tub. In fact, I beg her to write in her blog what she “has.” What lie is up her sleeve? I’m dying to know. Do share with us all, Teresa. It’s been open season on me for a while. You might as well bring it out. I’ve been called everything under the sun. What else you got? I can’t wait to hear directly from you, not others.
Obviously, I’ve had to toughen up for a reason. I thought staying at the castle and more talking would only make things worse. It would take a miracle to change my mind, and turn things around. Maybe that miracle is Dr. V. She was very pretty and didn’t look like a saint, but God worked in mysterious ways.
Jacqueline thinks Joe and Teresa’s issues just go back to their spouses.
By Jacqueline Laurita
July 22, 2013
It bothered me that Teresa kept saying that it was my fault she wasn’t speaking to her brother. If you ask her brother, he will tell you that is simply not true. I think Teresa’s memory is a little fuzzy on what I actually told her brother at the fashion show. Someone please rewind that tape. We all saw Teresa’s actions last season confirming what I told her brother was true, and it proves that I never lied about anything. I only stated the obvious.
I told Teresa’s brother that someone texted me at the fashion show saying that Teresa was at the salon earlier in the day with Kim and that shady bald guy that had just tried to embarrass Melissa. (Which was true.) I also said that someone texted me that the shady bald guy was heard laughing while saying something about embarrassing Melissa. (Which you also saw was true.) You actually see him on the finale last season saying that Kim and Teresa asked him to do it. The last thing I told her brother was that it was all a set up. (Which was also, clearly, very true.) I told the truth.
I never said that Teresa was the only person involved, but it was clear to everyone that she was involved in the set up on some level. Even if you didn’t know all of the details, it was clear that Teresa set Melissa up by not telling her what happened earlier at the salon until she put Melissa on the spot in the bathroom at the fashion show. It was obvious that Teresa was still friendly with Kim and the bald guy knowing what they had done earlier. It was clear that Kim and the bald guy felt very comfortable doing what they did in front of Teresa and that they all still remained friendly with each other afterward.
I was confident at that point that Teresa was love, love, loving every moment of humiliating Melissa, instead of love, love, loving her sister-in-law like she seemed to in California. It is becoming increasingly clear to me now, as the show progresses, that Teresa still resented Melissa, like she still resented me after she publicly made up with me.
In hindsight, I could have just let her brother watch the show to see it all unfold himself, but there were already other pieces to the puzzle that Joe and Melissa were putting together themselves. I guess at that time, I still felt hurt about how Teresa made up with me publicly and then later I found out she was still mad at me. When I saw her doing the same thing to her family, it just bothered me. I was tired of the charade. I felt like things were being taken too far.
For some reason, putting me at fault for her family feud helped Teresa to cope with it all. I guess it helped her take a load off her conscience. I think Teresa was involved in things she now regretted.
I believe as upset as Teresa was with her brother, that she loves him and is hurt that they are not as close as they used to be, but it’s very hard for her to accept Melissa as his wife. Neither of the siblings like the other’s choices in spouses. It’s a very common problem in a lot of families. I believe her brother loves Teresa, but he just wanted her to cut the B.S. of trying to hurt them and just wanted Teresa to be real and have a real relationship. He was just as hurt and frustrated as Teresa.
Melissa and Joe Giudice were caught in the crossfire and were just frustrated with the whole mess of seeing their spouse’s feelings hurt and just wanted to give up on trying to fix things. We’ve all been there at some point.
Honestly, this episode made me cry a few times. I could feel such deep emotion from everybody there. All that anger comes from hurt. Being hurt by someone you love can bring out the worst in anyone. I felt for every single one of them on this episode. They are all just frustrated with each other. Their pain runs deep, but there is still love.
Sometimes, when you hit rock bottom, there’s nowhere to go but up! Keep the faith! Keep watching.