Real Housewives of New Jersey Blame Viewers for Their Continuous Fighting
“Doubt this article from the Associated Press (see below) gets posted, but I’m putting this on each of the Housewives Bravo blogs. Seems us viewers are not ‘loved’ like the cast mates always make out LOL. They kind of blame us for their fighting!! The ladies don’t seem to mind the money they’re making! Why don’t we boycott the RHONJ so that we don’t contaminate their getting along? I hate to think I’m the one making them fight or hurting their families!!!” – Katie1958, Housewives’ Bravo Blogs, June 11, 2013
By ALICIA RANCILIO, Associated Press
June 11, 2013
Fans of “The Real Housewives of New Jersey” may find this hard to believe, but the ladies are getting along.
The show, which airs Sundays on Bravo (8 p.m. EDT), has returned with new episodes, and as this fifth season progresses, viewers will see the five women and their families work on their relationships.
Of course, the road to peace wasn’t easy for Teresa Giudice, her sister-in-law Melissa Gorga, cousin Kathy Wakile, and castmates Caroline Manzo and Jacqueline Laurita. As Manzo describes it:
“One step forward, 10 steps back.”
The New Jersey “Housewives” gathered at a New York City restaurant recently to talk about family dynamics and relationships playing out on TV and how the show has affected them.
AP: When a new season starts airing, do you dread it or look forward to it?
Wakile: Dread! (Laughs)
Gorga: I think it’s a little of both. It’s crazy when it comes on because there’s a lot said that you don’t see that’s filmed, and then we’ve come so far from where we were in the beginning, so it’s very hard to re-watch the beginning, but you just have to remember it was before the makeup and before everything got better in all of our situations.
Manzo: There’s also the social media aspect. The assumption viewers make not really knowing what’s going on, not really knowing how things played out, and they’re not very forgiving in what they have to say. For me, it’s all encompassing; and we film for six months. We don’t know what’s gonna make it on the shows. We see it three days before you do. The anticipation for us is, ‘When that DVD comes, what’s on this?’
Laurita: It’s not always our full conversations. It might be a snippet of it.
Wakile: The whole conversation can’t possibly make it. We’ve done so much work and the episode will air, and it will be something that happened so long ago, and our good feelings will get ripped apart by everybody making comments, and you start to question your relationships again. You’ve got to be really confident and know in your heart that you did come to a good place.
AP: What did it take for all of you to find peace?
Laurita: The show might be responsible for some of the fighting, but the show is also responsible for bringing us together, because if it wasn’t for the show and having us there, we would’ve probably gone separate ways and that would’ve been it.
Gorga: That’s the truth, I believe that.
Laurita: Because you’re on a show together, you’re kind of forced to face it and get deep to the roots.
AP: Do some viewers prefer to see you fighting?
Manzo: Oh, they love it.
Laurita: They do, but then when you fight they’re like, ‘Why can’t you guys get along?’
Gorga: When you’re fighting they don’t like it, and when you’re getting along they’re like, ‘Boring!’
Wakile: It’s what makes us different than the other (‘Real Housewives’) shows because these are our lives and our families as well. You may not know why we feel the way we feel. You may see some of what we’re feeling, but you don’t know where it stems from.
AP: Do people on social media sometimes add fuel to the fire?
Giudice: Sometimes they twist it and make it worse than it is.
Manzo: And it’s crazy because I don’t pay attention to it, but it’s such a huge part of what this show has become.
Laurita: It’s like, ‘You don’t know the full story.’
Manzo: You have to have a hard shell around you. For me, five seasons in, I’m bulletproof, but somebody that’s new in the game, it’s very distracting.
Wakile: And you’d hate for it to chip away on the work that you’ve come so far, and then these people start getting in your head.
AP: Did you ever think it’s never going to be fixed?
Gorga: Oh, yes.
Laurita: When you’re angry and you’re in it, you don’t see the light at the end.
AP: Has filming affected your marriages?
Gorga: It’s definitely pressure, but only the strong survive.
Giudice: It’s made ours stronger, definitely, because people are trying to come after my marriage and say that my husband is cheating on me blah, blah, blah, and I’m like, ‘All right, whatever. OK.’
Gorga: This whole season my marriage is under attack basically.
AP: Teresa, your husband seems like he shrugs off that stuff.
Giudice: Oh, he don’t care. It doesn’t really bother me because I know he’s not cheating. I don’t want my kids to hear.
AP: Has this experience made you look at other reality shows differently?
Manzo: When you’re watching it, you know (what’s real and what’s not). It’s very obvious to us now. It’s like a trained eye.
AP: By the time we see the reunion episode do you think you’ll all still be friends?
Manzo: We’re hopeful but we don’t know what lies ahead of us. We know how our last few weeks of filming was, we know what our final scene was, but we don’t know if any of that’s gonna make it on. We don’t know the story that’s gonna be told. So to say if we’re gonna be in this same place four months from now, it’s an impossible question to answer.
Gorga: We’ve come this far. It would be really sad to go backwards.
Giudice: I never want to go backwards.
Alicia Rancilio covers entertainment for The Associated Press. Follow her online at http://www.twitter.com/aliciar
“How many times has Caroline said in recent weeks ‘Who knows?’ That tells me alot – this ‘good place’ is not as good as we are being led to believe and very tenuous at best. IMO, these replies of ‘who knows’, ‘we’ll see’, etc. is to protect the storyline for Season 6. IF there is a next season. This is the approved Bravo response. If the ratings increase with everyone getting along, they may stay with that storyline, with only some minor tiffs here and there. On the other hand, if the viewer response is negative, then Bravo has the option to go back to all the backstabbing and cruelty. It’s all about the storyline. I keep thinking of Fredo saying, when he and Messy went to Teresa’s Milania Launch, that it was only for show, but then it came out that they were in a good place. He goofed by saying that. Apparently he didn’t get the feel-good memo. I always wonder if, in reality, they have always been on good terms and are simply playing the character they were hired to play. Then I think of the pain on Gia’s and Teresa’s faces and that pain is definitely real. – TNMom, June 12, 2013, Fame-Whorgas
In season 3, when Joe and Teresa were discussing the tabloid headlines, Joe Giudice said, as a matter of fact:
“This is what we signed up for.”
And they are paid accordingly — why else would the cast keep coming back?
Hat Tip: mzjulesaz, thanks for the tip on the AP article and comment by Katie1958