Melissa Gorga’s Best Quotes and Lies (Updated 10/7/2012)
From Her Website
“I did bartend for a few weeks at a bikini bar while I was in college. My outfit was a tank top, shorts and sneakers… Even if I had been a dancer, I do not know why anyone would care 10 years later.”
In her Bravo blog on April 30, 2012, she changed her story to fit with the time frame of the pay register she released:
“I put myself through college with the help of my godfather and worked three jobs doing it. I was substitute teaching, working in a tanning salon, and bar tending one night a week.” [Melissa Gorga, Like a Prayer, April 30, 2012]
A few weeks earlier, on April 12, 2012, Melissa was interviewed by one of her favorite blogs, Reality Tea. She said Joe Gorga used to come see her when she was a bartender at Lookers Gentleman’s Club while in college. She also said she couldn’t remember when she graduated college (as if it was decades ago and her memory is failing her).
Reality Tea: So, the infamous “stripper rumors…” How did Joe and your family handle hearing those things about you? Was it stressful?
Melissa: “That, I have to say, was probably the least amount of stress. It was just so absurd. It was so ridiculous. Joe [Gorga] actually used to come see me when I bartended there. I bartended when I was in college.”
Reality Tea: Sadly Melissa couldn’t seem to remember when she graduated! Minor detail? Right?
Odd that Reality tea is only following @JacLaurita & @melissagorga, not hard to figure out who the “sources” are. #bitterbettys
27 April 2012
Editor’s Note: So which is it Melissa, did you work at a ‘bikini bar’ for a couple of months while in college or did you bartend/dance at the ‘gentleman’s club’ Lookers for at least a year, starting in 2003 when you were 24 years old, the year you met Joe Gorga. In season 3, episode 6, Joe made no mention that you were still in college when he met you, just that you were working three jobs and he promised you a ‘Pretty Women’ scenario, where he would put you on a pedestal and give you everything you wanted (so you wouldn’t have to work three jobs anymore, including the one in the sex industry).
The Gorgas are sticking to the story that she was working three jobs when Joe met her in 2003. And she is being more specific now, saying she ‘bartended’ one night per week to fit the time frame of the pay register she released to AllAboutTRH in December 2011. She told Reality Tea she can’t remember when she graduated college because it won’t match the Lookers’ pay register, which means she’ll be caught in another lie.
“The hooker claims she went to college. She’s not sure of the decade, but she’s almost positive she did attend.” [NYGirl, May 24, 2012, AllAboutTRH.com]
From Before She Married Joe
According to Teresa (season 3 reunion), Melissa told her and Kathy (when they were out together drinking in Hoboken and Melissa was a little buzzed): “I wasn’t stupid like my sisters; of course when I saw his house I was going to jump on that sh*t.” Melissa and Kathy attacked Teresa: Kathy claiming she said something other than that (but not actually denying that she said that as well) and Melissa denying it ever happened. Teresa then said: “The truth comes out when you’re drinking.”
From Before Season One Even Aired
Melissa posted anonymously in 2008 while season one was filming:
“One of the pathetic losers that are on this show, is a very close relative of mine. Don’t understand how that show chose her to be on tv. If anyone knows who I might be talking about, what an idiot, clueless mother and a housewive that has no idea what her husband does and who. She definitely needs a reality check.”
“I know one of “housewives” very well. Just from knowing some of the girls on this show I can see why Bravo didn’t pick woman with real money and class they picked the dumb ones with no class and charge cards, it makes for a better show. Why don’t they donate some money to chairty instead of worrying about out doing each other with material things.”
“I know the two sisters on the show and know a third housewive (not so much a housewive at home) I would love to see a show about their so called husbands. I know alot of ones’ husband and he definitely is not too involved with his wife and three kids. But what she don’t know, she will never have a clue about!!!!!!”
“Born and raised in Paterson and and then thinking that she has the wonderful life that these women so called have on this show. This is all just a show because that woman has nothing just a bunch of credit cards with a high balance!!!!!”
“I saw one of the housewives just recently. I don’t need to kiss anyones’ ass especially her. Don’t know wjat definition of beautiful, funny, entertaining your talking about and believe me no one is kissing her ass in this family. She came from nothing and now she thinks she’s living that perfect lifestyle. Believe me everyone in this family is laughing at her. She’s a mess!!!CLUELESS about life! Try having a conversation with her, “what a dumbass”
“FAMOUS” hahaha That’s great. Is that what you actually believe. Famous for WHAT!! And RICH – ER, even better, maybe Teresa should do a credit check on her husband and see how RICH there NOT!”
“One of them…the one that lives in Montville now used to live in a shit hole of a house in Lincoln Park with a mazaratti parked out front. Hmmmm can someone say dirty money. Yeah right ‘construction’ HA H”
“OMG!!! I love it, cant wait to see more, come on people, you gotta admit, these girls are a complete mess. You got the fat wife from the brownstone that needs hair extensions. Dina’s looking old. The wacko from Wayne, (her poor kids), and then Teresa, what is she gonna do when she finds out alllll the $ they owe people and they are gonna be looking for it after they see this show air! The only nice one is the sister in law. She don’t belong with those idiots!”
Melissa trash talked everyone on this blog but Danielle Staub (she may already have been in contact with Danielle as far back as 2008 when they were filming season 1) and then said this about herself and Joe Gorga:
“I met the brother of the Montville housewife. What an awesome guy very successful owns alot of buildings and he is her younger brother. He is very young. Wow!! His house is the most amazing house in Montville, in a very prestigious development. Its an OMG! Cribs doesn’t even have houses like that. He has a beautiful wife and family, she is only 29! living in a house like that! God Bless. If the montville housewife is anything like her brother she should be interesting. Im sure she will be, they must come from a great family. I know of some of the other girls. Im excited to watch the show. When does it come on? [December 21, 2008 12:24 PM]
From Before Season 3 Aired
Melissa Marco-Gorga finds it amazing how you can bring Christmas cookies to someones house, then go back there again the next day after Christmas b/c of a different celebration, and the woman of the house picks up some cookies and says to you, “these are the k…ind of cookies I like, when you come to my house bring these cookies, I threw out the ones that you brought, did you get them from A & P a supermarket”, NO I replied, I got them from Corrados, an excellent Italian shop, that we all know and love. And I’m pregnant so those caught my eye and I bought them, then she replied, “I threw them in the garbage I don’t like those kinds of cookies” NOTE TO SELF: I should have said, “Well they are better then the NOTHING THAT YOU BRING TO MY HOUSE EVERY EASTER!!” How can someone be so rude, and always want to attack someone else, what could it be, HMMMMM! I think I might know but I wont go there. I think some people need to come back to plant earth, Oh I forgot, she also let everyone know Last night, AND I QUOTE “I AM A CELEBRITY” I’ve been quiet for so long but now you’ve pushed me right over the edge! RIGHT OVER IT!!
From Before Season 3 Aired
On May 16, 2011, NJ.com interviewed Melissa and asked her for a response to this: Teresa said that she wishes her baby sister-in-law didn’t copy everything she does, down to the shoes she wears to the chairs on her front porch:
“My response for that is, sometimes people have a way of trying to use reverse psychology, and they do try to turn it around and say it’s the other people. I think she’s just using a good example of that in there.”
Editor’s Note: Teresa is eight years older than Melissa and was over the top and ‘fabulous’ long before she met her in 2003 — she had two of her four children before Melissa’s first child was born (Gia is five years old older, and Gabriella is two years older, than Antonia) — so Teresa was never emulating Melissa… it’s always been Melissa copying Teresa. For examples of Melissa copying Teresa, click here.
From Season 3 Interviews and Her Blog Claiming That Teresa Excluded Them From Her Life After She Was Cast on RHONJ
“Teresa’s never given us any respect… I think when Joe and I started making a lot of money is when she really lost it. She was used to being the biggest and the best, and then when I came in, she felt threatened. She doesn’t want anyone to one up her. Teresa’s fine with you as long as you’re one step below.” – Melissa Gorga, Life & Style, May 18, 2011
“Teresa has kept my husband, Joe, and his family (me and my three children) away from everything she has been going through and everything that has been so exciting in her life for the last three years… She kept us as far away during season 1 and season 2, because I think she knew this would happen when they found us. Karma is a bitch… Teresa likes to be the center of attention. Be beneath her or get the hell out of her way. Well she has met her match! … My sisters and Joe have an amazing relationship. He feels they act more like sisters to him than his own does… he is completely disappointed with the way she treats him and his family.” – Melissa Gorga, No Fakers, May 16, 2011
“[Melissa Gorga] Missy was at nearly every single family function, especially the ones filmed for Bravo. For years, she sent Bravo ‘audition’ tapes, e-mails, and even spoke with producers and assistants in person. No one was interested in her or her husband, who they mocked behind the scenes… The day of the reunion [season 2], after the first Danielle confrontation (there were more), Tre got extreme anxiety – and this is when she started to put all of Missy’s motives together: coming to every family event for camera time while behind the scenes contacting producers, Danielle, and pulling the best act [their Soprano’s-style audition tape] which got her on the show – together with Tre’s brother Joey.” – RHONJ Insider, Comment Posted at Reality Tea, September 17, 2011
During the Airing of Season 3
Billy Bush of Access Hollywood interviewed Melissa on May 23, 2011. According to TheRealOcc2Nyc:
“She said that it was absolutely not true that she and Joe were jealous of Teresa’s fame. In fact, Melissa kept insisting that her husband wanted nothing to do with the show. When asked if it was true that she was considered for Season one, and then rejected, Melissa replied with “No, I don’t think so.”
Billy Bush, who was uncharacteristically antagonistic in this interview, also asked her if it was worth sacrificing family for fame, noting that if they didn’t fight the show would be boring. But Melissa defended herself again, saying, “absolutely not.” After all, BB, they have been fighting long before the Housewives ever came along. So for once reality TV isn’t necessarily the impetus behind the fighting.
During the Airing of Season 3
NJ.com asked Melissa on May 16, 2011: What was it like for you, airing your family’s dirty laundry on television?
“It was rough. It wasn’t easy. It wasn’t something any of us wanted to do. We knew most likely what was going to happen, how it was going to come out. We look at it as an incredible opportunity, that if we go in and we’re telling the truth and we stay true to who we are, hopefully we’ll come out shining.”
TV Guide asked Melissa on June 10, 2011: How did your family react when you first started talking about joining The Real Housewives of New Jersey?
“We didn’t want to do it at first, and Joe was definitely saying no to the point where it was pretty much a no. Then, he took that I do sing into account and that it is a huge opportunity, and we kind of thought maybe we could outsmart them. This will be fun. They will show all the good parts and nothing bad will come out because we’re too smart for them. … I guess we were wrong.”
On May 15, 2011, Melissa told NorthJersey.com:
“I wasn’t sure at first if it was something that I wanted to subject my family to, kind of putting ourselves out there, but I’m not a shy person. I’m great with people. I’ve always been, and I just felt like it would be a great stepping-stone for me,” she says. “I have a hidden talent. I do sing. I currently have a couple of singles coming out. … I figured, you only get one life and one chance to do something big like this, so I’ll go for it.”
On April 12, 2012, Melissa told Reality Tea:
“I told my husband I didn’t want do it. I left it up to him, because I told him ‘You know what, Joe – it’s your family.’ Ultimately, Joe made the decision, because of the opportunity.”
TV Guide asked Melissa on June 10, 2011: Teresa has told the press that you and Kathy approached Bravo about joining the show and not the other way around. Is there any truth to that?
“What happened was, I was really just driving in my car on a Friday afternoon when they called me. They just said, “Hi, its The Real Housewives of New Jersey producers. We’re from Bravo. We want to interview you.” I have no idea how they found me. I think they found Kathy on Facebook. Neither of us pursued it, wanted it, were looking for it — it just kind of fell into our laps. Bravo is smart, they figured it out. They heard through the grapevine that there was some type of tension. … They caught on to it.”
Editor’s Note: None of this is true. Click here to read the real story from an insider.
From Season 3, Episode 1
“Teresa thinks that she throws better parties, but she does not throw better parties than me. She’s a faker.”
From Season 3, Episode 2
“I knew my place at her christening. She didn’t know her place at mine.”
“Me and you both know that whenever someone’s wrong, they yell and scream like animals” (referring to the Giudices at the Christening, despite the fact her husband was the one throwing a fit).
From Season 3, Episode 5
“The children were having such a good time and I felt so empty” (at Gia’s gymnastic meet, where everyone was getting along despite the fact that the Gorgas showed up late).
From Season 3, Episode 6
“I just want Teresa to own up to everything’s she’s done. ‘Yes I’ve done this to you. Yes I’ve done this to your wife.’ Unless she owns up to what’s she done, she’s not going to have a brother for very long.”
From Season 3, Episode 7
“I hope she [Teresa] does start caring about family, because the truth is, if she doesn’t, I don’t think her brother is going to give her another chance after this. I think this is the last and final draw, to be honest with you.”
From Season 3, Episode 7
“My husband did raise his voice because he wants his sister to be real not because there’s photographers around and oh let me be nice and let me show the people that me and my brother are happy” (still going on about the Christening).
From Season 3, Episode 7
Lysa Simpson: Doesn’t she (Teresa) have a nanny?
Melissa: No, my mother-in-law’s her nanny (Lysa Simpson rolls her eyes). They can’t pay for a nanny right now; that wouldn’t be smart. My mother-in-law babysits for Teresa every single day. Whatever, I don’t care. That’s why I gotta nanny. My husband works hard and we can pay for it. Whatya gonna do?
Editor’s Note: In a November 2011 interview with HollyBaby, Melissa reveals that she does all the work maintaining her luxury 13,000 square foot home as well as caring for her three young children — by herself! #yeahright. “I have no cooks, no nannies, no housekeepers, none of that,” she insists. “I like doing it myself.”
Prior to Melissa joining the cast in season 3, she tweeted this about Teresa during the airing of season 2:
Thats right Andrea! I agree I hate when people say I don’t need a nanny I do everything myself, & their mother is there everyday!!!!
March 26, 2010
From Season 3, Lost Footage
“I can’t lie. Antonia is definitely a little mini me. She loves the spotlight. She’s absolutely gorgeous. And she’s got moves, this little girl. You know, she gets it from her mama.”
From Her First Bravo Blog, No Fakers, May 16, 2011
Some of you may be very confused right now. You may be thinking, “Teresa has a brother?” Before all the press, you probably didn’t know we existed, did you? Well here we are!
I know the episode is a bit confusing at first. You’re probably wondering why Joe acted the way he did when his sister came up to him. It’s understandable so let me explain. Teresa has kept my husband, Joe, and his family (me and my three children) away from everything she has been going through and everything that has been so exciting in her life for the last three years.
She has never been happy for her brother or cared about anything good going on in his life or his children’s. She only wants to discuss her life and only cares about herself. She kept us as far away during Season 1 and Season 2, because I think she knew this would happen when they found us. Karma is a bitch.
Family comes first for me, but unfortunately it does not for her, and it never will. It’s just not who she is, and that’s OK, but don’t think we are going to go on national TV and be fake with you. We are not fakers, sorry.
When Teresa says she was her brother’s best friend before he got married, I believe that was true. She probably was. She was the only girl around, and there was no one else to share the spotlight with. Teresa likes to be the center of attention. Be beneath her or get the hell out of her way. Well she has met her match!
My sisters and Joe have an amazing relationship. He feels they act more like sisters to him than his own does. When Teresa called my sister Lysa for advice because we didn’t want to talk to her anymore, I warned my sister not to talk to her.
I will say that the fight did happen the last half hour of the night, and yes, he was drinking. We were celebrating our son, it’s very normal for us to have a good time and let loose at a party. But he knew exactly what he was doing, and he was not completely hammered. He just drank a lot by that time of the night. Did you see Joe with his niece, Gia? He is the best uncle in the world. You can see how much Gia loves him written all over her face.
The one thing he regrets is calling his sister garbage. He doesn’t remember saying that, and it is not in his character to say that. Yes, he is completely disappointed with the way she treats him and his family, but he would never want to call her garbage. That is still his sister at the end of the day. He does love her. And so do I.
From Her First Bravo Blog, No Fakers, May 16, 2011
“I wanted nothing more than to have her as my third big sister. I tried really hard in the beginning with her, but she was impossible. She was always insulting me or putting me down. And when I would get upset she would say, ‘God, you’re so sensitive.’ No, I just want to be respected, that’s all. You will see this play out as the season goes on. Again, I will say that I wanted nothing more than for her to be a big sister to me. Wishful thinking?”
Editor’s Note: Teresa said she tried to have a relationship with Melissa, even making her Gabriella’s godmother, but Melissa didn’t reciprocate — apparently she didn’t need another sister since she had two blood sisters already. Teresa wanted Melissa to treat her like a sister, but Melissa had no intention of doing that.
During episode 6 of season 3:
Teresa in her TH – “We’re going down this crooked road because of the poison his wife’s given him.”
Teresa to Joe – “She’s a cold person… I’m not saying she’s a bad person. She just pushed me away and I got away.”
During the premier of season 3, at Melissa’s, her sister is helping the family get ready:
“Teresa never had sisters, so she doesn’t know how to be a sister,” Melissa says.
During season 3, Melissa talks to Lauren about her problems with her brothers. “I would die without my sisters, die,” Melissa tells her. Teresa, clutching a big glass of wine, overhears this and says, “I got married and it was like, ‘No more brother.’”
And thus begins one of the memorable exchanges of this season:
Melissa – “You have a sister, I’m over here. Hello, I’m your sister.”
Teresa – “Well, yeah, you always said, ‘I have sisters.’”
Melissa – “You can be my sister too.”
Teresa – “I’ll do it then.”
Melissa – “Wake up and smell the coffee.”
Teresa – “You wake up and smell the coffee because I tried.”
From Her Second Bravo Blog, High School All Over Again, May 24, 2011
Give me the chance to defend myself, you can’t believe what someone says just because they say it. You need to see the two-way conversation and then make your decision.
Joe and I have never once asked Teresa to put us on TV. We were at all the kids’ birthday parties, so of course you would see us in the background sometimes during past seasons. There was no way she wouldn’t invite us to the kids’ parties, what would everyone think? Where is her only brother, right? Of course we were there. Once again it was a “technicality,” but on her part this time. We usually kiss hello and then say goodbye when it’s over.
To be perfectly honest with you, Joe never wanted to be around the cameras. We were happy for her when she got the show, and I told her she should do it. It might be easy to think that we were jealous that she was on TV, but that is not the case.
I hope in time, viewers can understand where I am coming from. We never had the kind of relationship where I would call and say, “Why don’t you do something with your brother and the kids, it would be cute for the show.” I would feel so uncomfortable saying that, and she would look at me like I had ten heads. Even in episode when I saw them making the sauce, a tradition that her brother would usually be invited to as well, we still never called or argued once about that. Whether cameras are there or not, we just wanted to be a family. Period. There is nothing more to it than that. I know it might appear otherwise, but it’s just not the truth.
Kathy and Rich invited us over to talk about what happened at the christening. They knew how hurt Joe and I were, so they wanted us to come talk about it. They are good people and know that Joe needed some family to talk to, and they were kind enough to offer that to us. I love them for that. As you can see, my husband was still so upset.
I think he was expecting a phone call from his sister asking if we were all OK and trying to explain why she pushed him to that point, but he never got anything. He admits the way he reacted was not the right way, but bottom line is it was his son’s christening. Families have blowouts, sometimes even tragic ones like this, but most of the time you get a phone call the next day. I think he wanted that from his sister. He wanted an apology for doing what she does best, causing a stir and getting everyone crazy when it all could have been avoided in the first place. He then would have told her he is so sorry for calling her garbage.
Did you see my sisters cheering me on? We love each other so much. We support each other no matter what. That’s what sisters do. If I saw one of my sisters robbing a bank, I wouldn’t tell on her. Sorry, that’s just the way it is! They really didn’t want me to go over by Joe Giudice’s mom because of some of the events that happened at the christening. I will never embarrass that family more than they already have, so I choose not to talk about it. Trust me, my sisters had my best interest in mind. They always do. But, being the person I am, I still didn’t listen to them and walked over to say hello and gave her a kiss. That’s what I believe was the right thing to do. Sometimes you just have to be the better person. I love my mother-in-law, and I will always respect her. Always! She’s the reason I cook so well!
I’m sure you know by now whenever Teresa pauses, thinks for a minute, and you see that blank face come on, you know what’s coming.
You have to understand my situation, I am caught in the middle of a brother and sister quarrel. Sometimes the sister doesn’t like to fess up to things she has done to hurt the brother-sister relationship. As you can see, it’s nothing he has done before the christening, because when people ask her what the problem is and what went wrong, she always says she doesn’t know. Sometimes she even blames it on the fact that he got married. This is so not true. If he or I ever did something wrong, believe me, Teresa would tell you. You would know by now. You will see that I do everything in my power to mend the fences here, watch and see!
From Her Fourth Bravo Blog, On Sprinkle Cookies, June 7, 2011
OK, so why did I write “redone home?” Contrary to the rumors, I don’t wish to expose my husband’s family, but I do think I should explain this.
First off let me say it is a beautiful redone home. Was it a dig? Yes!
Did I know she would not like the wording, yes.
What you will see in episodes to come is that she has been throwing digs at me since the day I came into this family. Why? I don’t know. I could never figure it out, I could never figure out why she would say something so rude to me and then two minutes later smile and want to go to lunch.
To be honest I’ve been confused about Teresa since the day I met her. I’ve decided not to list the digs that have been thrown at me first before I wrote that card. If they play out on the show they do, if they don’t, they don’t. Was redone the best choice of words, no.
When I entered this family I put them first, I spent more time with Teresa and Joe’s parents then I did my own. I loved them, and my family lived an hour and a half away. We spent almost every Sunday with them and we went out to dinner with Joe and Teresa and Kathy and Rich almost every weekend! Believe me I tried, I put his family first.
I will say I’m also happy they showed us at the housewarming party! Can we now put all those rumors to rest that Joe and I were mad for not being around the cameras? It’s just simply not true.
I love Joe very much and I know he appreciates my family, but there is something missing and that’s his family. I want him to be happy, he has mad me happy since the day I met him. I want him to spend the holidays with his family.
At this point I will do anything in my power to get this fixed and have everyone work it out. When I say I will deal with anything I have to so he can have his family I mean it. Anything. I will stop at nothing to fix this.
From Her Fifth Bravo Blog, On Display, June 14, 2011
I know there are people that are going to try to break us down, and I know there are people who just don’t understand it, and therefore they make nasty comments about it. Things like, “Melissa has a way of getting what she wants, do I f—ing need to spell it out.” No, Teresa, please don’t spell it out, we know exactly what you are insinuating.
By now everyone should also know that these kinds of things could be the root of why Joe and Teresa have such a hard time getting along. That hurts him, he doesn’t understand it. We don’t understand how the way we live our life affects her. We would never do anything to hurt her, we both truly love Teresa, I mean that. We just can’t understand her. We never throw our relationship in her face, we never give her a reason to give us such a hard time. She was there from the day we met and knows what we have.
I’m so happy that Joe decided to call his sister and work things out. I knew Gia had a meet and knew it would be a great time to smooth things over and just be with his family. I knew he would not be able to say no to me if I told him it was for Gia. I suggested he call his sister and tell her he wants to come. I’m glad he listened to me.
I am so proud of Gia, she loves gymnastics! Antonia loves to watch Gia, they go to the same gymnastics school, and Antonia gets so excited when she runs into her there. She always says, “Momma I love the way Gia does gymnastics.” I tell her when she gets big she will be able to do all of those things too, just like her big cousin.
That is what makes me weak through all of this, that’s what makes me want to take anything they want to give me — the kids, nothing else really matters. I want Joe and Teresa to see this, I want everyone to understand that we all need to forgive and forget, let the past be the past. It’s time to get over it. It’s time to move on. The time of the gymnastics meet did get confused, and Joe was a little off on it. You could see there was a lot of confusion when she told him the time on the phone, she changed the time twice and Gia said a different time.
I wanted to be able to talk to Joe before he went to meet his sister and tell him to think positive and try really hard to work it out.
Editor’s Note: Gia told her Uncle Joe over the phone that the meet was at 1 PM. After the met, at Casa Gorga, Melissa rips into her husband’s family, saying they either act like she doesn’t exist or they act like she’s the reason there’s a rift in the family. “How can I respect my family when they don’t respect my family,” Joe agrees. “I don’t have to write a letter because I’m not guilty. Teresa is going to have to apologize to you. You’re the one who’s taking the abuse.”
From Her Sixth Bravo Blog, Light at the End of the Tunnel, June 21, 2011
I’m glad Joe took the steps to talk to Teresa about why he’s upset with her. It’s obvious from the opening scenes that I will support whatever it takes for my husband to reconcile with his sister. It is so emotionally draining, but I tell him to stay positive. Teresa and I may never see eye to eye, but I know how much he loves her and wants his family back.
I’m going to address what happened in this episode and try to give you some insight into why there is conflict between our families. Watching this episode it’s obvious that from Teresa’s point of view she feels it’s completely my fault and my husband feels that Teresa and Joe Giudice are at fault. Every argument has two sides, and I admit I’ve made mistakes along the way. So here we go.
As you see in this episode (and more in next week’s) the breakdown between my husband and his sister began well before I entered the picture. Teresa even admits that she put her brother before her husband; by doing that, she made her husband turn against her brother. I don’t blame Joe Giudice for getting a complex and feeling the need to keep up with my husband, because at every turn he was being asked why Joey has this or look at the big house Joey built. That began way before I came around, and I could feel the tension from the very first day I spent with his family. That’s the truth.
At dinner, my husband pulls out Teresa’s letter and asks her, “What do you mean by you hurt me, you hurt my family?” Teresa has no answer. Joe tells Teresa that their relationship is broken because he feels that she neglected his family, that she is not an aunt to his kids, and that he is tired of her being fake for the cameras. In the first episode, Joe tells Teresa to “do what you do best” and ignore us. He’s referring to the fact that Teresa doesn’t call to see how our kids are or come over to see our family. He also mentions in this episode how she doesn’t know her godson, Gino, and my heart broke.
Teresa constantly says, “It’s your wife,” that I’m “cold,” and that I ignored her phone calls. Anyone who knows me knows that I am not cold. I am one of the most loyal people around. I love life, and I wear my heart on my sleeve. I never wanted to ignore her phone calls, but sometimes I would be having a nice day with my kids and she would call, make an unnecessary dig, and ruin it.
As you can see from watching the show for the past three seasons, Teresa has a way of saying things to people that can make your mouth drop almost every time. She’ll say something nasty then, when you react, she will call you out on it and never acknowledge what she said to cause the reaction in the first place. These are the hurtful comments that Kathy talks about during the episode, which Teresa thinks we are all too sensitive about and should just ignore.
When Joe asks Teresa, “What has my wife done to you,” she comes back to the fact that I sent her a card that said, “Congratulations to you and your re-done home.” I’m not sure if you caught it, but what Joe tries to explain to Teresa is that I wrote that card, because when we finished our new house, she called not to congratulate us, but to say that we only finished your home in a year because we had a loan. It seemed like Teresa was upset that we finished our home first, like it’s a competition.
Flashback to her ‘On Sprinkle Cookies’ blog from June 7, 2011 to understand what she is talking about above: “Teresa did live in that beautiful redone home for five years before they decided to put the addition on it. (I’m still confused why she said she skeeves out at living in other people’s homes, because she did for five years.) I don’t see what’s wrong with that. What’s wrong with making rooms bigger and adding a couple! Is it just me? Most people would love to live in that house. Did I know she would not like the wording, yes.”
What’s the big deal? Why can’t we celebrate that we’re both movin’ on up? I’m not proud that I said re-done home on her card. I should have just zipped it and let it go. Understand this is just one of the many backhanded comments we’ve received from Teresa over the years, and you can only get pushed so much.
I really feel that Teresa shows her true colors when she tells Jacqueline her side of the meeting with her brother. She keeps saying, “It’s Melissa! It’s Melissa!” Joe is his own man and he makes his own decisions. Anyone who knows him knows that I can never change his mind on anything. He just wants Teresa to own up to her mistakes.
She tells Jacqueline that I’m a “gold-digger” and in the same breath bashes me for not growing up with a silver spoon in my mouth! I held down three jobs to put myself through college when I first met Joe. [Editor’s Note: She was 24 when she met Joe and was working at Lookers’ gentlemen’s club as one of her three jobs.]
Teresa’s constant digs about me and Joe aren’t even what is so upsetting throughout this entire episode. Teresa recalls a conversation that her and I supposedly once had early on in my relationship with Joe, where I said to her, “As soon as I met Joe, I saw his house. I wasn’t stupid like my two sisters, I was smart.” Now that is an absolute lie. I never thought Teresa would go so low as to outright lie.
I’m glad you get to see our dinner with Kathy and Rich at Kim and Bob Hiza’s house. You can clearly see that we had the perfect opportunity to discuss Teresa and Joe Giudice’s financial problems, but we took the high road as we always do when that topic is brought up in the press, on the show, and around other people. We are not out to get Teresa or talk about their legal issues.
From Her Pre-Season 3 Interview
[My husband] and I together are a power couple and we’re great and we really compliment each other well throughout the whole season. So, you’re going to see a lot of me and my husband. A lot of me being a little bit of everything where I cook, I clean and now I’m going on this journey to be a singer. And I have incredible producers who have worked with Britney Spears and Beyonce coming into my home and I sing next to a piano a capella. And you’re going to see my journey all the way up to my first performance, to my first live singing performance. So, it’s an amazing journey you’re going to take with me on the whole ride of my music career.
From Season 3, Reunion Special
“I want this music career so bad.”
“The sad thing is, her wish might come true. When you have her kind of money, you can be a 32 year-old mother of two [three] with no discernible talent and an international pop sensation. I’m pretty sure Melissa is the reason people are occupying Wall St. But because she’s first and foremost a real housewife, Melissa has her stylist at the house not for her next video, but for her upcoming family portrait.”
From Her Post-Season 3 Interviews
Melissa also insists that despite how it looks on the show, the real issues are between Teresa and Joe, not her and Teresa. She says,
“I think a lot of people were very confused and thought it was between Teresa and me, but a lot of it does stand between a brother and sister. Somehow I get caught in the middle.”
As for where Melissa and Teresa stand on Season 4 of RHoNJ, Melissa reveals,
“I might get slapped in my face, I might not. You have to watch and see, but I can put my head on my pillow at night.”
Gorga says that she tries to stay away from Giudice’s path and that it is important for her to shield her three young children, Antonia, 6, Gino, 4, and Joey, 1, from their aunt.
“You try to cover it up as much as you can and for as long as you can,” Gorga tells HollyBaby. “There’s no reason why a young child should see their aunts or uncles or any grown adults not being able to get along. They just want to love their aunts. They want to love their uncles. So to bring them in is selfish and it’s mean. Just to make them side with you, it’s terrible.”
Gorga, who aspires to be the next Britney Spears with her singing career, also says that while she tries to maintain her hectic schedule with her home life, it is difficult trying to juggle the two at the same time. She says that even though she has no cooks, nannies, or housekeepers to help her around the house,
“Now I have to take myself away sometimes and have a babysitter step in. It’s hard to let go because I want to be there for every single thing.”
From Her Post-Season 3 Interview About the Setup at the Posche Fashion Show to Expose Her Stripper Past
According to Celebuzz on October 1, 2011, Melissa pointed a finger at Teresa Giudice, who, the initial report says, tried to intervene at the fashion show from which the incident stemmed. Melissa says that,
“Someone desperately wants to knock me down and prove that I have something to hide, but then tries to cover it up by putting the blame on production.”
“Teresa ‘tried to set me up’ and is back to her old tricks, Melissa told Media Bistro on November 30, 2011, without giving anything away. After all the kissing and making up seen at the end of last season, Melissa’s husband Joe Gorga is ‘disgusted’ with his table tipping sibling once again.”
Editor’s Note: Bravo is the only entity guilty of setting up Melissa. More importantly, if she was never a stripper/dancer at Lookers as she claims, then how could anyone set her up?
From Her Post-Season 3 Interview About the Reunion
Melissa told Hollywood Life on October 27, 2011, that she has her own issues with Teresa.
“There’s no denying she picks on me,” admits Melissa. “She takes it as I’m copying her instead of as a compliment. Well look, I see the way you guys do things and I want to be a part of this family and I want to do it the same. It’s a shame that she doesn’t look at it that way.”
From Her as a ‘Secret Source’ to Reality Tea
Melissa’s favorite blogs are Reality Tea and LynnNChicago. Both do one-sided, biased stories (Mary at RT has always posted negative things about Melissa when she has the information; it is RT herself who never posts negative articles about Melissa) on the RHONJ, using Melissa and her sisters, Caroline and Jacqueline as their inside sources. The other housewives accuse Teresa of doing what they continue to do, and that is feed lies to the blogs and tabloids.
On March 27, 2012, Reality Tea published a blog defaming Teresa (as usual), this time ‘reporting’ that their ‘RHONJ insider’ (Melissa) says Gia is closer to her manager than her own mother:
“Teresa is still desperate to have Gia be a star. The woman who has been Gia’s manager filmed for Toddlers and Tiaras. Gia danced with her dance group at the event. Xisit Talent is involved with pageants now.” The source alleges: “Gia is so young and hanging out with kids a LOT older then her. Gia is closer to her manager these days then her own mother.”
LynnNChicago interviewed Melissa on April 1, 2012, and asked her about the allegations made by Reality Tea’s ‘secret source’ concerning a confrontation between Melissa and Teresa at Gia and Milania’s joint birthday party in January 2012. Lynn did not ask Melissa if she was the ‘secret source.’ Of course, Melissa (who planted the bogus story) evaded the question, but implied that something did happen yet, unlike Teresa, she rose above it for the kid’s sake. Here is what LynnNChicago posted about Melissa’s attendance at Gia and Milania’s joint birthday party:
Lynn: A while back we all heard about the birthday party for Teresa’s two daughters, Melissa attended, rumors flew that Teresa wasn’t happy and even yelled at Melissa, I asked her what really happened and why Joe didn’t go with her to the party.
Melissa: “Teresa and I know what happened that day and I don’t want to get into it. What I will say was it was a beautiful party for Gia and Milania with their friends and parents from the community. I brought Antonia and the boys and we had a blast. The cousins love each other so much and I put everything else aside to make sure that whatever goes on with the adults, they are not affected by it.”
Here are the quotes from the Reality Tea blog about Gia and Milania’s birthday party – ‘source’ or ‘insider’ has been replaced with the actual source, Melissa:
Our RHONJ insider [Melissa Gorga] tells us that Teresa continues her attempt to push Gia into the spotlight.
“Teresa has always been desperate to have Gia in the limelight,” Melissa tells Reality Tea. “She wanted her to model, that didn’t work out. She wanted her to sing, that didn’t work out. Now, she has Gia in a ‘dance’ group.”
Melissa continues that guests were shocked at Gia’s dance outfit.
“Guests at her daughter’s birthday party were disturbed by the outfits Gia wore. She is just a little girl. Teresa dresses her like she is 16. People were shocked,” says Melissa.
Melissa tells Wetpaint the drama began when Teresa would not even allow Melissa to be photographed. Indeed, Melissa says she was not pictured in any of the professional photos taken at the party.
“When a photographer went over to ask Teresa if he could take a picture of Melissa, Teresa said ‘no,’ ” she says.
Despite getting the cold shoulder from Tre, Melissa reveals that she still tried to have a good time at the party, spending most of the night with her mother-in-law.
“She said ‘hello’ to Joe Giudice. He was nice, and Melissa was nice right back to him. Milania and Antonia [one of Melissa’s kids] were hugging and dancing the whole time.”
Melissa reports that Teresa looked annoyed watching her and decided to approach her while others were getting ready to leave.
“Teresa started to get loud, and Melissa says she was struggling to keep the scene low-key, because her youngest son, Joey, was in her arms.”
In her July 9, 2012 Bravo blog for season 4 episode 11, Melissa wrote this about Gia’s dancing (claiming Teresa wants her in the spotlight), using words very similar to the RHONJ ‘insider’ for the Reality Tea article above:
“OMG, how cute is Gia? She was shaking her groove thing! She’s loves to dance. She loves gymnastics, she loves acting, and I hear she’s taking singing lessons now too! Teresa has always wanted her to be in the spotlight, and so here she is!”
On March 24, 2012, Reality Tea posted a story about Melissa’s 33rd birthday party, which was a Bravo publicity stunt attended by the housewives and their husbands (minus the Giudices) and Melissa’s sisters. The story that the housewives gave to Reality Tea included lies about Teresa (even though she wasn’t part of the event) and staged photos that could have only come from them. According to Melissa et al, Teresa has trouble keeping her friends and the only friend she has is her makeup artist, Priscilla DiStasio, who is her employee:
“Teresa, who seems to have alienated all of her costars, continues to have issues keeping friends. Well with the exception of her new BFF, who also happens to be her employee, aka her make up artist, Priscilla DiStasio. Teresa seems to have new BFF’s left and right now. The latest is her makeup artist. She has not one long term friend in her life. She uses people and then she is done with them!” says our insider. “All her other friends are long gone. They, like Jacqueline, see her for who she really is.”
“Teresa has great friends. I’m with her all the time and see her on the phone with friends she’s known for over 10 years. The one she has had for the longest time are her truest friends and will stick by her. I think these ‘sources’ are just making up stuff because they’re upset that Teresa is getting so big.”
Editor’s Note: Melissa trained with Chris Judd to learn how to dance in season 4. Chris tells her she has a long way to go. How sad is it that a 32-year old, auto-tuned, wanna-be pop star is trying to learn how to dance. She is now not only jealous of Teresa but of her 11-year old daughter Gia. Sad and pathetic. Watch for more stories with lies about Gia as Melissa feeds more crap to her favorite bloggers.
From Her Twitter
Melissa’s anger began after reading Jay Mohr’s blog where he, predictably, insulted Melissa’s singing:
“Did anyone else notice that last episode, after Teresa autographed a book for her brother, Joey made her read it to him? This is the second or third time Joey Gorga has made someone read to him. He is either illiterate or a pimp.”
“Melissa’s voice on speaker phone is somehow worse than her voice while singing. On speaker phone Melissa sounds like a cross between a Vietnamese lady and one of Charlie Brown’s teachers. Teresa tells Melissa that they both need to talk to their Joes and Melissa snaps like Mike Tyson at a spelling bee. Melissa talks so loudly and long and shrilly without a break it sounds like she is calling a horse race.”
“Melissa plays her song for the boys and they say they like it. Then they inexplicably ask Melissa to sing at their company’s launch party. Are they launching ear plugs?”
Well, Melissa felt he took his insults a step too far and she confronted Jay on Twitter, in what began a Twittercation:
Melissa started with the thisTweet to Greg:
@GreggyBennett @jaymohr37 why are u tweeting him? He’s such an asshole… Pulls food out of peoples mouths.”
Ad then when Greg responded: “@melissagorga girl did your twitter get hacked? #confused”
Melissa explained: “No it’s Meee, I don’t care for jay, do u read his blogs.,,,he’s not funny anymore”
After a fan criticized Jay’s blogs as no longer being “objective.” Melissa responded to the fan and included Jay and Bravo in the response, whining: “@jaymohr37 @BravoAndy @bravotv guess they don’t have my back with this….”
Jay retaliated by Tweeting: “Listen up! @melissagorga I CRUSHED Teresa four weeks in a row. I CRUSHED Joe G. Too! WHY ARE YOU ON REALITY TELEVISION THEN?!!” Touche, Mama Gorga, Touche. Go back to being off display if you don’t want people “critiquing” your hypocritical behavior!”
Jay launched another Tweet: “@melissagorga Did you think I was mean when I said your daughter was the most beautiful child I had ever seen? Don’t remember a thank you.” “For the record @melissagorga tonight told me to blog negative things about @Teresa_Giudice books and businesses. #fact #sad”
From Her Twitter
Melissa tweeted on December 7, 2011:
“I am the most humble person u will ever meet! I would love to meet u! I wouldn’t hurt a fly! I have never lied about anyone!”
Melissa tweeted on February 26, 2012, regarding the Oscars:
“Do you hear the screams when the stars walk onto the carpet!! It must feel amazing for them, God Bless them!”
Melissa tweeted on February 23, 2012, regarding AllAboutTRH.com:
Jen A ? @Bogelicious1@melissagorga I think @ Allabtrhw is just young. I got on her when she made the stripper allegation. Bino & the rest r just hateful!
yes, @Bogelicious1 she is young, a teenager. You don’t have to be a scientist to realize most of her stories R fed to her & a bunch of bs!
In reply to Jen A
Editor’s Note: No Melissa, it’s you who is feeding the viewers a bunch of BS!
From Her Pre-Season 4 Interviews
Melissa first claimed that she watches Teresa every week on Celebrity Apprentice, but a few weeks later told a blogger that she’s only seen one or two episodes:
Melissa told Lynn N Chicago on April 1, 2012:
“We have been trying to watch each week. It’s been fun to watch and I can’t believe how intense the boardrooms and challenges are getting.”
Yet Melissa told the Jewish Journal on April 13, 2012, that she has only seen one or two episodes of Teresa on Celebrity Apprentice.
Melissa claimed in April 2012 that she wasn’t going to point the finger at anyone (Teresa) concerning the setup during season 4’s Posche Fashion Show to expose her as a ‘dancer’; however, that is exactly what she did in October 2011:
Melissa told Reality Tea on April 12, 2012:
“Until I really see it play out I’m not going to point my finger at anyone. In the long run, it doesn’t hurt me… I’m not pointing finger at anyone, because I don’t have facts and that’s not fair. But it just doesn’t feel right. I just don’t wanna believe that anyone would do that to me, especially someone who is part of my family.”
However, back in October 2011, Melissa did point the finger at Teresa:
According to Celebuzz on October 1, 2011, Melissa pointed a finger at Teresa Giudice, who the initial report on The Huffington Post says tried to intervene at the fashion show from which the incident stemmed. Melissa says that, “Someone desperately wants to knock me down and prove that I have something to hide, but then tries to cover it up by putting the blame on production.”
“Someone takes a chance when they shouldn’t have,” Melissa told TheInsider.com on October 12, 2011. “When you do something, you simply need to own up to it. If you’re gonna throw it out there, own it, say, ‘Yes I said it and I did it.’ It’s very difficult for me to deal with someone who’ll poke you and then say, ‘That wasn’t me, I didn’t poke you’… If you throw it out there and do it, you need to own it.”
“Teresa ‘tried to set me up’ and is back to her old tricks, Melissa told Media Bistro on November 20, 2011, without giving anything away. After all the kissing and making up seen at the end of last season, Melissa’s husband Joe Gorga is ‘disgusted’ with his table tipping sibling once again.”
Editor’s Note: She says she doesn’t want to point fingers, yet mentions that it’s “convenient” that Teresa had her hair done at the salon that day (the same salon she always uses) and that he was there (Angelo is friends with the owners, Penny and Johnny). She’s absolutely pointing fingers, just in a sneaky way; and she’s still doing it even after Angelo specifically said Teresa was not involved. It sounds like Melissa is trying to setup a scenario where she’s going to blame editing for making Teresa look innocent instead of putting the blame where it belongs, on Bravo (with the help of Penny and Johnny). Jacqueline said the same thing Melissa is now saying when she was interviewed by RHWGossip: “Jacqueline did say Teresa will appear INNOCENT of any wrongdoing in regards to the set up!”
According to Reality Tea: “Melissa is waiting to see how it plays out on TV to get answers:”
“Bravo has magic,” Melissa hints. “We’ll see which way they play it.”
According to Reality Tea: “Melissa believes the entire thing started with a group of people who want to get on the show and want to be Housewives, so they were starting drama to catch Bravo’s attention.”
Editor’s Note: Melissa is blaming the Posche Fashion Show setup on a group of people ‘starting drama to catch Bravo’s attention’ — just like Melissa did when she fed lies and rumors about Teresa to Danielle Staub and when she made the audition tape for Bravo where she promised to expose and destroy Teresa if Bravo cast her.
From Her Pre-Season 4 Interviews
Ilana Angel of the Jewish Journal interviewed Melissa, which was published on April 13, 2012 (one day after Melissa’s interview with Reality Tea).
“I am pleased to report that Melissa said ‘Thank you Jesus’ several times and it was fabulous because I would have been disappointed had she not. We spoke about a lot of things and while some of it did not ring true to me, she was kind and surprisingly candid, so you take what you like from it…
“We spoke a little bit about how life has changed since they began on the show and she told me it has not changed that much. She let me know life was certainly simpler when she didn’t need to explain herself all the time, but overall she thinks life is pretty much the same. I think her response is silly. You cannot go on a reality television with the type of following that RHONJ has, and tell me that your life is the same. Her family has been ripped apart for the world to see so how has nothing changed? There were problems before, but going public changes it all.
Editor’s Note: Melissa’s life, in her mind, hasn’t changed because her blood family is in tact. She does not have any affection for Joe Gorga’s family, which is why she has no regrets signing up for the show, and why she had no qualms promising to bring family drama and to expose and destroy Teresa. Melissa’s family and her posse continue to trash Teresa on social media, although they now use fake accounts, for the most part, to do it.
“Before the show Melissa was not on Twitter having people hate her and wish her harm. I am on Twitter and I have seen people bash her as it their lives depended on it, so if she thinks I believe her life is the same now as it always was, then she must think I’m an idiot, which I am not…
“Melissa told me things about her coming on the show that we have all read in a million places, and that I’m not sure I believe, but what I think does not matter…
“Melissa spoke at great length about her relationship with Teresa and I want to be clear that I did not ask specific questions, but she gave specific answers. I like both Teresa and Melissa on the show for different reasons and it changes with each episode. I have flattered and battered both.
“Melissa told me she is a believer in karma, which I found to be interesting. She also told me she has only seen one or two episodes of Teresa on Celebrity Apprentice. For someone who is so big into karma, she does not seem to worry about her own which is fascinating. If we are to believe that family is the most important thing to her, I would expect her to be watching her sister-in-law on Celebrity Apprentice. Even if they were not getting along, that would be an even bigger reason to watch her, because you are hoping she fails.
“I do not believe that Melissa does not watch Celebrity Apprentice. I do however question her motives in lying about it. If she watches, she should be proud of her and say so. If she is not watching, then her stories of their family being intact are not true and there is lots of tension.”
From Season 4, Episode 2 [Full Story Here]
Melissa accused Teresa of trying to ruin her marriage based on Teresa’s comment that Melissa will leave Joe Gorga for a richer man, which her brother brought up on camera in the season 4 premiere:
“Joe told me his sister said to him that ‘I would leave him for a richer man.’ I wish he never told me,” Melissa wrote on her Bravo blog, the day after the season 4 premiere. “Why would she ever say something like that?” Joe confronted his sister about the comment on camera later in the first episode of season 4, but “she once again had no excuse and said, ‘I heard rumors’,” Gorga wrote. “We hear rumors all the time, but don’t go to Teresa or her husband and ask if they are true… She knows Joe and I have had times when we couldn’t even buy diapers, and that’s when I stood by him stronger than ever.”
Teresa’s response to that scene in the season 4 premiere:
“So last spring I was hearing really nasty rumors around town about Melissa. They were shocking to me, because I’d never heard anything like them. But it’s a small town and when you are suddenly on TV, people start saying things. I don’t want people talking about him or his wife anywhere. I thought he should know and maybe he could stop them. We were not filming, I said it to him in confidence. I would never, ever want to repeat a rumor like that about any of my family members in public. That only hurts my family.
“Fast forward to TWO MONTHS LATER when we’re filming Season 4 on Memorial Day weekend. Out of the blue, Joey says to me remember when you said that about Melissa? I told her and she’s mad at you. You can see the shock on my face. Why would you bring up a personal, private conversation on national TV? The only thing that’s going to do is make his family look bad and his wife and me have problems again. I’m really trying, but I just don’t understand. I’m so sorry he told Melissa, I’m sure it hurt her like it would hurt my husband if I told him. I guess I’m learning that our relationship might never be as close as it once was. I really love him and I miss him, and we used to talk like that our whole lives.”
The Gorgas needed a reason to be angry with Teresa in the season 4 opener, so they concocted this storyline. According to Teresa in her first Bravo blog for season 4, she had this conversation with her brother two months before he brought it up on camera.
Melissa came straight out of the gate with her “Teresa is trying to ruin my marriage” claim for the tabloids to run with right after the season 4 premiere.And she tells the viewers she’s trying to reunite the family. Yeah, right! To defend herself against Teresa’s accusations that she only married Joe Gorga for his money, Melissa claims that at one point in their marriage she and Joe couldn’t afford diapers.
When they were dating (they met in October 2003, she moved into his home in December 2003, and they married in August 2004) Joe Gorga said her promised to put her on a pedestal and give her everything she wanted (season 3, episode 6). Joe Gorga ran a successful landscaping business (which Teresa helped him start by loaning him money) when Melissa first met him. After seeing the success his brother-in-law Joe Giudice had investing in real estate, Joe Gorga sought his advice and followed in his footsteps (until the market crashed in 2009). They bought the shore house in Toms River when Melissa was pregnant with her first child in 2006. In 2007 Joe gave/loaned his sister Teresa $25,000. In 2008, he began building the mansion (as a spec home for resale), which they ended up living in to give the appearance of wealth so that Bravo would cast them. But Melissa says they didn’t have money to buy diapers? She keeps retelling this lie:
“There were times (like the one you heard me remind Joe of) that we couldn’t even buy diapers when Gino was first born. 2008 was definitely a hard year. We had invested in real estate and the market went sour. I’m sure everyone remembers Like a Prayer, April 30, 2012]
“I feel like I have absolutely nothing to prove,” says Melissa. “We have an amazing relationship. We are madly in love — we have been since the day I met him. Just for the record, Joe and I have been through incredible lows where we couldn’t buy diapers. I didn’t go anywhere and I never would.” [Melissa Gorga, Hollywood Life, October 27, 2011]
“Joe and I have been married for seven years and have three kids. We went through a time where we couldn’t even buy diapers. We had to sell every house we lived in… Did I go anywhere? Would I ever? No. It hurts me that she would even put that out there, to put that in someone’s head. And it doesn’t even hurt me as bad as it hurts her brother.” [Melissa Gorga, The Hollywood Gossip, June 28, 2011]
“[Teresa] knows Joe and I have had times when we couldn’t even buy diapers, and that’s when I stood by him stronger than ever.” [Melissa Gorga, Rumor Has It, April 23, 2012]
In the photo above (circa 2009), the Gorgas are standing in the landscaped yard of the mansion Joe built, holding Gino and Antonio… Gino is barely out of diapers, which she claims they didn’t have the money to buy in 2008. She expects the viewers to believe her lie that they were building a 13,000 SF mansion but couldn’t afford diapers!
Real estate prices are worse now than in 2008. They’ve been falling every year since then, and they are still falling, so 2012 is worse that 2008, when she claims they were broke because of the real estate market crash. If anything, they should be worse off now than in 2008, and not just broke but underwater and facing foreclosure on their properties.
In season 4 episode 2, Joe is showing off for the cameras, pointing out the various buildings he owns on a city block… when pointing out the last one he purchased, he recounts to Melissa that the purchase left them with only $3,000 in the bank, which prompted him to call his wife and say in jest “don’t buy any diapers” because I just spent a million dollars on a new building for my mini empire. No bank would have loaned him money to buy that building if he didn’t have sufficient income and investments.
Of course, Melissa twisted this comment to make it seem like they were struggling to put food on the table, but yet she stood by his side. In reality, the Gorgas were building the mansion (where they currently live) during 2008, had real estate investments worth millions, and had a steady flow of income from those investments.
Melissa contradicts herself in her April 30 and May 14 Bravo blogs:
In her April 30 Bravo blog she said that in 2008 they couldn’t afford diapers:
“There were times (like the one you heard me remind Joe of) that we couldn’t even buy diapers when Gino was first born. 2008 was definitely a hard year.”
In her May 14 Bravo blog she said that they moved into the mansion in 2008 after having just sold their last home to a football player for $2.45 million.
“For the record, we sold our last house in Franklin Lakes for $2.45 million to LaVar Arrington (formerly of the Washington Red Skins and NY Giants) and bought in Montville so we could be closer to Teresa and the cousins. We moved into our current house in 2008.”
So how could they not afford to buy diapers yet they could afford to live in a house that a pro-athlete wanted to buy?
According to The Huffington Post on May 14, 2012:
As for the allegations that Joe initially built their home as a “spec” house under a construction loan, Melissa’s publicist confirms that is all true. They purchased the land in 2007 for $950,000 cash and then got the construction loan. While the home was being built they lived in a modest rental home.
Melissa claims public documents showing a mortgage modification prove they are not facing financial strain. Nor are the allegations that the couple previously resided in a modest home before upgrading to a “spec house” to appear wealthy on the show. “For the record, we moved into our current house in 2008 and lived there for two years before I was signed to Real Housewives of New Jersey in 2010,” Melissa insists to Huff Po.
“Joe built our last house in Franklin Lakes (149 Pulis Avenue), which we sold for $2.45 million to former New York Giant LaVar Arrington. When we sell our house in Montville, we will move into a rental while Joe custom builds our next house.” That home was sold in 2006 (LaVar sold it at a significant loss for $1,750,000 in 2008).
The home at 146 Pulis Avenue in Franklin Lakes that Joe sold to LaVar in 2006 was the 5576 SF home that Joe was living in when he met Melissa in October 2003 (he built it in 2003). This is the home that Melissa was referring to when she said, “I wasn’t stupid like my sisters; of course when I saw his house I was going to jump on that sh*t.”
At no point since they met in 2003 have the Gorgas been too broke to buy diapers… Melissa is a pathological liar.
From Season 4, Episodes 1 and 3
At Caroline’s house where she is there along with Jacqueline, Melissa says,
“Did she tell you what she (Tre) called him (Joe) and said? Sigh. (To Jac…) “Oh so you didn’t tell Caroline?”
Melissa tells Caroline what Teresa said to Joe…
“She said, your wife would leave you for someone who has more money.”
Melissa said to Teresa during the parking lot fight at the Summer Solstice in episode 3 that Joey came home so upset he was crying when he told Mel about the leaving him for a rich guy comment. BUT, we saw on camera that he nonchalantly brought it up in the closet in episode 1. So which one is it?
Joe and Melissa staged the scene in their bedroom closet where Joe says that Teresa told him the other day that his wife would leave him for a richer man. Teresa in her first Bravo blog for season 4 says that she and Joe had this conversation several months before, during the hiatus from filming between season 3 and season 4. Melissa slipped up in episode 3 when, during the parking lot confrontation at the Summer Solstice party, she claims that Joe came home crying to her after Teresa said this to him. Joe was not crying when he told Melissa in the staged scene in the premiere episode of season 4; however, he may have cried when he first told her a few months months earlier because he’s secretly insecure that she really will leave him for a richer man.
Joe and Teresa rallied the troops at the onset of season 4 by announcing to them all that Teresa told her brother that Melissa would leave him for a richer man. Melissa is playing the victim, claiming that Teresa is trying to ruin her marriage; and she is rallying the troops by taking this comment made in private between brother and sister months before and bringing it to the spotlight on camera to make Teresa the villain.
What Joe and Melissa are not telling the cast is that Teresa said this to her brother AFTER she was provoked — Joe Gorga texted Teresa husband, threatening to tell Teresa that he was cheating on her if he didn’t backed off about the money Gorga owes to Guidice’s sister-in-law Sheila Giudice. Gorga threatened Guidice not to protect his sister but to blackmail Guidice into leaving him alone.
“Teresa’s true motivation for telling Joe was to disguise hurt feelings and embarrassment. See, apparently, Joe G-to-the-Orga discovered Joe G-to-the-Iudice was cheating, so he let Juicy know he was about to tell Teresa about his dalliances. They got into a text war and Teresa grabbed his phone and saw the texts.” [Mary, May 6, 2012, Reality Tea]
Of course, when Caroline even asked Melissa if her comment was “unprovoked?”, Melissa lied and was said, “completely unprovoked.”
From Season 4, Episode 3
“I see a sweet humble girl in Jacqueline. And I like that, cause, I’m the same way.” I keep her at arms length cos she’s Teresa’s friend.” – Melissa Gorga
From Season 4, Episode 3
Melissa and Joey are a team, and they need to maintain their relevance on the show, so that is why they revealed on camera what Teresa said, that “with Melissa’s singing career, she’s probably going to be singing at a lot of clubs and exposed to a lot of temptations… what if some rich guy sweeps her off her feet?” But, of course, her brother ran to Melissa with his modified version, that Teresa said Melissa will leave him for a richer man.
Joe and Melissa conspired to talk about this comment on camera as if it just happened, when it was a discussion Teresa had with Joe several months before; and it was after he threatened Joe Guidice in a text war by saying he would tell Teresa her husband was cheating on her if Guidice didn’t leave him alone about the money he owed Sheila Guidice. Teresa saw the text messages and attacked back by telling her brother what she heard about Melissa. All of this was private and off camera until the Gorgas made it their storyline, but they conveniently left out the part about the text war, knowing full well that Teresa would continue to protect her brother and not say anything on camera to hurt him.
Teresa and Melissa sat down at the Summer Solstice party to discuss this comment. Melissa immediately started to talk about sensitive issues that had nothing to do with the comment. Melissa made sure to mention DUI, auction, foreclosure and jail…in that one conversation…and that was not by accident. Teresa abruptly ended the conversation and left. When Melissa returned to the group at the other table, she didn’t tell all of the conversation; she only told the part that put her in a good light: ‘Well, I tried, she’s nuts, I dunno what the eff happened…’ It is obvious she was antagonizing Teresa while playing the victim.
From Her Season 4 Interview About Putting Her Mansion Up for Sale
In an interview with Us Magazine on May 9, 2012, about putting their Montville mansion on the market, the Gorgas claimed that they are selling their home and planning to build a new home in Franklin Lakes because they no longer want to leave near the Giudices; however, Franklin Lakes is only about 10 miles from where they know live:
“The Gorgas claim they originally moved to Montville to be closer to Teresa and Joe Giudice, both 40, and their four daughters, Gia, Gabriella, Milania and Audriana. ‘Guess it’s too close for comfort with all that has gone on,’ a source tells Us of the feuding family members.
The truth is, they owe more on those homes then they are now worth, didn’t build the mansion for themselves to live in, and need to sale the homes because they are living above their means.
During season 3, Melissa claimed that Joe surprised her on Christmas with house plans and he built the mansion for her as her ‘dream house.’ This was a lie. It was built as a spec home to sell for profit, but the market crashed and they weren’t able to sell it for what Joe was asking ($4.1 million)… they were living in it while it was officially under construction (construction loan v. mortgage loan) to give the appearance of wealth so that Bravo would cast them.
From Her Season 4 Bravo Blog About Putting Her Mansion Up for Sale
In her Bravo blog on May 14, 2012, Melissa claimed that they moved into their mansion in 2008: this would mean that they were living in it while it was under construction (it wasn’t completed until 2009, according to tax records). So she inadvertently admitted that they were living in it without an occupancy permit (they had an interest-free construction loan, not a mortgage). She also claimed they were approached by producers while living there in 2010; however, the real story is that she contacted producers for three years, begging to be cast, and Bravo finally agreed to cast her when they promised to bring family drama and to ‘expose’ and ‘destroy’ Teresa (their audition tape). They removed their mansion from the market when they signed their Bravo contract in September 2010. Here is an excerpt from her blog:
“We have a 30-year fixed mortgage with an interest rate of 5% and have never once missed a mortgage payment in the whole eight years we’ve been married. It would make no sense that now we couldn’t afford this house. We own four buildings and have many other investments that would allow us to stay in this house forever if we wanted to. For the record, we sold our last house in Franklin Lakes for $2.45 million to LaVar Arrington (formerly of the Washington Red Skins and NY Giants) and bought in Montville so we could be closer to Teresa and the cousins. We moved into our current house in 2008 and didn’t sign on to the show until 2010. So obviously we did not just move into the house because we got on the show. We were approached by the producers two years after we were already living here. It does however kind of stink to be looped into the negativity surrounding everyone else’s problems, but I get, so that’s why I’m explaining it to you. Also, to all of you asking about my studio downstairs — it’s just a room, and all the equipment is coming with me! Yes there will be a new studio in my new house. Mind you, if we don’t sell this house, we aren’t moving anywhere. We will still be here! Sorry, it’s not juicier than that.”
From Her Season 4 Bravo Blog, A Real ‘Rockstar’, June 12, 2012
“Since joining the show, I haven’t taken opportunities to throw Teresa’s troubles in her face, and that’s not how I want to be, even now when things are awful between us… What you will see if you pay attention is that Teresa is trying to take me down every chance she gets. She is attacking my character, my marriage, my looks. What she is claiming is happening to her is quite the opposite. There goes that projection again. Thankfully most of you can see that, and all we can do is pray for her and hope she opens her eyes and takes a look at what’s really important.” – Melissa Gorga, June 12, 2012, A Real ‘Rockstar’
“Melissa is seriously out of her mind if she thinks that she hasn’t given Teresa any trouble or hasn’t bad mouthed Teresa to maker her look bad. That’s ALL she’s been doing. Every interview she does she takes a dig at Teresa and/or throws her under the bus. Perhaps Melissa should re-read all the articles written about her and re-watch all the interviews she’s done. Everything that comes out of her mouth is about Teresa, how Teresa is a bully and poor little Melissa/Joey are the victims. Bitch, please. The difference between Melissa and Teresa is that Teresa has loyalty. Period. Melissa lacks that on every level. Yes, Teresa says means things about Melissa on the show, but it’s nothing compared to the things Melissa say about Teresa to purposely make her (Teresa) look bad. Teresa wasn’t the one who decided to air their family’s dirty laundry. Teresa wasn’t the one who brought up Melissa being a gold-digging slut who will leave her husband on TV. Teresa didn’t go around crying “poor me, Melissa is the devil” every chance she had. Unlike Melissa, Teresa hardly ever speaks about her family when asked.” – Nicole, June 12, 2012, StoopidHousewives
Following Danielle’s tweets in August 2011, Melissa tweeted the following denial:
“Let’s be clear. After I posted abt the xmas cookies incident on FB she approached me to film w/ her. Did I film? No! Begged her? Please.”
Let’s contrast the above tweet by Melissa in August 2011 with her statement on June 12, 2012:
“When I was pregnant with Joey, Danielle reached out to me on Facebook after I posted about the Christmas cookie incident. Yes, I did talk to her. For some reason I felt sorry for her watching how Teresa went after her, and I did vent to her about my issues with Teresa. This was all addressed already at the Season 3 reunion. It was well over three years ago and since then I thought that we were working to get to a better place, but I guess I have moved on and she has not.” – Melissa Gorga, June 12, 2012, A Real ‘Rockstar’
Note: Teresa’s communication with Danielle was not ‘all addresed’ at the season 3 reunion; it was glossed over by Andy.
From Her Season 4 Bravo Blog About Tabloid Stories [Full Story Here]
In her June 12, 2012 blog, A Real ‘Rockstar’, Melissa continues her hypocritical criticism of Teresa for the In Touch magazine article featured on season 4 episode 7:
“I guess in her mind, there is a difference between what she is willing to share with the tabloids for money and what she will share with her friends and family. Please take note, if there are constantly stories in the tabloids, the show is going to address it. If you don’t want these issues to be brought up on the show, then don’t address them in the tabloids.”
Remember, in this same episode Melissa accused Teresa of not being loyal to family because of the In Touch article; however, the tabloid used quotes from the show, not quotes from Teresa about the cast other than her statement that the Wakiles harass Teresa about her shopping habits, which is true. Melissa said, rather smugly:
“I get it—you need to make money, [so] make your money—but at the same time, you need to be loyal to your family. Maybe she can go see a therapist about that. I’m sorry, that’s how I feel.” – Melissa Gorga
Teresa highlights Melissa’s hypocrisy in her June 12, 2012 blog, Cover Girl,
“How about the OK! Magazine cover that came out TWO WEEKS before this one and was also on stands while we were filming? I wasn’t asked about the story, wasn’t interviewed, and they don’t have a single quote from me. Inside the story says ‘On the Brink of Divorce’ and quotes a bunch of ‘insiders’… AND QUOTES MELISSA.
“There’s Melissa smiling under the headline Melissa “Tells OK! Exclusively Why She Believes She’ll Never Bury The Hatchet With Her Sister-in-Law.” Wow. So Melissa put that headline out there? Not very loyal to family… And here are a few of Melissa’s direct quotes:
- ‘Joe (Giudice) doesn’t always speak the truth. A lot of the things I hear him say are false.’
- ‘I always was nothing but good to Teresa.’
- ‘Teresa and I both know the reason we’re not close.’
- ‘She was never happy for any of the good things that went on in our lives.’
“This was done right before she filmed everything she said about the In Touch article at her pool party while wiping away a fake tear.”
From Season 4, Concerning Her Communication with Danielle Staub
Here are Melissa Gorga’s tweets during season 4 episode 9, which was filmed in August 2011, almost one year ago and about 1 1/2 years after Melissa and Joe first contacted Danielle (it didn’t air until June 24, 2012). Note that, during the episode, she had to admit to contacting Danielle because she saw the tweets exchanged between Danielle and Teresa (and Melissa exchanges a few heated tweets with her too); however, during the episode and in her tweets while the show was airing, Melissa did not tell the whole truth: that she and her husband contacted Danielle, begging her during season 2 to film together and trash Teresa.
In season 4 episode 9 Melissa uses the same ole excuse, which is a lie, that she and Teresa were not on good terms and this is why she contacted Danielle [Melissa also blames it on her hormones, but she didn’t do it because she was pregnant, she did it with the intent to harm Teresa and to get a spot on the show]. She also states that she only contacted Danielle when she was six months pregnant, but this is a lie — Melissa contacted Danielle after her son was born (three to four months later) and told her that Teresa did not come to see him at the hospital (the ‘nephew’ comment from reunion 2). Melissa wants the viewers and Teresa to believe it was a one time thing, but it wasn’t. Melissa sharing information with Teresa’s enemy set a chain of events in place that have battered Teresa ever since, and Melissa should be profoundly ashamed that she did this to her sister-in-law, but she isn’t because she lacks any moral compass.
Here is Melissa’s explanation of her apology (passive aggressive with veiled insults to badger and antagonize Teresa) for plotting with Danielle to destroy Teresa (from her Bravo blog, ‘Make It Work’, on June 25, 2012; she wrote it as though the show is taking place in the present, not last year, playing with the viewers who may not know that the cast has alienated and bashedTeresa since September 2011):
“When Teresa asked me about Danielle, I told her the truth. I was wrong, so I apologized and hopefully we have moved past this. She is the one constantly saying to forget about the past and move on. You saw the solstice party episode, right? I forgave and moved on, because she is family. I know I’m never going to get her to totally change the way she treats me, but as long as she backs off my marriage, we can do this.
“The talk Teresa had with Joe made me smile. It makes me feel like she may really be ready to move on. Does everyone see why I love him so much? He said it himself, he’s weak for her whenever she is in front of him and he forgets about everything. That’s a great brother who loves his sister. He would never look at her and turn her away when she finally wants to mend the relationship. I know a lot of you are concerned that she is running to Kathy, Joe, and me because things have gone sour with her friends and they don’t want to deal with her anymore. You know what, that may be the case, but to be honest I’m going to give her the chance to prove it. She is family, she is Joe’s only sister. She may need us now, and we won’t turn our backs on her. It’s not our style. There is love there if she could just get past the competitive BS. I’m going to be optimistic and put my all into the relationship. I really do want it to work. For the first time in my life, I feel like we are both really going to try and fix this. I truly want to enjoy her company and not because I have to, because I want to.”
From Her Season 4 Bravo Blog, Let’s Fix the Gorgas!, July 2, 2012 (Episode 10)
Here is Melissa’s backhanded comment from her Bravo blog:
“Teresa’s talk with the therapist didn’t surprise me too much. Of course it was all about me. She didn’t say one negative thing about herself or her brother. Just me. Yes, I’m used to it by now, and I really just don’t know what to say anymore. I think it is very obvious that I have never been the problem here. She makes me the problem and she constantly blames me for everything. I guess she doesn’t want the world to think that it’s her family or her relationship with her brother that is failing, but instead the problems are because of someone who is not part of the original family (like me).”
During the episode, Teresa and Melissa discussed the therapist suggesting they resume Sunday dinners, and Melissa, wanting everyone to think she is the better person, quickly offered to host Sunday dinner that weekend. But here’s what Melissa said in her talking head interview after Teresa offered to bring dessert (to which Melissa responded with a dig about sprinkle cookies when Teresa ask her what was her favorite dessert):
“It’s so funny. She’s like ‘Yeah, yeah, yeah.’ Whenever she does that you know she’s saying something she really doesn’t mean. But maybe I’m wrong. Maybe she learned something from the therapist. I don’t know.”
From Season 4, Concerning Teresa’s Loyalty to Family
Danielle stated that Melissa AND Joe had indeed been in contact with her to give her dirt on Teresa, and that she had proof in the form of voice mails and emails. Here is a September 6, 2010 interview with Danielle Staub by Out.com where she explains her comments which infuriated Teresa — comments she based on the dirt Melissa AND Joe gave to her:
“Teresa’s brother has been directly contacting me for the past year and a half, letting me know how he feels about his sister… And not once do you see her with her brother and her sister-in-law and their beautiful children. Not once! But she glorifies everybody else. Why couldn’t she show her real family? Why? Just tell me why? Because they have more than her maybe? Because she’s jealous of them maybe? Or maybe they would have told the truth and said Teresa goes off like that all the time. ‘It’s not just Danielle. Teresa’s certifiably crazy.’ I think they’re going to have their chance now to speak the truth. Go for it, I’m all behind you.”
Melissa and Joe Gorga betrayed Teresa is the one of the most disloyal ways imaginable when they contacted Danielle Staub and gave her false information to use against Teresa in hopes of getting themselves featured on the show, yet they have the audacity to accuse Teresa of being disloyal:
“I get it—you need to make money, [so] make your money—but at the same time, you need to be loyal to your family. Maybe she can go see a therapist about that. I’m sorry, that’s how I feel.” – Melissa Gorga, Season 4 Episode 7
“I think it’s extremely hard for Teresa to be a good friend, a loyal friend. She can’t even be loyal to her family. How can she be loyal to a friend. That’s why I’m going to therapy: to make her understand what she does wrong.” – Joe Gorga, Season 4 Episode 10
From Her Season 4 Bravo Blog, That Was Easy, July 9, 2012 (Episode 11)
Here is Melissa’s backhanded comment from her Bravo blog:
“I loved being able to play with Teresa about the sprinkle cookies! That’s how sister-in-laws should be. They should be able to play with one another. That is all I want. I just want a happy, normal relationship with her so that we can get our families together. Is that so hard? It’s not for me! I’m happy Teresa is getting to the point where she is realizing that life is too short to worry about the petty things. I hope she is going to start having a more positive attitude about my marriage, my music, and my kids, and just stop overanalyzing me and everything I do. It must be draining for her to worry about me all day and worry about how we are living our life.
“I do think sharing an RV together is a good thing! I want to dive right in. That’s how I am — when I call truce, I call truce! I would never do anything to sabotage this good thing we have going. So as long as Teresa doesn’t, I don’t see how anything could ever go wrong again. This is how I felt when we were shooting this episode. Does it stay like that? Well you will have to keep watching and see.”
From Her Season 4 Bravo Blog, That Was Easy, July 9, 2012 (Episode 11)
Here is her taking a dig at both Teresa and Gia (see above for her ‘quotes from the Reality Tea blog about Gia and Milania’s birthday party’ where she makes the same dig, but under the cover of an ‘insider’):
“OMG, how cute is Gia? She was shaking her groove thing! She’s loves to dance. She loves gymnastics, she loves acting, and I hear she’s taking singing lessons now too! Teresa has always wanted her to be in the spotlight, and so here she is!”
From Her Season 4 Interviews on How She and Joe Gorga Met
Joe claims to have first seen her in a leopard bikini in Cancun (a source said this was during Spring Break, which would have been May 2003 – see below, “Melissa Gorga ‘Settled’ For Joe”) but that he didn’t even speak to her (even though he said to himself ‘that’s my wife). He claims that he randomly ran into her six months later in a club at the Jersey shore (which would have been October 2003). If he said to himself in Cancun, ‘that’s my wife’, why didn’t he approach her then; it doesn’t make sense at all to say that but not try to actually meet her (how did he expect to make her his wife if he didn’t even introduce himself to her… how would he know that he’d ever run into her again… supposedly he didn’t even know who she was, where she was from or what was her name). It seems more likely that he introduced himself to her in Cancun and they hung out but she blew him off because he was “too short and not her type.” And it wasn’t until six months later, back in New Jersey, that she finally gave in to his persistence after seeing “he was a hard working man with money in his pocket, a nice home, and she could easily manipulate him.”
In May 2011, Melissa told a similar story to NorthJersey.com. Here’s an excerpt:
Their paths first crossed during a spring break in Cancún. “He saw me … and he looked at his best friend and said, ‘That’s gonna be my wife,’ ” says Gorga, who adds that when they ran into each other back in Jersey, “he came over to me and said, ‘I saw you in your leopard bikini in Cancún.’ I said, ‘Well, why didn’t you talk to me?’ He said, ‘Well, you didn’t look like you wanted to talk.’ And it went from there.”
In July 2012, Melissa told the story again, tangling herself further in her web of lies:
“Originally we saw each other on Spring Break in Cancun, we were so young! I was there for my 21st birthday and he was 25 and everyone from New York and New Jersey would always go to Cancun for Spring Break. We were both there and he was there with his friends and he says that I went walking by with my girlfriends and my bikini, and he remembers everything that I was wearing like it was yesterday. He pointed to me and said, ‘That’s going to be my wife’. His best friend that was with him confirmed this story all the time, so that was kind of the first time we met unofficially. Then we were back in New Jersey in the summer at a Beach Club and he saw me and it just went from there.”
They married in 2004, less than a year after meeting in 2003 when she was 25, so her timeline doesn’t add up unless three years lapsed between the time he first saw her in Cancun and the time he ran into her again at the Jersey shore.
“It was one of those things that we went out on a first date and we saw each other every day after. We both just knew, we were at the age when we were ready to settle down. I was graduating college and he was 28 and he was done partying, so it was a good time for us really. It was instant, we were engaged six months after we met and we were married four months later, so within a year we were married. It was one of the things where I think a lot of people wait because when you’re younger you don’t have the money for the house or the wedding, but we were fortunate in that regard and it just worked for us.”
She said she ‘was graduating’ college when they married in 2004, so she didn’t graduate until she was 25. Just a couple months prior to this interview, she told Reality Tea (April 12, 2012 article), that she couldn’t remember the year she graduated college, which was the year she married, according to this July 2012 interview. She was lying to Reality Tea (of course she remembers—it was the same year she got married!) because she knew her timeline didn’t add up.
From Her Season 4 Interviews
Melissa continues to tell the story that she signed her Bravo contract on a Friday and called Teresa on the following Sunday, but what she doesn’t explain is that she was in talks with Bravo for months without telling Teresa that her intention was to get on the show and that she was promising Bravo to bring family drama if they cast her.
“Andy called Teresa to tell her Melissa and Kathy were joining; Teresa never argued that point. He called her two days after Melissa sigend the contract. Teresa also said Melissa called her the same day, two days after she signed the contract. Same day as Andy did. And that’s the way Melissa tells it too, to cover her tracks.
“The reason Teresa says ‘behind her back’ is because Melissa leaves THIS part out: Melissa was in talks with Bravo for WEEKS and WEEKS before she signed. They don’t call you and just decide over the phone that they will hire you and, bam, you sign. You’re brought in numerous times and you have to sell yourself, hoping they pick you.
“It took weeks and weeks for Melissa to convince them, after years of hounding them. All those weeks she was selling herself, and hoping and praying and KNEW she was being considered, she never told Teresa, her SIL, one of the stars of the show. She didn’t tell Teresa until two days after she SIGNED. And noooo Melissa doesn’t need Teresa’s permission; Teresa is just pointing out intent, which is clearly obvious.”
From Her WWHL Appearance About Her Shore House Being Taken Off the Market
Melissa Gorga stated on WWHL on July 8, 2012, that she and Joe removed their shore house from the market even though they just received a full price offer on it the past weekend. However, as of July 19, 2012, it is still listed as “active” on Realtor.com. Plus, she indirectly admitted that she lied during season 3 when she said Joe surprised her on Christmas Eve with plans for her dream house (their primary residence that they’ve been trying to sell since it was built), saying on WWHL that the house is a ‘flip.’
From Her WWHL Appearance About Being Cast on RHONJ
Andy gave Melissa Gorga the opportunity to set the record straight about how and when she told Teresa about being considered, and eventually cast, for RHONJ.
On WWHL on July 8, 2012, Melissa once again told the story that she found out about being added to the cast on a Friday and told Teresa about it that Sunday (two days before filming was set to begin — a fact that she continues to leave out of her explanation).
While Melissa’s short story is technically true, she is not disclosing all the details. Obviously, the audition process is a long one, spanning months of interviews and meetings and negotiations. Teresa’s point is that she was not informed by her family until the process was over.
Andy said that Bravo informed Teresa that her family members were among those being considered. Teresa confirms that Bravo informed her that friends and family were being interviewed — her point is that it was Bravo and not her family members that informed her. It was also Bravo and not her family members who first told her that they had made the final decision to cast Melissa and Kathy.
Teresa’s point is that her family members should have informed her at some point during the process that Bravo was considering them, and they should have been the first to tell her that they were added to the cast. Instead, the kept her in the dark throughout the process and waited until the last minute to tell her they had been cast.
Teresa’s people made an official statement regarding the topic after the show saying,
“To be clear, Teresa Giudice was never informed at any time by her sister-in-law, cousin or brother that they were taking meetings to join the cast of The Real Housewives of New Jersey until after they signed their deals. In fact, Teresa’s family members went through the quite lengthy process of joining the cast which included meeting with the producers, network and negotiating their contracts, all without Teresa’s knowledge. Teresa finally received a phone call from her family after all of their contracts were finalized a mere two days before filming was set to commence with the surprising news that they joined the cast.”
From Her Season 4 Bravo Blog, “What a Rush”, July 19, 2012
Excerpt from Melissa’s Bravo blog on July 19, 2012:
“I never question her cooking and I NEVER would. That is her business and livelihood, what kind of person would I be if I tried to make people not believe in her? “
Melissa has made digs at Teresa regarding her cookbook and has tried to discredit her as a cook. She has been insinuating they are just her “mother’s recipes” since the get go. She commented in season 3 that she never sees Teresa cooking; and on Twitter, during season 4, she commented about Teresa having a ghost writer for her cookbooks.
“You seriously think we have forgotten what you said to Joe in your car (in front of your children). I believe it was on the way to Gia’s competition. You put down the fact that she authored a cookbook and then had the nerve to say, ‘everyone knows she can’t cook anyway, her mom does all the cooking’! To answer your question: you would be the same person you are now, a liar. Why do you say, ‘those little girls’ as if you don’t know your two nieces at all (did you forget their names?). I think your disconnect in this sentence says exactly why they may not feel so close to you. P.S. On WWHL Ralph Macchio denied your tweets that you are his cousin (loved the look on his face!!)” – Claudia660, July 20, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog [Melissa confirmed the connection to a Twitter follower hours before Ralph’s July 19, 2012, appearance on “Watch What Happens Live”]
All the Gorgas have done is criticize every little one of Teresa’s flaws since day one of the show, and have allowed others to do the same thing.
Excerpt from Melissa’s Bravo blog on July 19, 2012:
“That’s how we are with anyone who is in our family. We support them, we lift them up, and we tell them they are amazing. We don’t try to highlight every little flaw.”
Since 2008, Melissa has been bashing Teresa on social media, in her blogs, on Twitter, on Facebook, in interviews, and as a secret source to tabloids. Yet she claimed in her July 19, 2012, Bravo blog that she never tried to “discredit Teresa’s livelihood.” And she and Joe bash Teresa in front of not just their own children, but in front of Teresa’s children too!
Excerpt from Melissa’s Bravo blog on July 19, 2012:
“I don’t hold anything against the little girls mocking me about my music. You can tell by the way their parents laughed where the negativity is coming from. Yes, it’s sad, yes, I wish they would not talk about me negatively in front of my nieces, and yes, I wish they would have told them that it’s not nice. But those are their parents, so they will absorb whatever it is that is going on in their home. I can’t control it, all I know is that if my children ever said a nasty word about their aunt or uncle, they would hear it from me.
“It definitely bothered me when Teresa said I lip synced at my release party. Where does she get this from? That is 100% not true. When I do heavy choreography, which I normally do, I sing live to the track. I’m not sure why she feels the need to say this in front of the camera and in front of her girls. Does it give her some kind of satisfaction to discredit me? I never question her cooking and I NEVER would. That is her business and livelihood, what kind of person would I be if I tried to make people not believe in her? Well I guess I would be exactly the same person she is.”
“All of Teresa’s children are wonderful to you when they greet you, therefore THEY ARE BEING TAUGHT TO BE POLITE AND RESPECTFUL OF YOU, and no one is brainwashing them to not like you. I know for a fact when I was their age and with my children, they talk about lip singing themselves whether it is about miley cyrus or selena gomez…whoever, get over it.” – janat.odeh, July 20, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“You do realize that this episode was filmed just weeks (days?) after Teresa found out that you were the one who gave Danielle all that info for the reunion show, right? But I guess she was just supposed to get over it already… Considering what you did to her, and admitted to doing to her, you got off easy here, Melissa. She’s putting it behind her as best as she can, and treating you with civility, instead of running around saying, “I told you so! I TOLD you all she’s a backstabbing b!”, which she would have every right to do. Eat a little humble pie for a change, Melissa.” – ElaineDiS, July 21, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“You seriously think we have forgotten what you said to Joe in your car (in front of your children) I believe it was on the way to Gia’s competition. You put down the fact that she authored a cookbook and then had the nerve to say, ‘everyone knows she can’t cook anyway, her mom does all the cooking’! To answer your question you would be the same person you are now, a liar”. – Claudia660, July 21, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“All of Teresa’s children are wonderful to you when they greet you, therefore THEY ARE BEING TAUGHT TO BE POLITE AND RESPECTFUL OF YOU, and no one is brainwashing them to not like you.” – janat.odeh, July 21, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Melissa said: ‘That’s how we are with anyone who is in our family. We support them, we lift them up, and we tell them they are amazing. We don’t try to highlight every little flaw.’ LOL Good one Melissa. So when you husband called Teresa garbage on national TV in front of Gia, and a f–king bitch in front of all the children, that was just really his way of lifting her up? When you went behind her back to Danielle because you hated her (your words), you were really just supporting her? How stupid do you think we all are??” – chickadeeeeee, July 21, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
From Season 4 Episode 14 When She is on the Beach Talking to Teresa About Everyone Having a Problem with Her
Melissa: You need to sit back from it maybe and say ‘What am I doing wrong? Because why am I having an issue with everyone?’
Teresa: Oh, really!
Teresa: If you have a problem, say it the person and be done with it. Like, don’t hold grudges. I don’t hold grudges.
Melissa: And I agree with that. I’m not a grudge holder at all. I’m a person, I quickly forgive. But maybe I can see one or two things, but if they’re saying there’s like a list and
Teresa: What list?
Melissa continues: People constantly have a list of (stops in mid sentence to respond to Teresa’s question).
Melissa: I don’t know.
Melissa continues: But they have a list: ‘OK, you did this to me, then you did this to me’.
Teresa: Someone got in her [Jacqueline’s] head.
Melissa: Who’s someone?
Teresa: I don’t know! I don’t know.
“Melissa, I take issue with what you said to Teresa on the beach about if everyone feels one way towards her, then it must be her fault. With bullying often a group phenomenon, I am troubled with your logic. The words that you, your co-stars, your sisters, co-stars’ husbands and co-stars’ adult children have hurled and said behind her back — and to her not just on the show, but on twitter and in the media — have been awful. And, again, just because a group of people think one way, doesn’t make it right. Also, specifically, your tweet about Gia and the limo was totally inappropriate.” – Leopard_Man_, August 3, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“10 year old goes in a limo.. My hubby drives me.. Lol.” – Melissa Gorga, July 16, 2012, Twitter (During Airing of the Beatstock Concert Episode)
“Melissa, you pointed out that Tre was the one that was not getting along with everyone, however there is another way to look at it. Tre had a great relationship with her brother before he met you. Tre had a 15 year friendship with Jacq before you came on the show. Tre had a friendly relationship with Caroline before you entered the picture. Tre was close to her cousin before you came into the family. Tre is still friends with Dina, I am guessing you have no access to her. I see a common denominator, but it is not Tre. Think about it, 15 years without an issue, 15.” – FIFY, August 3, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Advising Teresa, who is being bullied by you and Caroline et al, to ask herself why SHE is the object of that bulling and to take responsibility for is was too much for me. Under the guise of ‘telling it like it is’, you blame Teresa entirely and take no responsibility for your (passive) aggressive actions or those of your fellow bullies. Everybody knows that where there is conflict there are dynamics: everyone plays a part in creating the problem. If you were seriously sincere about reconciliation, you would have owned up to the part YOU played in creating the problem and left room for Teresa to do the same. Instead, you set up a situation where Teresa has to take full responsibility for all the problems and declare you and the others as justified rather than the bullying pack of opportunists that you are. You all are people who are willing to savage a family member/friend because you are following a script in hopes of selling black water, or over produced music, or just a chance to show your penis on TV, in the case of your husband. We all make mistakes in life: Teresa and Joe made plenty and they got consequences for them. When we love people, we do not enjoy the comeuppance that everyone experiences; we try to hang in their with them and cut them some slack because we are all only human. Since you and your husband seem to be indulging in the same over spending and conspicuous consumption as the Giudices, it is pretty ironic to watch you judge them and complain about their efforts to survive.” – littlewitch, August 3, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“I found it humorous and hypocritical to watch you counsel Teresa on the beach. Shortly before this, it was revealed that you DID in fact communicate with Danielle (Teresa’s biggest enemy) in a clear attempt to get on the show. Now you are telling her she should take a look at why everyone has an issue with her?” – Herbs208, August 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
From Season 4 Episode 14 When She Criticized Teresa for Commenting About Camping in a Parking Lot
In her Bravo blog, Melissa takes another passive aggressive dig at Teresa, saying:
“Teresa was killing me while we were talking to the neighbors! LOL! They were explaining to us that they live there all year round. They were not on vacation, they live in the RVs and wake up to that beautiful view every day. Teresa was just not having it! It’s kind of funny to sit back now and watch, I remember the conversation feeling so awkward!”
Note that Vito, Albie and Richie all expressed the same opinion as Teresa about camping in a parking lot, but Melissa criticized only Teresa for it.
“Ugh! Melissa, now you with the passive aggressive remarks. First it was Kathy trying to convince us Teresa stole her recipes. Now it’s you trying to convince us that Teresa rudely insulted people’s homes. The neighboring campers said they live permanently in their RVs, not that they live permanently at that campsite. That campsite is clearly temporary parking only. You can look it up on their website: ‘Camping only, not fixed.’ And Teresa was right: it does look like a parking lot. I’ve been camping many times and I’ve never seen a bunch of campers camped on one big piece of asphalt like that.” – TanyaOnBravo, August 3, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Melissa, you acting so ’embarrassed’ by Teresa telling the campers what she really thought was double hypocrisy. When you try to say that everyone else is innocent and only Teresa is at fault, you are ‘telling it how it is’. When Teresa honestly says what is on her mind about camping in a parking lot, you find her speaking her mind ’embarrassing’. Teresa can never win with you. But you can never win with the viewers because most see through you and your husband. Obviously he was determined to upstage his sister’s table flip from the beginning with his ridiculous display at the Christening. Calculating, competitive, envious. Sad.” – littlewitch, August 3, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
From Her Season 4 Episode 14 Bravo Blog, Breaking Down the Wall, August 2, 2012, Where She ‘Recognized’ Her ‘Many Fans’ [Full Article Here]
“I want to thank everyone that has been coming out to support me at my appearances and performances. I am so grateful for everything, and I love meeting you all! The Pool After Dark at Harrah’s in Atlantic City this past weekend was amazing — over 2,000 people came out! Wow! What an amazing night. I apologize to anyone that couldn’t get in, they were over capacity and only letting two in as two came out. Some of my cousins couldn’t even get in! I felt so bad! Thank you again.”
Melissa, in her egomaniacal delusional mind posted that she was performing at some popular club in A.C. last week and 2000 “fans” came to see her! That club is the most popular in A.C. in the summer on a Saturdays, and her name was No Where on the list of performers. Someone needs to sit her down and give it to her honestly. She really does believe that this pathetic attempt as a singer is going to happen. She’s past her prime for this pop star thing, she has no talent except to know what to do to get a new pair of shoes from mini man and btw: who is taking care of their children while these two clowns are whoring themselves out. Are the being left “UNATTENDED”!? – Deborah D, August 5, 2012, AllAboutTRH.com
From Season 4 Episode 14 When She Outed Richie Wakile for Not Working
“I’ve never seen you work a day in your life. To me this is amazing to watch you actually break a sweat. This guy don’t work. He’s like, ‘Kathy, let’s take a ride to Bloomingdales’. That’s what Rich does all day. He hangs.” – Melissa Gorga on Richie Wakile
From Her Season 4 Episode 15 Bravo Blog Saying She was Upset with Teresa for Asking Jacqueline ‘to Go Against Me’
“It was a little upsetting that Teresa admitted to Jacqueline that she wanted her to go against me. I don’t know why, since she always said she loves her family and would never hurt them. It’s a little confusing. I have to admit, I can’t help but sometimes feel like if Teresa says she’s wearing black, then she’s definitely wearing white. It’s just my gut feeling, but I’m putting all this aside for the sake of the family and just really enjoying her and Joe’s company. I can see that my husband is happy and that she is too, so that’s all that really matters. To hell with my gut! Right?” – Melissa Gorga, ‘Snails, Toads, and Eels’, August 15, 2012
Teresa suspected that Melissa was behind the rumors that Danielle was spreading about Teresa in 2010 including her house in being foreclosure, her not being a caring aunt to the Gorga’s children, and her husband cheating on her. Teresa did not want Melissa to join the show because she believed Melissa was out to assassinate her character and she was afraid that Melissa would try to turn her friends, Jacqueline and Caroline, and her fans against her. Her fears were justified, so for Melissa to continue to act sweet and innocent is an insult to viewers with an IQ above 50. She and her sisters have been bashing Teresa since 2008, and it continues to this day. Melissa’s purpose in campaigning for a spot on the show was not just to trash Teresa; rather, her main goal was to be famous and make money, and she and her husband were willing to make public their issues with a family member, which is a reflection on their character, or lack thereof.
“Melissa’s blog is up. Isn’t it funny how Melissa never has anything negative to say about Caroline, Jacq, Kathy or the rest of them. They all must be so damn perfect. But she always has either something negative to say about Teresa, if she has something not negative to say she usually follows it with a dig. Isn’t it nice Jacq and Teresa talked, followed by she said she did tell Jaq not to be my friend followed by look at me see how wonderful I am because I’m going to let that go for the good of the family. Melissa should know if it is for the good of the family you don’t come on a show where your family works and from the first day cause problems. You don’t ingratiate yourself with her friends and cause problems between friends.” – Priscilla151, August 15, 2012, Jacqueline’s Bravo Blog
Jacqueline made a hypocritical statement in her blog from the same episode. She said: “If I got involved with her fight against her family, it would have been so much more difficult and awkward for them to resolve things.” What she fails to acknowledge is that she did get involved in Teresa’s family business, but she was in cahoots with the other side to assassinate Teresa’s character.
“Clearly there was more going on between me and Teresa than the “articles” and the other stuff you are seeing. It was discussed with Teresa during our ‘talk.’ I also felt a whole lot of unnecessary pressure from Teresa at a time when I just couldn’t take anymore. I wasn’t in a position to take on other people’s problems, and I just needed peace around me. Like I told Teresa, had I gone after Melissa and Kathy for Teresa (the way she would have liked me to), they would have hated me by that point. And after Teresa decided to make up with them, where would that have left me besides having more added stress that I didn’t need? I know Teresa said that she got over it, but I honestly didn’t believe she did. My head couldn’t take anymore fighting around me! I was getting too worn out! I felt like I was just going to shut down. That’s one of the reasons that I got so upset with her about the Danielle thing. Teresa was finally so close to peace with her family (on camera) and I KNEW her public communication with that devil (Danielle) would start some trouble all over again. I thought she should have handled that issue in private. Even if she was faking for the camera, it still made things more pleasant for everyone. If I got involved with her fight against her family, it would have been so much more difficult and awkward for them to resolve things. It would only add more fuel to the fire. I didn’t want to be involved with that. At the same time, it hurt me to see Teresa hurting. I wanted things to get better for her. It’s also natural for me, when I see someone hurting, to offer my help. I’m a great listener and communicator, so I did feel a little shut out by Teresa in other areas, but I think I finally understand the way Teresa thinks now. I started to understand her boundaries more, and I needed to respect them. I also wanted her to respect where I was coming from. – Jacqueline Laurita, ‘Fake It Till You Make It’, August 15, 2012
She made another statement which contradicts her on-camera behavior and opinion: “I KNEW her public communication with that devil (Danielle) would start some trouble all over again. I thought she should have handled that issue in private.” Jacqueline wants all of Teresa’s personal business to be brought up on camera, but when Teresa’s personal affairs present Melissa in a bad light, then she wants it to kept private (in other words, only when the issues present Teresa in a bad light is it acceptable to be talked about in a public forum). All season long Jacqueline has being telling Teresa to be open and real, yet she wants her to keep the communication with Danielle private?
“Jacqueline, why do you never address the issue with Melissa first giving access to Danielle (your devil) to ruin Teresa’s life. I think if you were an honest unbiased person, you would be able to see that Melissa is really EVIL since she did talk to the DEVIL and feed information. That right there should be proof enough for you that everything Teresa complained about Melissa was true. That Melissa is a conniving liar. – ms.jessica.milligan, August 15, 2012, Jacqueline’s Bravo Blog
“Teresa, Jac is a BFF hopper. She can only maintain one good friend at a time. First it was Danielle. That ended in tears. Then it was you. That ended in tears. Now it is Melissa. Yep, Melissa. All those ‘lies’ Jac accused you of telling… WHO do YOU think told her you were ‘lying’?” – Parkview, August 15, 2012, Teresa’s Bravo Blog
“All of the other Housewives have bad mouthed you, and ganged up on you for the past two seasons and you were the only one grilled to a crisp at the last reunion! There has been nothing but one storyline according to us viewers. Make Teresa look bad and bring her down.” – melindaannie, August 15, 2012, Teresa’s Bravo Blog
“Jacqueline not wanting to be friends with you is mind boggling to almost everyone! There are people who were team Jacqueline til they saw this episode. She STILL can’t say what you did wrong yet she has no problem bad mouthing you on the show, the blogs, and twitter without a valid reason. Her obsession with wanting to know EVERYTHING is so creepy!” – kekekinz1, August 15, 2012, Teresa’s Bravo Blog
From Season 4 Episode 16 Where She Called Teresa a Media Whore
Melissa confronted Teresa about being on so many magazine covers and talking about the other cast members to the tabloids; however, she never cited any examples of negative things Teresa was quoted as saying about them to the tabloids. Teresa explained in one of her Bravo blogs that she agrees to sit for a photo session with a tabloid and they pay her for the photos, which they can use in the future any way they choose. This means that she has no control over the covers or the headlines or the content of the articles. The tabloids find quotes by the cast from other sources, like the show itself, so it is not Teresa that they should be blaming — it’s themselves.
Teresa needs to pay attention to these accusations and be prepared to address them once again during the reunion. She fails to explain verbally how it all works when confronted with their accusations. She needs to write out how it works, and rehearse it so that she can explain it thoroughly during the reunion. The other cast members have made tabloid quotes a major point of contention with her, so she needs to help the viewers understand that she is not in control of what the tabloids write and that she is not paid for the articles. Throughout this season the cast (and the tabloids) have twisted her words for their benefit, and it will continue through the reunion and afterward.
An example is Jacqueline’s Bravo blog and how she changed the meaning, plus added words, to what Teresa actually said when Melissa confronted her about the tabloid articles:
“I was glad that Teresa finally somewhat admitted in the RV to Melissa that she did in fact do more than just pose for pictures in those articles in the tabloids and that she did say things about her family and friends after she had been denying it for so long. Teresa finally admitted that she said what she said in the articles, because it was how she felt at the time. I can respect that, but I just wish she would have been this honest and upfront to everyone (including Caroline) and just admitted this in the first place instead of denying it the way she did originally. Caroline may have been more forgiving at that point. It was Teresa’s denying and not taking responsibility by owning up to what she said and how she really felt at the time that was partially the reason she was upsetting everyone.
“Nobody thought she was being sincere. Melissa told Teresa not to trash talk her family and friends again in the tabloids and then gave her a pass for it. Melissa just wanted to move forward. Like Teresa said, ‘Once the article is out there, you can’t take it back! There’s no use crying over spilt milk.’ Once in a while though, people like to hear you admit to doing what you did and give an apology for it. That was my point anyway. I thought Teresa just should have come out with it and said, ‘Yes, Caroline, Kathy, and Melissa, I did write that stuff that was not nice about you in the book and in the tabloids because I was upset with you all at the time for X,Y and Z. I am really sorry for doing it and offending you, but I would love to move forward now, and I won’t be doing that again.’ I think most would have respected that answer or would have thought she was being more sincere with wanting to move forward. Instead, everybody was watching their back waiting for the next hit.”Melissa made a good point that I kept trying to make myself. Once Teresa decided to put her business on the cover of a magazine and answer all of their questions, it no longer made it just her and her husband’s business. She opened it up to the world. If I decide to do a cover for a magazine, the same rules would apply to me, and I know that. If I put it out there, you can bet I’ve discussed it with my family and friends. What hurt me was that Teresa opened up to a tabloid but never opened up to me, one of her best friends. It hurt a little. That’s all.”
Teresa didn’t admit to anything. She just, once again, failed to explain that she was paid for the photos, and that the tabloids put out the articles without her participation other than to answer a few questions, which they can put in any context they choose. The quotes from the others come from the show’s footage, their blogs and their interviews.
After Melissa addressed the tabloid articles, she told Teresa that she would tape her and her husband having sex in the vineyard so Teresa could sell the tape since she’s such a media whore (this was when they were sharing an RV and getting along well). Teresa looked at her and smiled, and said, “Now Melissa that wasn’t really nice what you just said.” Did Teresa run and tell everyone else what Melissa said to stir up drama against her like the rest of the cast has been doing to Teresa for two seasons? No. Did Melissa apologize after saying it? Apparently not. Is Teresa holding a grudge against Melissa for saying it? No.
“Teresa just cannot get a break from this cast. And it’s not just Juicy, a broken man if there ever were one. And it’s not just Caroline, who would have no storyline whatsoever if it weren’t for her unrelenting obsession with trying to block anyone’s attempt to patch things up with Teresa. The best selling cookbook author has been going toe-to-toe with her sister-in-law from virtually the moment Melissa Gorga appeared on camera.
“Teresa just cannot get a break from this cast. And it’s not just Juicy, a broken man if there ever were one. And it’s not just Caroline, who would have no storyline whatsoever if it weren’t for her unrelenting obsession with trying to block anyone’s attempt to patch things up with Teresa. The best selling cookbook author has been going toe-to-toe with her sister-in-law from virtually the moment Melissa Gorga appeared on camera.
“Sure I get it: they’re both at fault at times. The days of my taking sides in this battle are long gone. Still, Melissa can tell us in her video diary that “she can’t picture (their) relationship going anywhere but up from here,” but I really don’t get why she thinks this is possible. That video diary segment was filmed after they called a truce, after the Napa trip – after Melissa took a jab at Teresa and offered to take video footage of her and Juicy doing the do in a field because she knows Teresa is a “media whore.”
“Never a table flipper of any kind, I am far less explosive than Teresa has proven to be. Still I would have been furious if my sister-in-law said anything like this to me, on or off camera. In that one moment, I admired Teresa’s composure when she simply responded, “Now Melissa that wasn’t really nice what you just said.”
“I also admired Chris Laurita earlier in the episode when he asked some of the women what their end game is. Caroline said she is done with Teresa. She also more or less refused to let Jacqueline Laurita state what she wants. Instead Caroline answered for her, that Jac wants a casual relationship. When Jacqueline tried to clarify her opinion, Caroline turned her off, refusing to let her finish her thought. I really wish Chris were able to ask all of them this question and that all of them were able to answer it in full, without any meddling from a certain world-class mindguard named Caroline Manzo.
“The reason I would love a frank discussion about Teresa is that each and every one of these cast members has put a target on her back this season. Caroline is done. Richie joked he wants her burned at a stake. Melissa thinks she’s a media whore. Even though he clearly loves Teresa, her brother Joey G. seems to think she’s wrong more often than she’s right. Her cousin Kathy Wakile basically accused her of lifting her mother’s recipes for use in her latest cookbook. And her own husband called her his “bitch wife,” and that isn’t even the worst of what he said this week.”
[Priscilla from Wascilla, August 20, 2012, Whispers in the Grapevine: Teresa is no fool]
From Her Season 4 Episode 16 Bravo Blog Boasting About Her Marriage (the Episode Where Bravo Exposed Joe Giudice as an Alleged Cheater) [Full Article Here]
“Today is my 8-year wedding anniversary to the love of my life. I’m very proud of the family we created together and the bond we have. Marriage is never easy; you constantly have to work on it. I put my all into my marriage and show Joe respect — I respect him as a father and as a husband more than words can say. We are so blessed and I am grateful. He’s truly the love of my life!… I’m not going to get into the phone call we saw Joe have. I didn’t like it when Teresa made accusations about my marriage, so I’m not going to do it to hers. They have four daughters that need to be protected from this, so I will leave it to Joe and Teresa to explain it. How they choose to live within their marriage has nothing to do with any of us. ” – Melissa Gorga, August 20, 2012, An Honest Mistake?
After Teresa’s marriage was shown during episode 16 to be falling apart, Melissa decided to blog about her anniversary and how happy she and her husband are, and how much she respects Joe. She boasted about her marriage because what better way to point out to the readers that hers is perfect in comparison to Teresa’s marriage and how it was portrayed in the episode. Melissa is either very insensitive or is indirectly throwing jabs at Teresa and her husband (probably a combination of both).
Melissa boasted in her Bravo blog on August 20, 2012, about how she is the bigger person and won’t talk about Teresa’s marriage, yet she took a subtle dig at Teresa by saying, ‘I didn’t like it when Teresa made accusations about my marriage, so I’m not going to do it to hers.’ And then, in her typical hypocritical and lying fashion, six days later, on August 26, 2012, she gave an interview to The Huffington Post, where she talked about Teresa’s marriage:
The Huffington Post: In last week’s episode, there was a very controversial moment with Joe Giudice making a phone call. What did you remember what you were thinking while that was actually happening?
Melissa: I had no idea that even happened. We watched it for the first time the way you did.
The Huffington Post: What did you think when you saw it?
Melissa: Oh, I teared up. I really did. I was sitting on my couch and I teared up. It was sad. No matter what issues I have with Teresa, you don’t wish that on anyone. It was very obvious that she knew exactly who he was on the phone with from the footage. It’s sad and I guess she’s in some type of denial right now, but I think eventually she’ll get her head on straight and be ready to deal with it.
Here’s Teresa’s reaction from her Bravo blog to Melissa’s blog and interview with AOL/The Huffington Post:
“Speaking of that, before I forget, I am sincerely blown away that while even Jacqueline and Caroline managed to find enough respect to avoid talking about my husband’s infamous “phone call” last week, and Melissa said because she didn’t like anyone talking about her marriage, she wouldn’t either, Melissa then ran to AOL and did a big interview about it anyway. I should be surprised, but like anyone who really knows Melissa, I’m not. All year she says that I crossed a line talking about her marriage (in PRIVATE to my own BROTHER) but it’s cool for her to make awful assumptions to the public like I knew who Joe was talking to and I’m in denial?”
Melissa didn’t blog about the despicable comment that Rich Wakile made about the Giudice’s marriage (“this guy doesn’t even want you in the bedroom, what makes you think he’s gonna wanna do you on gravel?”) and about Teresa (“she’s f–king loser” for not singling out Kathy in her toast) — had Joe Giudice said anything about one of them like what Richie said about Teresa, there would have been hell to pay. It’s repulsive how Melissa, and especially her husband, just standby and never say or do anything to defend Teresa against the spiteful, nasty wolf pack — they don’t because they are part of it.
“Melissa only makes Teresa look bad. All the other ladies have been horrible all season and Melissa never says anything about it; instead, she picks Teresa apart non stop. Melissa also NEVER admits how much trouble she causes or how badly she schemes and lies. Melissa is very manipulative and dishonest — that is my biggest problem with her. I also think it is sickening the enjoyment she is getting out of watching Teresa be bullied and torn apart all season. Melissa has no heart.” – maddiemaym, August 22, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
From Her Season 4 Episode 16 Bravo Blog Claiming That It Is Open Season on Teresa Because She Put It Out There in the Tabloids [Full Story Here]
The cast uses the excuse that Teresa brought up issues about herself in the tabloids to justify discussing her personal affairs on camera. They all say if Teresa put it out there in the tabloids then she shouldn’t be shocked when they all talk about it. The cast should know better than any of us that just because it’s in a tabloid doesn’t mean it’s true or that it came from Teresa. Here is what Melissa said about Teresa and her tabloids covers:
“Well there is always some drama sprinkled in, and this episode it was of course over another tabloid. Remember, when these episodes were shot last summer, I was trying to move on from the horrible place Teresa and I had been in a couple years back. I see the In Touch magazine covers Teresa does, and yes, I don’t like that they mention me in a negative way, but I think the viewers are smart enough to realize that you can’t believe everything you read. I guess in her mind, there is a difference between what she is willing to share with the tabloids for money and what she will share with her friends and family. Please take note, if there are constantly stories in the tabloids, the show is going to address it. If you don’t want these issues to be brought up on the show, then don’t address them in the tabloids.” – Melissa Gorga, June 12, 2012, ‘A Real ‘Rockstar’
Melissa mentioned the tabloids again in episode 16, but not before brushing off as a joke her statement to Teresa that she is a “media whore” (according to the cast, it is OK to insult Teresa as long as you have a smirk on your face):
“When Teresa and I were talking in the RV, I thought it was hysterical! I was teasing her and she was laughing. It was perfect. I needed to explain to her that when she puts out these articles about her marriage and kids in a magazine and accepts a paycheck, then it’s no longer just her business, it is now everyone’s business.” – Melissa Gorga, August 20, 2012, ‘An Honest Mistake?’
From Her Season 4 Episode 17 Bravo Blog Defending Caroline’s Attack on Teresa and Accepting Whatever Caroline Says Teresa Said as the Truth [Full Story Here]
“Another crazy episode. I think you could tell by my face that I’m just so over all the fighting and craziness. I really can’t take it anymore.
“I think Kathy was just trying to explain to Teresa that the Manzos and Lauritas are really good people, and that she should try harder to fix things with Caroline. I told Kathy that I wished she didn’t say anything, because at this point it is clear that Caroline does not have to deal with Teresa. She is not her family, and luckily she can walk away. Caroline is not a fake person and she tells you exactly how she feels. It’s very obvious how she feels about Teresa and why she feels that way. She is very happy with her family, so sometimes it’s just better to get someone poisonous out of your life. I think that’s exactly what Caroline is doing and who could blame her?
“I will say I got a sick feeling in my stomach when Caroline said she’s been in the car with Teresa and heard Teresa bashing Joe and me to her mother. This is nothing we didn’t know already, but to hear about it is just sad. Joe suffers all the time because of the wall Teresa tries to put up between him and his parents. Nothing hurts him more. When they are upset for no reason at all, my kids don’t get to see their only grandfather. I think I understand why she lied and tried to poison everyone’s minds against us, but why his own parents? It takes a person with a very, very small conscience to do that. Then to tell Caroline that I was a copycat, a stripper, gold digger, whore, and wanted to be her? Wow. This blows my mind. Where does she get this from? Every one of those statements is false. It is terrible to go around and try to ruin someone’s character. It’s just not right. I’m not gonna lie, I really think it’s disgusting and I wish she would stop. The sooner she stops trying to hurt other people, the sooner her own life will get better. It’s not fair to do these things and lie to all of us constantly.
“There is now proof that she gets paid for these articles and she was lying to us the whole time. I think her credibility is now completely gone. I tried everything I possibly could to fix the relationship between Teresa and me and Joe. It was going really well. I did this for family. I did this for my husband. It is now clear that she tried to poison all the ladies’ and the public’s minds against Kathy and me and got them to feel sorry for her. But now the truth is coming out.
“I really feel that I tried to help Teresa. I knew she was having problems with the other ladies, and I jumped in and tried to help. I tried to give her advice. I also tried to make all the problems between her and her brother go away. Joe and I left that house with her and Joe. Whether or not we agreed with her, of course we left with her, she is family. Last season I threw that woman Monica out of my house for her. Joe and I were not going to let them fly home drunk. We are true family. With that said, we have worked really hard to make a beautiful family of our own and give our children a healthy and happy lifestyle. I will not let anyone, family or not, try to break that. We are giving our all to her and Joe, and I deserve the same from her. Hopefully, she will reciprocate and we can keep this good thing going.”
– Melissa Gorga, August 27, 2012, ‘Character Assassination’
Melissa maligned Teresa in her episode 17 blog, believing everything Caroline said about Teresa. Caroline is a dirty liar. She claims she heard Teresa poisoning her mother’s mind about Joe, Melissa and Kathy, but Caroline must have forgotten that Teresa speaks to her family in Italian.
When Melissa asked Caroline what Teresa said about her, Caroline wouldn’t answer her face to face; she waited to say something in her talking head, which is clearly a setup for the explosive season finale. Melissa quickly forgot that Teresa forgave her for contacting Danielle, her enemy, who she armed with personal information to use against Teresa at the season 2 reunion show. The source of this new dirt on Teresa, Caroline, only has on objective — to destroy Teresa anyway she can.
“Did she watch herself on the show? Guess she was just acting in Napa. And duh…..Melissa, you and Teresa hated each other. Of course she thought she was venting about you to her friends. As for Caroline hearing Teresa trash Mel on the phone to Teresa’s mother? I call BULLSH!T on that one. Teresa and Caro were never actually close according to Caroline…. Why would she be in Teresa’s car and why would Teresa be talking on the phone with her mom, who she sees every day according to Melissa, with someone in the car? BULLSH!T. I warned you all last week…..BEWARE OF THIS NEW NICE MELISSA. She shot herself in the foot with this blog!!!!! Lots of people were beginning to soften their opinion of her because of her nice behavior towards Teresa on the trip. But this blog tells her real feelings!!!!! Way to go cowgirl……..you really blew it this time!!!!! Thanks for making me right.” – Parkview, August 27, 2012, StoopidHousewives
“Finally The Real Melissa has Returned! I was wondering when Melissa’s animosity was going to come out! This blog represents Melissa IMO, no “Hi lovers I’m so excited for about this and that and isn’t it wonderful?” If Teresa reads this, she is going to laugh because no one would want to “reconcile” with someone who just insulted them. Melissa is just trying to tell the viewers why she hasn’t talked to Tre in a year. I hope this Melissa comes to the reunion and not that long suffering martyr who attended the last reunion.” – pjbottoms, August 27, 2012, StoopidHousewives
“All that Caroline, Jax, MeHo, and Kathy say is, “Teresa said this…said that….talked about us here…talked about us there.” BUT, it was always done “Off camera and behind the scenes.” So, we’ll have to take their words for it. (In fact, Teresa said to Caroline, when they were out on Jax’s deck, that she never asked them not to talk to Melissa and Kathy. And Caroline said, “Well, you implied it.” Still, just Caroline’s take / word.) Yet, were have hours and hours of film over the past two seasons seeing those four talk trash about Teresa non-stop. They talk of NOTHING else. So, what the HELL is Melissa talking about? [Why this topic is not discussed by anyone on the show more is so insanely obnoxious — Theresa is trying to move forward and doesn’t spend every blog and waking show hour trying to trash them.]” – Elmozoe, August 27, 2012, StoopidHousewives
“MeGo is completely dilusional! Has everyone of them forgotten about all the nasty things they CAME ON the show saying!!!! (Kathy and Melissa & Joe) How many times did Tre ‘turn the other cheek’ just to be slapped again. I mean come on…i dont agree with some of the ways Tre is responding now, but after a while any human being would simply get tired of people talking iiish and start giving it right back to them. Now they’re soooooooooooo offended????? REALLY? NEXT did anyone catch last night when MeGo said ‘just remember who had ur back!’ Now was that a line for cameras or what! This girl is dying to make the audience change their minds about her. You didnt have her back! You and Kathy sat right there and let the entire room charge at your ‘family’.” – ISeeSTOOPIDPeople, August 27, 2012, StoopidHousewives
“No one made the Sr Gorgas hate you, but you. What you think they are blind and deaf? They know what you are. To keep the peace with thier son and to be able to see their grandchildren. Or did you forget that Gorga Sr. outed you when he said he would come over and you didn’t open the door. DID YOU REALY THINK they would of picked you over their flesh and blood. NOT going to happen and that drives you nuts. You can’t pull one over on them. They see you Missy, they see your heart and soul and it’s as BLK and nasty as that stuff the Manzo’s are trying to porn..They got your number and I’m sure they let you know, so that is why you stay away from them because you can’t play your game. Tree got it to, but wants to have her brother in her life, so she gives you a pass EACH AND EVERY TIME and still you can’t stand with her on anything. YOU ARE not worthy of licking the shitt off the bottome of Tree’s shoes…….” – firstgeneration, August 27, 2012, StoopidHousewives
“Mego is just idiotic. She would think the sky was red, if Caro told her it was. A normal family member would take anything told to them by someone who despises their sister in law with a big grain of salt. But not Mego, she believes Caro and goes right on the attack against Tre. This just makes anything and everything Tre said about Mego being nasty and disrupting the family ring true.” – kel, August 27, 2012, StoopidHousewives
From Her Season 4 Episode 18 Bravo Blog, Claiming She Moved to Montville to be Closer to Teresa
“To be honest, Teresa is the reason we even live in Montville. Joe and I sold our house in Franklin Lakes so that we could move to a town that we would have family in and so our kids could go to school with their cousins. I grew up with so many cousins, and I wanted my children to have that bond. I wanted them to have those relatives that would support them up no matter what. That’s how it should be.” – Melissa Gorga, September 12, 2012, ‘True Lies’
Melissa is telling the truth about one thing: she did move to Montville to be closer to Teresa, but she is lying about her motivation. Teresa was cast on the RHONJ in 2007, and she waffled back and forth over a nine-month period, dropping in and out of her decision to join the cast. Andy and Teresa discussed this on WWHL. So even though season 1 didn’t start filming until 2008, Teresa was part of the original cast beginning in 2007, the planning phase for RHONJ. Melissa and Joe bought the lot in Montville in 2007. They were desperate to get the producers’ attention, and the best way to do that was to get as close as possible to Teresa. That’s why they bought they lot and built the mansion that they can’t afford. And the reason they are moving is because they can’t afford the big ole mansion. It’s been for sale since the day Joe broke ground. It’s overpriced by at least $1 million, and that’s why they are still living there.
In Her Voice-Over During Season 4 Episode 18, She Lies About Babysitting for Teresa So She Could Attend Her Fabellini Launch Party [Full Story Here]
The Fabellini launch party was on Friday, October 7, 2011; Melissa brought Antonia, Grabiella and Milania to Sweet & Sassy on July 11, 2011.
“Took Antonia, Gabriella, & Miliania to get manis & pedis this morning! They were sooo cute! #cousinlove xoxo” – Melissa Gorga, Monday, July 11, 2011, 1:36 PM, Twitter
On the Sweet & Sassy Facebook page, they show a photo with Melissa in the outfit she wore in episode 18 (video) with a caption dated July 11, 2011, the actual day that Melissa brought the girls to the salon, which was early in the taping of season 4. On July 6, 2011, they posted this comment on their Facebook page: “We are absolutely thrilled to be welcoming The Real Housewives of New Jersey back to film again very soon! Can’t wait to spread the glitter and glam love with our favorite ladies and their little divas! — Gia’s 9th birthday party was filmed at Sweet & Sassy. The producers had to go all the way back to the beginning of July to find footage where Melissa actually spent time with her nieces, and even then she only picked up two of the four Giudice girls.
RumorFix reported on the accusations made by Melissa that Teresa “roughed her up” during reunion 4 taping:
On The Wendy Williams Show, Melissa Gorga said that her sister-in-law Teresa Giudice “roughed her up,” but an eyewitness tells RumorFix exclusively that’s not true!
The Real Housewives of New Jersey star claims the incident happened at Gia’s birthday party last year. But Elvira Grau, who is a New Jersey party planner, tells RumorFix correspondent Real Mr. Housewife,
“Teresa never laid a hand on Melissa.”
Elvira, who reportedly turned down a role on RHONJ, adds,
“I promise you that if — in fact — there was an altercation, with so many people present, this would have surfaced sooner than now.”
“Teresa was annoyed at Melissa trying to give Teresa’s kids Christmas presents to her during the birthday party, when Melissa really should have given them [to the kids] herself in person at the house and not at Gia’s birthday party at Space Odysssey USA many months later. Teresa asked Melissa politely to please drop off the gifts at the house, so the kids could see their aunt and cousins.
“To Teresa, it’s not physical presents but the thought to the kids. Teresa wanted Melissa’s attention to be to the kids and spending time, not the actual presents. Teresa even said ‘My kids don’t need any more presents, they need their cousins’ which I thought was beautiful,” Elvira told us.
“The truth is that Melissa is trying to paint Teresa as this horrible villain that twists wrists and that’s simply not the truth. Teresa is hurting right now because of all this family drama. It’s killing her parents! She didn’t want to be on the show with her family because she always knew Melissa would stoop this low. It’s so sad. Her nightmares came true. Melissa’s insecurity gets the best of her, unfortunately,” she said defending Teresa.
Grau also added,
“I want America to know that Teresa is the most loving and fun person who loves her husband, kids, parents, and friends. We spent four days over Labor Day weekend together and I wish America saw the true Teresa — in the kitchen with her parents cooking the most delicious Italian food, serving, and cleaning. They are a real old school Italian beautiful family.”
Grau owns Space Odyssey USA in Englewood, NJ, which hosts both children and adult birthday parties, as well as other private events.
RumorFix has reached out to Melissa’s reps for comment.
The Huffington Post reported on Teresa’s response to the “roughing up” accusations:
Teresa Giudice is disputing her sister-in-law’s accusation that Giudice attacked her, saying it was the other way around.
“I usually don’t comment on stories about me, but I cannot ignore Melissa Marco’s vicious lie that I assaulted her at my own children’s birthday party while she was holding my baby nephew,” says Giudice. “It is completely untrue in every way. To make such a horrible accusation that involves our children is beyond despicable and speaks to her true character.”
Melissa recently did a round of interviews, including an Us Weekly cover and an appearance on Wendy Williams’ show, where she had some tough criticism for Giudice. However, Giudice and her friends refuse to remain silent over accusations that she “roughed up” anyone.
“This supposedly happened at Gia and Milania’s very big, very public joint birthday party in January,” a friend of Giudice tells me. “The party was at Space Odyssey, owned by Elvira Grau, who was with Teresa the entire time. Elvira has publicly tweeted that it’s untrue. It was a very public party with a hired photographer there. No one saw them do anything but talk. They didn’t even hug because Melissa was holding her baby, so Teresa just kissed the baby. If anything had happened, why didn’t Melissa immediately go to the press about it then? She puts every other little complaint on Twitter. Nothing.”
In what is expected to be the most dramatic “Real Housewives” reunion of all time, viewers will get to see for themselves how bad things have gotten between these two family members.
“Melissa lost it at the reunion and put her hands on Teresa,” one Bravo insider tells me. “Teresa started yelling that she was going to ‘sue’ Melissa, but has not taken any legal action yet.”
“At 4:27 in the video above, The View’s Joy Behar asks if there’s been any violence: the last words out of Melissa’s mouth are, ‘No violence, no.’ The View segment was filmed June 6, 2012, about five months AFTER the January 29, 2012 party in question.” – Chris Stark (@stark3923)
During Reunion 4 She and Jacqueline Claim That Teresa Was Talking Smack About Jacqueline After They Just Made Up
Jacqueline claimed after they made up in the RV she heard Teresa through an open window bashing here to Melissa. However, in the episode after they returned from Napa (first day of school episode), Jacqueline and Melissa got together, and Jacqueline comes right out and asks Melissa if Teresa said anything after their talk? They cut to interview, Jacqueline says she hadn’t heard from Teresa since Napa. Cut back to Melissa and Jacqueline talking, and Melissa says, “I think everything is fine.” Now, unless they cut out Melissa telling her that Teresa talked all that smack, which I doubt because they are trying to make Teresa look bad, nothing was brought up about Teresa bashing Jacqueline after their talk in Napa. Obviously Jacqueline and Melissa are in cahoots about setting Teresa up to look bad and backing up each other and their accusations.