Melissa Gorga Screams at Teresa Giudice (Who Never Claimed to be a Victim): ‘You Don’t Get to Play Victim Here! I’m the Victim! Get It Straight!’
October 7, 2012 293 Comments
“Melissa is a really good actress. I was on the show two years before she came on. She came on the show behind my back. I think she’s very calculating, very contrived, and knows what she’s doing. I know from knowing her eight years now that what you see on this show is not the real Melissa. Eventually everyone’s true colors come out. One day maybe eventually maybe you guys will see that. She plays the victim role really well.” – Teresa Giudice’s response when asked by RumorFix’s correspondent the Real Mr. Housewife, ‘What’s the biggest misconception about Melissa?’
“Hello! She attends every single party that’s out there. That’s not me. I have a family, I have four daughters, I hardly go to parties because I have four daughters to take care of. I’m not out there half as much as she is out there.” – Teresa Giudice’s response to RumorFix’s correspondent the Real Mr. Housewife, when asked if she thinks Melissa wants to be a celebrity.
Reunion 4 Video: Caroline Manzo tells Teresa Giudice that she will be alone due to her attitude and what she’s already done; Melissa accuses Teresa of bashing her husband and her marriage all season long:
“Teresa said I don’t act like a Gorga, but the truth is I’m not a Gorga! I’m a Marco and very proud of it!” – Melissa Gorga, July 25, 2011, ‘A Perfect Christmas’
Melissa is Not a Victim
Whose family has been destroyed? Whose relationships have been destroyed? Whose marriage did Bravo hold up for public scrutiny? The answer to all these questions is Teresa.
With Andy Cohen and a biased executive producer (Cat Rodriguez) paving the way, the cast made sure to cast suspicion on Joe Giudice’s marital fidelity throughout season 4, plus Bravo aired the mystery phone call in Napa, which was an innocent call (or series of calls spliced together) made to look like Joe was cheating on Teresa.
“The call was 100% innocent. He called Teresa a c*** because he didn’t want to be there filming, and was taking it out on her. He had a legal mess at home he needed to deal with but was contractually obligated to be there.” – RHONJ Production Supervisor Reveals Details About Dina Manzo, the Gorgas, the Christening, Editing, and the Mystery Phone Call
Melissa is not the victim. Her marriage has not suffered — she still has total control over her husband (even telling him what to say… “Say ‘shame on you’ to your sister; just do it!’”). During season 4, Melissa and her husband setup Teresa to support their storyline that “Teresa is trying to destroy our marriage”:
- Joe and Melissa kicked off season 4 by bringing up on camera a rumor about Melissa leaving Joe for a richer man, which Teresa told her brother months earlier in a private conversation between siblings off camera (in response to his allegations that Teresa’s husband was cheating on her). The scene between Melissa and Joe was staged and faked: both of them pretended that Joe was telling Melissa this story for the first time — it was them not Teresa who blast that rumor to the world.
- With Bravo’s and Jacqueline’s help, Melissa convinced her husband that Teresa set her up to expose her stripper past, which resulted in Joe texting his sister, “Your dead to me”, and not speaking to her since September 27, 2011 — over a year ago and still counting. [Joe knew Melissa danced in the past -- he used to visit her at Lookers -- he and Melissa faked the phone call after she forced Teresa to tell her at the Posche Fashion Show what Angelo said about her; Joe lied during the fake call and said, "You never danced; you won't even dance for me."]
There have been no holiday gatherings or birthday parties for the senior Gorgas with all their grandchildren and their only two children present. Joe and Melissa didn’t even spend the day with Joe’s father on his birthday like the Giudices did. Joe and Melissa didn’t send birthday wishes or attend birthday parties thrown for the Giudice children (except for Melissa’s brief appearance at Gia’s and Milania’s joint birthday party in January 2012, where afterward, as a ‘secret source’, she bashed Teresa and Gia in a tabloid). Joe and Melissa usually don’t throw birthday parties for their own children, but when they do, they don’t invite the Giudices. The senior Gorga’s grandchildren will not grow up together, sharing family trips, birthdays or holidays.
Melissa’s relationships with her side of the family are in tact. Melissa and her children spend plenty of time with her side of the family (Melissa’s sister Lysa takes care of their children as she and Joe travel to clubs and other appearances), and they get to share holidays and other celebrations with them too.
To top it off, Melissa has gained Teresa’s friends and Teresa’s cousins as friends too (at least for the cameras). The only thing destroyed for Melissa is her relationship with her in-laws, but that is entirely her fault because she’s the one who stalked Bravo producers until they finally cast her (with Danielle’s help), and then, from the first day of taping, dragged the Giudices through the mud in her quest for fame.
Screaming ‘victim’ from the rooftops when she was the perpetrator should have backfired, but she had an executive producer in her pocket and now has Us Weekly as her mouthpiece for spreading lies and innuendo.
“Sweet, innocent, Melissa, you poor victim. I think you were disgusting and vindictive when you contacted Danielle. I can’t stand people like you. I think we need a magazine cover with Danielle on the front and on the inside all the e-mails you sent her. Because we don’t know for sure if Teresa set you up, but we know you contacted Danielle and fed her information about Teresa and her family. Who does that? Who?????? How about Bravo showing your audition tape. I have read that you said you wanted to be on the show so you could take Teresa down. I don’t buy this story you’re trying to sell. I’m not going to buy any of your God-awful music, and I’m not buying any magazine with your plastic face on it. I think Bravo is going to lose a lot of viewers if they aren’t careful. This season has pissed a lot of people off!” – bug, September 21, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Melissa, you are no victim. You are the aggressor. Stop portraying yourself as being so innocent. Quit while you are ahead. Stop bashing your SIL in public, because the public don’t like what you are doing and as a result, the public is trying to destroy you, not Teresa.” – Fuzziesgirl4, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“You are so boring with out having Teresa to talk about. You needed her to make you relevant. You love the attention. I like the show better when you weren’t there. You wanted to get on the show for years and was mad at Teresa because she wouldn’t include you in the filming. You hijacked a good show and created drama to make yourself a star. I hope you are proud.” – KatDelro, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“You can’t sing, you are a J-Lo wanna be, and you are a hypocrite! How much do you get paid for your magazines? And how much of it is actually from your mouth and how much of it is from whatever the magazines wanted to put in there? You are a MASTER MANIPULATOR and you LOVE that YOU tore Joe away from his family……I loved you and your new beasties in your red devil dresses on the front of the magazine………pathetic!” – N.hunter1, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“It was mentioned on Entertainment Tonight that Teresa is the highest paid ‘housewife’ on the New Jersey show of Real Housewives. Hmmmmm….motive enough for all the jealousy?? I think the answer to that question is a very LOUD yes!! There you go…all of you anti Teresa fans who have repeatedly asked why the other castmates are jealous of Teresa. It’s the status and paycheck….Teresa is the star…and that’s a huge bitter pill for the others to swallow.” – murphy1, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Nothing about Melissa is real. From her victim ‘character’ on the show to her auto-tuned singing.” – Viewer.n.miami, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Who is ‘the victim’ in all of this? Melissa was in a dysfunctional family situation and decided she was better than Teresa and deserved a ‘special’ spot on a television show. After many, many attempts, she and her disgusting husband ‘promised’ to bring Teresa down so she could show the world just how talented and evil he truly is. If she were the ‘real deal’, Melissa Gorga would have been chosen in the first place. Without Teresa to trash, what storyline is left for her? Her ‘rockstar’ career? Oh, she can always go back to being a school teacher……if she can remember what school she ‘taught’ at or what college she graduated from. Yep, she’s the real deal.” – bittersweet4, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Why no new blog yet? Because people cannot sympathize with you anymore after the first reunion. I don’t blame Teresa for acting the way she does. Who wouldn’t lash out being attacked all the time. She has it coming from everywhere. You and Kathy just used this show to further your careers. Get off Teresa’s coat tails already.” – justmee, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Poor little Melissa feels like she is the victim of a set up, what a Joke! LOL. Honey you set yourself up at the fashion show and gave Bravo a big dramatic finale. Are you happy now? Hysterical how you were chomping at the bit to start a fight with Teresa during part 1 of the reunion. Gee, didn’t you get enough punches and kicks in during the whole show?! Wiping away that fake tear while Jac and Caro were sobbing over Nicholas was just priceless — have you been taking acting lessons too?! We know what you really are and you are not fooling anyone! LOL.” – Annie003, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
Melissa’s Quotes from Her Bravo Blogs to Support Her Storyline That “Teresa Is Trying to Destroy My Marriage”
Today is my 8-year wedding anniversary to the love of my life. I’m very proud of the family we created together and the bond we have. Marriage is never easy; you constantly have to work on it. I put my all into my marriage and show Joe respect — I respect him as a father and as a husband more than words can say. We are so blessed and I am grateful. He’s truly the love of my life! I’m not going to get into the phone call we saw Joe have. I didn’t like it when Teresa made accusations about my marriage, so I’m not going to do it to hers. They have four daughters that need to be protected from this, so I will leave it to Joe and Teresa to explain it. How they choose to live within their marriage has nothing to do with any of us. I was very upset when I watched the episode, and I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy. We may have our differences, but I would never want this to happen to her. – August 20, 2012 [six days later, on August 26, 2012, she gave an interview to The Huffington Post, where she talked about Teresa’s marriage]
I hope she is going to start having a more positive attitude about my marriage, my music, and my kids, and just stop overanalyzing me and everything I do. It must be draining for her to worry about me all day and worry about how we are living our life. – July 09, 2012
When Teresa asked me about Danielle, I told her the truth. I was wrong, so I apologized and hopefully we have moved past this. She is the one constantly saying to forget about the past and move on. You saw the solstice party episode, right? I forgave and moved on, because she is family. I know I’m never going to get her to totally change the way she treats me, but as long as she backs off my marriage, we can do this. – June 25, 2012
I’ve had multiple chances to talk about her personal issues, the bankruptcy, the marriage rumors, etc. and I don’t. How can she not see that? I’m sorry Teresa has such an issue with me, but it’s time she moves on and gets over it like she said she has. – June 12, 2012
What you will see if you pay attention is that Teresa is trying to take me down every chance she gets. She is attacking my character, my marriage, my looks. What she is claiming is happening to her is quite the opposite. There goes that projection again. Thankfully most of you can see that, and all we can do is pray for her and hope she opens her eyes and takes a look at what’s really important. – June 12, 2012
First, where did these rumors about my marriage with Joe start? That’s the million dollar question. When Teresa was hearing these so-called rumors the show had just started airing and I hadn’t even had a performance yet. – May 08, 2012
I honestly can’t help but feel that she is projecting the issues in her life onto mine. After watching this episode, I think it’s extremely obvious what my sister-in-law is trying to do. The question is why would she do it? Does she think that if my marriage goes badly hers will get better? Does she think that if she puts the negative attention on me then it will not be on her? I’m not sure, but one thing I do know is that it is sad and it’s a shame. I try to be pretty easy in a lot of my blogs and tip toe around Teresa, but this time she is playing with fire. I am woman who loves my husband more than anything in this world. I will bend over backwards for him and my children. She knows that and I think at times she wishes she had more on me. How about just being happy that your brother is happy? You can throw dirt in my face a couple times and I will take it, but DON’T, mess with my family, DON’T mess with my children’s lives, and DON’T mess with my marriage. That is where I will NEVER back down. – May 08, 2012
To this day, Teresa is still trying to justify the rumors and still blames this whole situation on her brother Joey for not keeping their conversation private, but she honestly doesn’t understand that you don’t say something like that to a man about his wife and expect him to just live with it and keep it to himself. A marriage is a partnership and my husband and I tell each other everything, just like Teresa tells her husband everything. How does this blood is thicker than water notion apply to a husband and wife? We have three beautiful children together and are a family. It’s called respect, and I’m not sure Teresa ever will understand that she doesn’t have to like me, but she has to respect my marriage to her brother and keep her “rumors” to herself. – May 08, 2012
Teresa obviously hasn’t learned her lesson because in last week’s blog she continues to talk about the rumors she hears about my marriage. Nothing has changed with her, she is just better at getting others to do and say what she can’t so she looks innocent. That might answer your question as to why we still aren’t speaking. She won’t let up and I don’t know how she can look at herself in the mirror at this point. This is her baby brother’s marriage. All I can do is pray for her, and when she is ready to let up, I will talk to her about it then without an audience. – May 08, 2012
I am not even sure why she is apologizing publicly for not supporting my music, when that was NEVER an issue. The issue is what she says about my marriage and my loyalty to my husband. I have been clear about that, and you will see it addressed in next week’s episode. – April 30, 2012
We had plans to go down the shore and meet up with Teresa and Kathy on the beach with the kids. Once again I decided I was going to let it go. It doesn’t affect our marriage because it has no truth so I wasn’t going to ruin this for my kids or Joe, because we were all supposed to have a nice weekend together. I really am trying to forget about it. Was it easy? Of course not, but I try like hell to keep it from bothering me. – April 23, 2012
Melissa, a Victim, I Think Not; She Would Be Correctly Referred to as a ‘User’
By isolde, Guest Blogger
October 7, 2012
Melissa yells at Teresa in part 2 of the Season 4 Reunion Special, that she does not get to sit there and act like she is a victim; that it is her, Melissa, who is the victim, and that Teresa should get it straight!