Melissa Gorga Screams at Teresa Giudice (Who Never Claimed to be a Victim): ‘You Don’t Get to Play Victim Here! I’m the Victim! Get It Straight!’
October 7, 2012 293 Comments
“Melissa is a really good actress. I was on the show two years before she came on. She came on the show behind my back. I think she’s very calculating, very contrived, and knows what she’s doing. I know from knowing her eight years now that what you see on this show is not the real Melissa. Eventually everyone’s true colors come out. One day maybe eventually maybe you guys will see that. She plays the victim role really well.” – Teresa Giudice’s response when asked by RumorFix’s correspondent the Real Mr. Housewife, ‘What’s the biggest misconception about Melissa?’
“Hello! She attends every single party that’s out there. That’s not me. I have a family, I have four daughters, I hardly go to parties because I have four daughters to take care of. I’m not out there half as much as she is out there.” – Teresa Giudice’s response to RumorFix’s correspondent the Real Mr. Housewife, when asked if she thinks Melissa wants to be a celebrity.
Reunion 4 Video: Caroline Manzo tells Teresa Giudice that she will be alone due to her attitude and what she’s already done; Melissa accuses Teresa of bashing her husband and her marriage all season long:
“Teresa said I don’t act like a Gorga, but the truth is I’m not a Gorga! I’m a Marco and very proud of it!” – Melissa Gorga, July 25, 2011, ‘A Perfect Christmas’
Melissa is Not a Victim
Whose family has been destroyed? Whose relationships have been destroyed? Whose marriage did Bravo hold up for public scrutiny? The answer to all these questions is Teresa.
With Andy Cohen and a biased executive producer (Cat Rodriguez) paving the way, the cast made sure to cast suspicion on Joe Giudice’s marital fidelity throughout season 4, plus Bravo aired the mystery phone call in Napa, which was an innocent call (or series of calls spliced together) made to look like Joe was cheating on Teresa.
“The call was 100% innocent. He called Teresa a c*** because he didn’t want to be there filming, and was taking it out on her. He had a legal mess at home he needed to deal with but was contractually obligated to be there.” – RHONJ Production Supervisor Reveals Details About Dina Manzo, the Gorgas, the Christening, Editing, and the Mystery Phone Call
Melissa is not the victim. Her marriage has not suffered — she still has total control over her husband (even telling him what to say… “Say ‘shame on you’ to your sister; just do it!’”). During season 4, Melissa and her husband setup Teresa to support their storyline that “Teresa is trying to destroy our marriage”:
- Joe and Melissa kicked off season 4 by bringing up on camera a rumor about Melissa leaving Joe for a richer man, which Teresa told her brother months earlier in a private conversation between siblings off camera (in response to his allegations that Teresa’s husband was cheating on her). The scene between Melissa and Joe was staged and faked: both of them pretended that Joe was telling Melissa this story for the first time — it was them not Teresa who blast that rumor to the world.
- With Bravo’s and Jacqueline’s help, Melissa convinced her husband that Teresa set her up to expose her stripper past, which resulted in Joe texting his sister, “Your dead to me”, and not speaking to her since September 27, 2011 — over a year ago and still counting. [Joe knew Melissa danced in the past -- he used to visit her at Lookers -- he and Melissa faked the phone call after she forced Teresa to tell her at the Posche Fashion Show what Angelo said about her; Joe lied during the fake call and said, "You never danced; you won't even dance for me."]
There have been no holiday gatherings or birthday parties for the senior Gorgas with all their grandchildren and their only two children present. Joe and Melissa didn’t even spend the day with Joe’s father on his birthday like the Giudices did. Joe and Melissa didn’t send birthday wishes or attend birthday parties thrown for the Giudice children (except for Melissa’s brief appearance at Gia’s and Milania’s joint birthday party in January 2012, where afterward, as a ‘secret source’, she bashed Teresa and Gia in a tabloid). Joe and Melissa usually don’t throw birthday parties for their own children, but when they do, they don’t invite the Giudices. The senior Gorga’s grandchildren will not grow up together, sharing family trips, birthdays or holidays.
Melissa’s relationships with her side of the family are in tact. Melissa and her children spend plenty of time with her side of the family (Melissa’s sister Lysa takes care of their children as she and Joe travel to clubs and other appearances), and they get to share holidays and other celebrations with them too.
To top it off, Melissa has gained Teresa’s friends and Teresa’s cousins as friends too (at least for the cameras). The only thing destroyed for Melissa is her relationship with her in-laws, but that is entirely her fault because she’s the one who stalked Bravo producers until they finally cast her (with Danielle’s help), and then, from the first day of taping, dragged the Giudices through the mud in her quest for fame.
Screaming ‘victim’ from the rooftops when she was the perpetrator should have backfired, but she had an executive producer in her pocket and now has Us Weekly as her mouthpiece for spreading lies and innuendo.
“Sweet, innocent, Melissa, you poor victim. I think you were disgusting and vindictive when you contacted Danielle. I can’t stand people like you. I think we need a magazine cover with Danielle on the front and on the inside all the e-mails you sent her. Because we don’t know for sure if Teresa set you up, but we know you contacted Danielle and fed her information about Teresa and her family. Who does that? Who?????? How about Bravo showing your audition tape. I have read that you said you wanted to be on the show so you could take Teresa down. I don’t buy this story you’re trying to sell. I’m not going to buy any of your God-awful music, and I’m not buying any magazine with your plastic face on it. I think Bravo is going to lose a lot of viewers if they aren’t careful. This season has pissed a lot of people off!” – bug, September 21, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Melissa, you are no victim. You are the aggressor. Stop portraying yourself as being so innocent. Quit while you are ahead. Stop bashing your SIL in public, because the public don’t like what you are doing and as a result, the public is trying to destroy you, not Teresa.” – Fuzziesgirl4, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“You are so boring with out having Teresa to talk about. You needed her to make you relevant. You love the attention. I like the show better when you weren’t there. You wanted to get on the show for years and was mad at Teresa because she wouldn’t include you in the filming. You hijacked a good show and created drama to make yourself a star. I hope you are proud.” – KatDelro, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“You can’t sing, you are a J-Lo wanna be, and you are a hypocrite! How much do you get paid for your magazines? And how much of it is actually from your mouth and how much of it is from whatever the magazines wanted to put in there? You are a MASTER MANIPULATOR and you LOVE that YOU tore Joe away from his family……I loved you and your new beasties in your red devil dresses on the front of the magazine………pathetic!” – N.hunter1, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“It was mentioned on Entertainment Tonight that Teresa is the highest paid ‘housewife’ on the New Jersey show of Real Housewives. Hmmmmm….motive enough for all the jealousy?? I think the answer to that question is a very LOUD yes!! There you go…all of you anti Teresa fans who have repeatedly asked why the other castmates are jealous of Teresa. It’s the status and paycheck….Teresa is the star…and that’s a huge bitter pill for the others to swallow.” – murphy1, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Nothing about Melissa is real. From her victim ‘character’ on the show to her auto-tuned singing.” – Viewer.n.miami, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Who is ‘the victim’ in all of this? Melissa was in a dysfunctional family situation and decided she was better than Teresa and deserved a ‘special’ spot on a television show. After many, many attempts, she and her disgusting husband ‘promised’ to bring Teresa down so she could show the world just how talented and evil he truly is. If she were the ‘real deal’, Melissa Gorga would have been chosen in the first place. Without Teresa to trash, what storyline is left for her? Her ‘rockstar’ career? Oh, she can always go back to being a school teacher……if she can remember what school she ‘taught’ at or what college she graduated from. Yep, she’s the real deal.” – bittersweet4, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Why no new blog yet? Because people cannot sympathize with you anymore after the first reunion. I don’t blame Teresa for acting the way she does. Who wouldn’t lash out being attacked all the time. She has it coming from everywhere. You and Kathy just used this show to further your careers. Get off Teresa’s coat tails already.” – justmee, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
“Poor little Melissa feels like she is the victim of a set up, what a Joke! LOL. Honey you set yourself up at the fashion show and gave Bravo a big dramatic finale. Are you happy now? Hysterical how you were chomping at the bit to start a fight with Teresa during part 1 of the reunion. Gee, didn’t you get enough punches and kicks in during the whole show?! Wiping away that fake tear while Jac and Caro were sobbing over Nicholas was just priceless — have you been taking acting lessons too?! We know what you really are and you are not fooling anyone! LOL.” – Annie003, October 6, 2012, Melissa’s Bravo Blog
Melissa’s Quotes from Her Bravo Blogs to Support Her Storyline That “Teresa Is Trying to Destroy My Marriage”
Today is my 8-year wedding anniversary to the love of my life. I’m very proud of the family we created together and the bond we have. Marriage is never easy; you constantly have to work on it. I put my all into my marriage and show Joe respect — I respect him as a father and as a husband more than words can say. We are so blessed and I am grateful. He’s truly the love of my life! I’m not going to get into the phone call we saw Joe have. I didn’t like it when Teresa made accusations about my marriage, so I’m not going to do it to hers. They have four daughters that need to be protected from this, so I will leave it to Joe and Teresa to explain it. How they choose to live within their marriage has nothing to do with any of us. I was very upset when I watched the episode, and I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy. We may have our differences, but I would never want this to happen to her. – August 20, 2012 [six days later, on August 26, 2012, she gave an interview to The Huffington Post, where she talked about Teresa’s marriage]
I hope she is going to start having a more positive attitude about my marriage, my music, and my kids, and just stop overanalyzing me and everything I do. It must be draining for her to worry about me all day and worry about how we are living our life. – July 09, 2012
When Teresa asked me about Danielle, I told her the truth. I was wrong, so I apologized and hopefully we have moved past this. She is the one constantly saying to forget about the past and move on. You saw the solstice party episode, right? I forgave and moved on, because she is family. I know I’m never going to get her to totally change the way she treats me, but as long as she backs off my marriage, we can do this. – June 25, 2012
I’ve had multiple chances to talk about her personal issues, the bankruptcy, the marriage rumors, etc. and I don’t. How can she not see that? I’m sorry Teresa has such an issue with me, but it’s time she moves on and gets over it like she said she has. – June 12, 2012
What you will see if you pay attention is that Teresa is trying to take me down every chance she gets. She is attacking my character, my marriage, my looks. What she is claiming is happening to her is quite the opposite. There goes that projection again. Thankfully most of you can see that, and all we can do is pray for her and hope she opens her eyes and takes a look at what’s really important. – June 12, 2012
First, where did these rumors about my marriage with Joe start? That’s the million dollar question. When Teresa was hearing these so-called rumors the show had just started airing and I hadn’t even had a performance yet. – May 08, 2012
I honestly can’t help but feel that she is projecting the issues in her life onto mine. After watching this episode, I think it’s extremely obvious what my sister-in-law is trying to do. The question is why would she do it? Does she think that if my marriage goes badly hers will get better? Does she think that if she puts the negative attention on me then it will not be on her? I’m not sure, but one thing I do know is that it is sad and it’s a shame. I try to be pretty easy in a lot of my blogs and tip toe around Teresa, but this time she is playing with fire. I am woman who loves my husband more than anything in this world. I will bend over backwards for him and my children. She knows that and I think at times she wishes she had more on me. How about just being happy that your brother is happy? You can throw dirt in my face a couple times and I will take it, but DON’T, mess with my family, DON’T mess with my children’s lives, and DON’T mess with my marriage. That is where I will NEVER back down. – May 08, 2012
To this day, Teresa is still trying to justify the rumors and still blames this whole situation on her brother Joey for not keeping their conversation private, but she honestly doesn’t understand that you don’t say something like that to a man about his wife and expect him to just live with it and keep it to himself. A marriage is a partnership and my husband and I tell each other everything, just like Teresa tells her husband everything. How does this blood is thicker than water notion apply to a husband and wife? We have three beautiful children together and are a family. It’s called respect, and I’m not sure Teresa ever will understand that she doesn’t have to like me, but she has to respect my marriage to her brother and keep her “rumors” to herself. – May 08, 2012
Teresa obviously hasn’t learned her lesson because in last week’s blog she continues to talk about the rumors she hears about my marriage. Nothing has changed with her, she is just better at getting others to do and say what she can’t so she looks innocent. That might answer your question as to why we still aren’t speaking. She won’t let up and I don’t know how she can look at herself in the mirror at this point. This is her baby brother’s marriage. All I can do is pray for her, and when she is ready to let up, I will talk to her about it then without an audience. – May 08, 2012
I am not even sure why she is apologizing publicly for not supporting my music, when that was NEVER an issue. The issue is what she says about my marriage and my loyalty to my husband. I have been clear about that, and you will see it addressed in next week’s episode. – April 30, 2012
We had plans to go down the shore and meet up with Teresa and Kathy on the beach with the kids. Once again I decided I was going to let it go. It doesn’t affect our marriage because it has no truth so I wasn’t going to ruin this for my kids or Joe, because we were all supposed to have a nice weekend together. I really am trying to forget about it. Was it easy? Of course not, but I try like hell to keep it from bothering me. – April 23, 2012
Melissa, a Victim, I Think Not; She Would Be Correctly Referred to as a ‘User’
By isolde, Guest Blogger
October 7, 2012
Melissa yells at Teresa in part 2 of the Season 4 Reunion Special, that she does not get to sit there and act like she is a victim; that it is her, Melissa, who is the victim, and that Teresa should get it straight!
Teresa, even though ganged up on at the Season 3 reunion show, all during Season 4, and now again at the Season 4 reunion, has never claimed to be a victim. Quite the opposite, in fact: Teresa tells the other women, “to bring it on bitches”. So, while Teresa might realize she is being ganged up on, and is hurt by it, she takes it in stride, puts on a strong face, doesn’t resort to crying, but stands her ground. She has never acted like, nor claimed to be, a victim.
Along comes Melissa, who claims to be the victim in part 2 of the Season 4 reunion show. She is basing this on the fact that she was set up at the Posche Fashion Show to be outed as a dancer. Meantime, she is still denying that she ever was a dancer at the Lookers Gentlemen’s Club, but was a bartender. If you were never a dancer, then you cannot be set up to be outed as a dancer. Melissa claims that Teresa is the one who set her up, even though the footage clearly shows that Teresa was caught by surprise at the salon, when Angelo Vrohidis started talking about knowing Melissa. It is clearly Kim D who asks all the questions about Melissa, and her dancing career, while an upset Teresa left the room because she did not want to hear Kim D or Angelo speak about her family.
The claim that this was a set up comes from Jacqueline, who says that she was being texted by a friend that Melissa was being set up by Angelo, and that Teresa was aware of, and responsible for the set up. She claims that Angelo said he was going to embarrass Melissa by outing her as a former employee of his at the Lookers club. However, when Angelo approached the table, he only asked Melissa if she remembered him, and that it was nice to see her, and talked about the fashion show. Even though Teresa had met him earlier that day, she was mortified when he approached the table, and did not want to make a scene, because she did not want anything revealed about Melissa at the fashion show. Melissa and Teresa did discuss Angelo and what he was claiming, in the bathroom, at Melissa’s insistence for Teresa “to talk”. Teresa stated that she did not believe what he was saying, and that the two of them should confront Angelo, and tell him to shut up. Melissa did not want to, but Teresa did go looking for him, but he had already left. By this time, all the women were texting one another and knew what was going on, but didn’t say anything to Teresa. Jacqueline and Caroline showed Melissa the texts, and Jacqueline told Melissa that it was Teresa who set her up. This caused an argument with all the women involved, and Joe Gorga and his sister, Teresa. They have not spoken in a year.
Melissa calls herself a victim, but I fail to see it. Even though viewers realize that she is lying about her past, irreparable damage has not been done to her reputation. It is Teresa’s reputation that has been tarnished from a year ago, because Jacqueline leaked information last September — a whole year before the footage was aired. Teresa could not properly defend herself against the accusations because of the confidentiality agreements regarding upcoming shows. Jacqueline breached the confidentiality, causing Teresa to be trashed and called names on Twitter, an entire year before the episodes were aired. Since, the viewers did not see the show, and went only by what Jacqueline, Melissa and others were putting out there, it was assumed that they were telling the truth. Teresa honored her contract with Bravo, and did not reveal any story lines to the show.
So, it has been a poor Melissa act for a year, with the cast slamming Teresa in various media outlets, presenting her as a villain out to get her sister-in-law. When, in fact, we now see that it was not Teresa who set up Melissa. In fact, Teresa was set up to take the fall.
All the players, Angelo Vrohidis, Kim D., Johnny and Penny Karagiorgis, have all denied that Teresa had any involvement but that hasn’t stopped the cast from blaming her. We also now know that the producers were involved in the set up, and tried to make Teresa the villain, and have since been fired by Bravo.
Editing was skewed to portray the Giudices in a bad light. Scenes were shown out of sequence to portray a certain story, which was not the “real truth”. It has been proven that the Manzos and the Gorgas had close ties to the producers.
This was not a reality show that was unscripted, but was a show scripted to the detriment of the Giudices with the full participation of the Manzos, Lauritas, Wakiles and Gorgas, with the help from biased producers who apparently hate the Giudices. The only one that was not aware of what was going on was Teresa and her family — they were filming a reality show and portraying their real lives; they were not acting for the cameras like Melissa in almost every scene. Now we have Jacqueline and Melissa conjuring up lies and using each other to back them up.
We never heard Teresa speak ill of her family during the first two seasons. It has been reported that Melissa and Joe Gorga and the Wakiles were invited to Teresa’s parties during Seasons 1 and 2 of the RHONJ. Bravo edited them out of the footage, and they were not shown on the show. Rumors were plentiful that the Gorgas repeatedly approached the producers to put them on the show, but Bravo refused (it was also said that they made fun of the Gorgas and their behavior).
Meanwhile, Teresa was becoming the most popular and successful housewife on the show. We now know that Melissa and Danielle Staub were in contact with one another during Season 2, and Melissa was feeding information and lies to Danielle. The Gorgas wanted to film with Danielle in order to be featured on the show and to “expose” Teresa. Danielle Staub refused, because she was worried that she was being set up. However, Danielle did confront Teresa with lies provided by Melissa, with the most prominent one being that Teresa did not acknowledge the birth of her son, Joey. When Danielle asked Teresa about that on the Season 2 reunion, Teresa’s reaction was over the top, and we all know what happened in that confrontation. Teresa was adamant about Danielle, “not bringing up her family”, and she wanted to know who Danielle had been talking to. We now know that it was Melissa and Joe Gorga, and that it was a lie, that Teresa did in fact, acknowledge her nephew. The Gorgas appealed to the Bravo executives once again, and told them that they would bring the drama, and take Teresa “down”. Bravo interviewed and cast the Gorgas and the Wakiles — it was Andy Cohen who informed Teresa, once the deal was done.
From episode 1 of season 3 of the RHONJ, the Gorgas did bring the drama, by starting an argument with Teresa Giudice, her brother calling her “garbage”, and telling her to walk away. All of this was egged on by Melissa and her family. Teresa’s husband, Joe, defending his wife, entered into the argument, and an all out brawl ensued. A baby’s christening ruined, a family more divided, and why? Jealousy over popularity, and the need to come out swinging, hoping to take the spotlight away from Teresa.
Was Melissa a victim in that situation? Absolutely not: she got what she wanted. She got onto the show her sister-in-law had been on for two seasons, and the bashing of Teresa started out of the gate. We watched, for all of season 3, the Gorgas and the Wakiles talk badly about the Giudices, name call, blame Teresa for everything, and try to act like they just wanted the family and Teresa back the way it used to be. We saw the Gorga and Giudice children loving being together, but it wasn’t happening because of the fights or the insults. We saw Melissa Gorga launching her “singing career” and Kathy Wakile showing off her talent for baking.
Were they victims when they got the opportunity to display their alleged talents, or were they afforded this opportunity because they came onto a show that Teresa had helped to make popular?
Everything became a competition because of their jealousy of Teresa’s success. The Gorgas and the Wakiles did not care if they aired the family’s dirty laundry on national television. Until season 3, Teresa tried to keep family matters private, and her own problems private. It was the Gorgas and the Wakiles who were willing to discuss Teresa’s personal problems in order to make Teresa look bad.
Teresa was clearly strained and tense during season 3, due to the family tension; however, we saw her make many attempts to reconcile with her brother and fix their relationship. Teresa was caught between her husband and her brother, because after the insults and brawl at the christening, Teresa said that her husband “was done”. He was tired of Teresa being insulted, bashed and blamed.
Was Melissa a victim then, when she had her husband wrapped around her finger, doing and saying anything and everything to Teresa?
Between seasons 3 and 4 of the show, the Gorgas and Wakiles put on a good act with the other cast members. By season 4, it was clear that the Manzos and Lauritas had made a conscious decision to destroy the credibility and reputation of the Giudices. Since there was discord between the Giudices and the Gorgas, the Manzos and Lauritas used this to their advantage. It became a four-on-one situation. Everyone began to attack the Giudices, and bring up their legal and financial issues on the show, and add their negative commentary.
To date, we really don’t know why the Manzos and the Lauritas are angry with Teresa. They claimed it was comments in her cookbook, comments in magazines, her not confiding her personal business to them, not being a good friend, and interfering in their family relationships. Most of those excuses have either been denied, proven untrue, or said not to be the real reason for turning on the Giudices.
However, the Manzos/Lauritas and the Gorga/Wakiles used this mutual envy of Teresa’s success, and their dislike, to their advantage to trash the Giudices on television, in interviews and on social media. It was as if the cast had a meeting and said this is the agenda, and this is the script and we are all sticking to it (or sticking it to the Giudices).
Meantime, if Teresa apologized, she was not sincere, she was stepping on family for fame, etc. Teresa could not catch a break from anyone. Even the producers of the show befriended everyone in the cast except for the Giudices, and the editing became skewed to show Teresa and her husband negatively.
Again, who was a victim? Melissa? She was getting exactly what she wanted: she had Teresa’s friends on her side, she had the producers on her side, and she was driving a deeper wedge between Teresa and everyone around her. Melissa now has it made because Caroline has completely turned on Teresa — Teresa is garbage, she is a disgrace, she is a liar, she is only an acquaintance now, they were never friends.
As Teresa said, the Manzos and Lauritas “had jumped ship”, and were now friends with the Gorgas and the Wakiles. Teresa was once again a victim of Melissa’s lie and conniving.
The end of season 4 is now upon us, and there are rumors of a set up to be played out at the Posche Fashion Show. Jacqueline is receiving texts (although she has now revealed that she was speaking to and recording Kim D for a week prior to the fashion show), stating that Teresa is setting up Melissa to expose her past as a “dancer”.
Melissa was never accused of being a dancer on camera at the fashion show. Conversations that took place regarding Melissa being a dancer took place in a salon, prior to the fashion show, with Teresa walking away. Teresa told Angelo that she did not want him to speak of her family, and did not know he would be attending the fashion show.
Melissa was the victim of nothing. Jacqueline was the one who cried set up, and Melissa made the issue a bigger deal by calling her husband to come to the show. Most people would not have been aware of what was going on, if not for the actions of the cast, except for Teresa. Clearly, we now know that the producers of the show were texting, intervened, and edited the fashion show footage to make it look damaging to Teresa.
In my opinion, and Teresa now sees this, she was the one who was set up by family and former friends to take the fall for someone trying to set up Melissa. The cast has run with this story for a year, and although Teresa has denied (others have also verified) involvement, she has been vilified by the cast and the media.
It is a joke that Melissa claims to be a victim. She has victimized Teresa since Teresa got on the RHONJ show. In 2008, she was blogging negative comments about Teresa and her marriage. In season 2, Melissa went to Danielle Staub and fed her lies so that she could attack Teresa with this information. Melissa came onto RHONJ in season 3, a show that she was dying to get on, even though there was already family tension (according to Melissa, she hated Teresa). You don’t go on a show with someone you profess to hate, unless you have ulterior motives.
We have seen those motives play out on television for two seasons. We, the viewers, have been disgusted at all the hatefulness, deceit and back stabbing that has taken place on this show. There is nothing entertaining about a family being torn apart, and grown women and men displaying such immature and hateful behavior.
Teresa, to her credit, does not say she is a victim and has not acted like a victim — but she has been victimized by the envy and greed of her former friends and her family. Melissa, in particular, has used Teresa’s success to get onto the show, and then defame the very woman whose coattails she is riding. Melissa has used this set up of Teresa to keep her name relevant and to try to garner sympathy for herself. All of her interviews, and now magazine covers and articles, are all about bashing Teresa Giudice.
Melissa, a victim, I think not. She would be correctly referred to as a “user”. Melissa has used Teresa, her husband’s family, the producers and the show to gain her so called “celebrity” status. When Kim D invited her to the Posche Fashion Show in 2011, Melissa said, “I must be the biggest celebrity she knows now”. That said it all.